How to Deal With an Annoying Boy

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Is a boy annoying you? Thankfully, there are ways to stop his behavior. You could ignore him or ask him why he is bothering you. He might not realize you are annoyed. On the other hand, if he is harassing you or causing you distress, immediately tell a teacher or parent. Harassment is not something to ignore.

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For example, write down what he is doing that makes you frustrated. Some of his behaviors could hurt your feelings. For example, does he call you names? Other behaviors might be pesky but are not hurting you. For instance, does he constantly ask you to do things with him? For either type of behavior, there are ways to help.
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Identify whether his behavior constitutes harassment. Harassment is when someone behaves in a way that makes you feel distressed, humiliated, and/or threatened. ^{[1]
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Expert Interview.} Examples of harassment include unwanted phone calls, text messages, letters, emails or visits. Stalking, verbal abuse and threats, and using animals to frighten you are also forms of harassment.
- If the boy is harassing you, physically hurting you in any way (e.g. pulling your hair, throwing things at you), or making you feel badly about yourself, tell a trusted adult immediately. If no adult is available and you feel in danger, call the police.
- Peer-on-peer harassment that is related to your race or disability is illegal. Sexual harassment is also against the law. You should discuss these forms of harassment with a teacher immediately.
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Has he only annoyed you once? Is he teasing you constantly? If the behavior is ongoing and causing you distress, seek help from an adult. ^{[2]
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Expert Interview. 18 December 2020.} Repeated harassment can lead to depression and anxiety, losing sleep, and lower grades at school. ^{[3]
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Think about the reasons. The boy could be trying to hurt your feelings. He could be jealous of you. He also might want to be your friend. Although it seems odd that he would annoy you for that reason, perhaps he does not know how to approach you. If he is your brother, he might miss spending time with you. Some boys also think making fun of you is funny. They expect that you will find their behavior to be a good joke. ^{[4]
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Research source} Ask yourself these questions:
- Do I want to be his friend? If so, think about ways to interact with him more positively.
- Is he mean to other people around me? If he is mean to others or annoys them intentionally, he might be a bully. In this case, talking to your teacher is a good idea.
- Has your relationship changed? This is often the case with little brothers. Did you use to spend time with him? Have you stopped now? Could he be feeling left out?
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Talk to the boy. If you feel safe doing so, ask the boy why he is bothering you. Maybe he does not realize he is annoying you. Then you can ask him nicely to change his behavior. If he wants to be around you all the time, tell him politely that you are not interested in his company. Be kind but firm. If he is unwilling to speak to you, talk to a teacher or another adult about his behavior. ^{[5]
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- For example, in dealing with a pesky boy, you could say: "Hi, Dylan. Why are you always throwing paper balls at me? It distracts me from doing my homework. Please stop. If you need something from me, please ask me nicely."
- If there is a boy who wants to be your friend but you don't like him, you could say: "Hi, William. I appreciate the fact that you want to hang out with me. I think you are a nice person but our interests don't match well. Please stop calling my house every day."
- If the boy is your brother, he likely looks up to you. You and he will have a relationship the rest of your lives. Schedule time to hang out on a specific day. Ask him, though, to respect your need for time alone or with your friends. By showing him you care, he will less likely annoy you at other times. You could say, "Hi, Logan. I love you very much. I need some time alone, though. Can we plan to take a bike ride on Saturday morning?"
- You do not have to play or be friends with anyone. You are free to choose your friends and others must respect that.

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If you have tried talking to the boy and he will not stop his behavior, ignore him. Unless his actions are hurting you or causing you distress, this can be a good alternative. If you no longer react to his behavior, he might stop.
Perhaps your friend has an idea as to why the boy bugs you. He or she might be able to talk to the boy for you. Your friend also can stand up for you to the boy. If the boy sees that others recognize his behavior, he might be more willing to stop. In this case, positive peer pressure can be effective.
If the boy's behavior is bothering you, tell a trusted adult. Your teacher or parent can help you find a solution. ^{[6]
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Many children who are annoyed or harassed by others blame themselves. They think they have an internal defect that causes others to bully them. Perhaps they are shy or less likely to fight back. That does not make being picked on right. ^{[7]
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There are friends, family members, and teachers available to help you. Additionally, forty to eighty percent of U.S. school-age children experience peer harassment at some stage. Because of this, counselors are well-equipped to help children handle these struggles.
When facing an annoying boy, it's a good idea to surround yourself with friends. ^{[8]
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Expert Interview. 18 December 2020.} They can take your mind off the boy. They also can act as a buffer system between you and him. ^{[9]
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Be aware of your behavior. Now that you know how it feels to be annoyed, be aware of your own actions. Never harass anyone for any reason. ^{[10]
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Try and ignore them, and hopefully the boy will get bored.

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If he sings a really annoying song all of the time, drown him out by singing, talking or banging. However, make sure the teacher doesn't spot what's going on.

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