Is expecting a text once an hour bad?

WikiNarwhalWatcher458
01/22/25 7:06pm
My SO and I have been dating for a few months and we text a lot since we're apart a lot when we're at work or school or even home because we don't live together. Recently, they're always taking a bit longer to reply. I'd really love to hear from them at leat once every hour, but idk if that would be a bad thing to ask. I don't really think that it's that unreasonable, but I'd love to hear what other people have to say about it.
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WikiBirdWatcher823
01/23/25 4:20pm
Sorry, but I think that's unreasonable. Texting someone every hour takes a lot of effort and will likely interrupt anything your partner is doing (hanging out with friends takes longer than an hour, doing work takes longer than an hour, etc.). I think it'd be more reasonable to expect a text once or twice a day, if you're willing to compromise. A text at least every hour is going to be 16+ texts a day depending on how much your partner sleeps. I understand that you might be anxious or insecure about your relationship but you might want to work on that instead of making your partner text you every hour.
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03/07/25 9:26pm
16 messages a day only?? im not even dating this girl and we send like 100 something messages to each other a day!
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WikiCaribouLeaper699
01/25/25 4:03am
I'm of the belief that people are allowed to want whatever they want in a relationship (excluding abuse and things like that, of course), but asking your partner to text you at least once an hour is kind of a lot. You can of course request that your partner do that, but don't be surprised if there's some pushback. Just like how you're allowed to want what you want, your partner is allowed to set their own boundaries and make their own decisions about if you two are compatible. There are people out there who would be happy to text their partner 100 times a day, and if texting that frequently is important to you then you'll just have to keep looking for someone who is willing to do that for you.
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Otaku kun
02/06/25 11:44pm
I think it's unreasonable, yes. Your SO might not have enough time to talk 24 hours a day. But you definitely should talk to them about it and see what they say!
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WikiGibbonDriver142
01/23/25 12:57pm
I think it really depends on your communication styles and if it's something that really bothers you. Your SO might be busy or they may be thinking of the best way to reply to your message and they just need that extra time. I'd say if you feel like the relationship is healthy and you're still having meaningful conversations, the time between your texts doesn't matter too much.

Also remember, just because your SO might be home doesn't always mean that they're free. They may be chatting with their friends or focusing in on something they're doing. Just be patient and do something else to take your mind off of it while you wait for their reply.
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