The Best Deep Questions to Ask a Girl

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Interesting & thought-provoking questions to ask a girl (or anyone you want to get to know better)
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Asking deep, thoughtful questions is a great way to get to know someone better and strengthen your relationship. If you’re hoping to get an awesome convo going with a girl (or anyone, really) look no further. We’ve come up with a list of thought-provoking, interesting, romantic, fun, and creative questions to ask, whether you’re talking to a crush, significant other, or friend, so keep reading!

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Deep & Thought-Provoking Questions to Ask a Girl

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    Whether you’re talking to a crush, significant other, friend, or someone you’ve recently met, asking interesting questions is a great way to grow closer to them . [1] If you’re not sure where to start, don’t worry! Here are some ideas to get you started:
    • Where in the world do you feel the most peaceful or happy?
    • What’s the best gift you’ve ever received, and why did it mean so much to you?
    • If you could relive one treasured memory, which one would you pick?
    • Who do you admire most in your life?
    • What’s the best advice you’ve ever been given?
    • What’s the biggest life lesson you’ve learned, and how did you learn it?
    • What do you think your best quality is?
    • What qualities do you appreciate the most in other people?
    • How do you think the people closest to you would describe you? Do you think it would be different from how you would describe yourself?
    • If you had to list the top 3 things you’re most passionate about, what would they be?
    • If you had to list your top 3 core values, what would they be?
    • Do you believe in ghosts and the supernatural?
    • What scares you the most?
    • Do you believe in luck, fate, or destiny?
    • What’s on your bucket list?
    • When do you feel the most alive, or the most like your true self?
    • Who do you think knows you best in the world?
    • What would your perfect day look like?
    • Do you consider yourself more of an optimist, pessimist, or realist?
    • If you could give your past self one piece of advice, what would it be?
    • If you only had one day left to live, how would you spend it?
    • When you’re sad, what never fails to cheer you up?
    • Is there a life event in your past that you think was a turning point for you?
    • What has been the best year of your life so far? What was so great about it?
    • What excites you the most right now?
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Interesting Personal Questions to Ask a Girl

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    If you’re hoping to deepen your connection with a crush or a new friend, asking questions about her family, hobbies, preferences, and personal history can bring you closer together. [2] Here are some examples of questions to try out:
    • What was your favorite subject in high school or college, and what did you love about it?
    • Did you enjoy growing up in your hometown? What did you like or dislike about it?
    • Who did you feel closest to in your family growing up? Do you still feel closest to this family member now?
    • Are you named after a family member, or is there any story about how your parents chose your name?
    • What did you appreciate most about your parents’ parenting style, and what would you do differently from them if you had kids?
    • If you had to describe your family in one sentence, what would you say?
    • Who in your family gives the best advice?
    • What is your favorite place that you’ve traveled to?
    • What’s the most memorable vacation experience you’ve ever had?
    • What is your favorite way to spend a Saturday?
    • What do you like to do to de-stress?
    • What genre of music do you listen to the most?
    • What are your top 3 favorite movies or TV shows?
    • Which movie makes you laugh the hardest, and which movie always makes you cry?
    • What is the best book you’ve ever read, and what is your favorite book? Are they the same?
    • What’s the best concert you’ve ever been to?
    • What was your most embarrassing moment?
    • Do you like to cook, and if so, what is your favorite dish to make?
    • Do you have a favorite holiday, and if so, are there any childhood traditions from that holiday you want to carry on in your adult life?
    • Did you have a favorite movie, TV show, or book character when you were growing up?
    • Do you have a secret skill or hidden talent?
    • What are you most grateful for in your life?
    • What accomplishment are you most proud of?
    • What is your biggest dream or life goal?
    • What is your current job like, and do you enjoy it? What are your career goals?
    • Do you have a pet? And if not, do you want one?
    • What’s your favorite thing to do with friends?
    • What’s your favorite thing about your best friend?
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Fun & Creative Questions to Ask a Girl

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    If you’re trying to create a fun vibe while hanging out, these creative questions are just what you need! Whether you’re spending time one-on-one with a girl or hanging out in a group, these questions are sure to get a great conversation going .
    • If you could host a dinner party with anyone in the world, living or dead, who would you invite?
    • Which actor would you pick to play you in a movie about your life?
    • Do you think you have a celebrity doppelganger, and if so, who is it?
    • If you could take a 1-day trip to any time in history, what time period would you pick, and why?
    • If you could teleport, where would you go first?
    • If you could find out the truth about one major, famous mystery, which one would you pick?
    • Would you rather only be able to watch one movie for the rest of your life, or only listen to one album for the rest of your life?
    • Depending on what you answered for the previous question, which movie/album would you pick?
    • What songs would be on the official playlist to your life?
    • If you could live in the world of a movie, TV show, or book, which world would you pick?
    • If your life was a sitcom, what would the theme song be?
    • If you were a cartoon character, what would your permanent outfit be?
    • If you could have one magical power or superhero ability, what would it be?
    • If you could only eat one type of food for the rest of your life (sushi, Italian, Thai food, etc), what would you pick?
    • Would you rather only be able to eat breakfast food for the rest of your life, or dinner food?
    • If you won a million dollars, what would you do with it?
    • Which fashion trends from previous decades do you think should make a comeback, and which ones should stay in the past?
    • Who is your celebrity crush?
    • What’s your go-to karaoke song?
    • If you were a cocktail, which one would you be?
    • Do you have a favorite word or phrase?
    • If you could be an animal for the day, what animal would you pick?
    • What’s your favorite photo in your camera roll and why?
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Romantic Questions to Ask Your Girlfriend or Crush

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    Asking deep, romantic questions is a great way to get to know each other better and open up to each other. This builds intimacy and brings you closer together ! [3] Here are some meaningful questions to get you started:
    • Have you ever been in love before? What was that experience like?
    • What is the most important lesson you learned from your most recent relationship?
    • What was the toughest break-up you’ve been through, and how did you get through it?
    • Do you think exes can remain friends?
    • What is the craziest or most interesting online dating experience you’ve ever had?
    • What’s the worst pick-up line you’ve ever heard?
    • Do you have a favorite romcom? What do you like about it?
    • What’s your love language?
    • Do you have a preferred communication style in a relationship?
    • What would the perfect date look like?
    • What’s your favorite restaurant for a dinner date?
    • Do you have a favorite flower, and do you like to receive flowers from a significant other?
    • Do you prefer to address conflict head on, or do you tend to avoid it?
    • What’s your biggest ick or pet-peeve in a partner?
    • What qualities do you find most attractive in another person?
    • Do you have any dating deal-breakers or non-negotiables?
    • What is the most romantic thing you’ve ever experienced?
    • What do you think makes a strong partnership?
    • Do you like surprises on dates, birthdays, or anniversaries? Or do you prefer to be a part of the planning process and know what’s coming?
    • Is there a song that you think of as “our song,” or that reminds you of our relationship?
    • What was your first impression of me?
    • Was there a specific moment that you knew you had feelings for me?
    • What’s your favorite memory that we’ve made together?
    • Do you believe in love at first sight or soul mates?
    • What’s your favorite thing about our relationship, and what’s one thing you think we could do better?
    • How would you describe what it feels like to fall in love?
    • If you could use a crystal ball to peek into our future, what do you think you’d see?
    • What does the ideal future look like for you? Does it involve marriage or kids? What kind of home do we have, and where do we live?

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      1. ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-teen-doctor/201701/15-ways-become-closer-others
      2. ↑ https://ggia.berkeley.edu/practice/36_questions_for_increasing_closeness
      3. ↑ https://psychcentral.com/relationships/creative-curious-questions-to-deepen-your-connection-with-your-partner#why-deep-questions
      4. ↑ https://ggia.berkeley.edu/practice/active_listening

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