So apparently I'm self-obsessed

This discussion is for readers who took the What's Your Red Flag Quiz .
WikiFawnTamer303
11/15/24 4:43pm
My result said that I'm self-obsessed. But so what, is loving yourself really a red flag? It's probably better than most the other options. What did everyone else get?

WikiAxolotlRunner633
11/16/24 7:14am
Oof. Mine says that I'm too independent AKA I have commitment issues. I mean, that makes sense, I guess I just like things done in a specific way. Sometimes I know I get really caught up doing something on my own that I don't ask for help, and I know that's something I can get better at.

I think it's important that you at least recognize that some people think these traits are red flags. If you're aware of it, then it might be easier to catch it in the moment when it upsets someone.
Anonymous WikiLlama
Anonymous WikiLlama
12/17/24 9:20am
That’s so good your independent you can get things done yourself!
Anonymous WikiCapybara
Anonymous WikiCapybara
12/18/24 10:14am
Same I also got that,tbh its true
Anonymous WikiEmu
Anonymous WikiEmu
12/21/24 2:32am
GOT THE SAME THING…ITS JUST BECAUSE I WORK ON A FARM…(I THINK)
WikiAntelopeKeeper764
11/16/24 2:45pm
mine said "You love people (read: can’t be alone)" and it's......probably not wrong, loll. but it's a truth i wouold rather have not uncovered lol
Anonymous WikiBadger
Anonymous WikiBadger
11/23/24 6:36pm
same
Anonymous WikiGiraffe
Anonymous WikiGiraffe
11/24/24 5:16am
same
Anonymous WikiGiraffe
Anonymous WikiGiraffe
12/03/24 9:13am
Samee T^T
Also same, would not have liked to know that since I'm an introvert and was bragging as an idoitic kid that I didn't have any friends and was alone half the time. But yeah. I'm pretty chatty once I get to know people, and I was sooo much more depressed when I was alone so perhaps it's true that I love people, and shouldn't be alone so much..? IDK.
Anonymous WikiOcelot
Anonymous WikiOcelot
12/03/24 7:20pm
Me too
Anonymous WikiFawn
Anonymous WikiFawn
12/05/24 9:42pm
Same I got that
Anonymous WikiFlamingo
Anonymous WikiFlamingo
12/11/24 5:15pm
Sameeeee i do kinda agree tho:>
Saheraisbreathing
12/11/24 5:16pm
Sameeeee but i kinda agree with it :>
BlinkLoverLiliSlay13
12/11/24 8:09pm
bruh same its half true cuz sometimes i need my space
Anonymous WikiLlama
Anonymous WikiLlama
12/17/24 9:20am
That’s good that you love people you’d be an amazing friend family member or just someone known!
WikiValleyRunner845
11/17/24 6:29pm
I think I need to take a chill pill cuz this quiz just called me ruthless. Maybe I'm just a bit more of a workaholic than I like to admit haha
Vian14
11/23/24 6:23pm
omg same! lol. i mean, i love people and all, but sometimes some of my most important work needs to be done first before I take a well-deserved long break
Anonymous WikiCave
Anonymous WikiCave
12/02/24 5:31am
Haha same here! Making my dreams come true brings the most meaning to my life.
Anonymous WikiGlade
Anonymous WikiGlade
12/08/24 10:34pm
Mine says ruthless to, but where I come from that pays out in the end.
WikiCaribouTamer938
11/18/24 11:19am
omg mine also said i'm self-obsessed! this is my worst nightmare for real, lol. i'd rather have "can't be alone" or "commitment issues"" anyday. but i do think you're right OP self-love isn't inherently a red flag, just do what you're doing but maybe pause sometimes to ask if you're loving other people as much as yourself. maybe also ask why your prone to self-love so much--do you feel like you don't get it enough from other people? i think that's why i'm like this honestly
Anonymous WikiMongoose
Anonymous WikiMongoose
12/15/24 7:34pm
Mine 2 lol
My_name_is_Asia
11/22/24 1:42am
dang. it gave me 'You love people (read: can’t be alone).' ๐Ÿ˜ฌ they ain't wrong ๐Ÿ˜…
Anonymous WikiBadger
Anonymous WikiBadger
11/23/24 6:37pm
i also got that, it definentaly is true
Anonymous WikiFlamingo
Anonymous WikiFlamingo
11/22/24 2:10am
Mine said i need to let people in because I'm like Self-reliant and I apparently don't let people in.
Nina Chen Le
11/28/24 8:27pm
Same
Anonymous WikiGopher
Anonymous WikiGopher
11/22/24 8:10am
your ambtious (read: ruthless
Anonymous WikiDolphin
Anonymous WikiDolphin
11/22/24 4:53pm
It said i'm independent( read: commitment issues) untrue... kinda >_<
Anonymous WikiChinchilla
Anonymous WikiChinchilla
11/23/24 4:12am
I am also self-obsessed! But I'm not rly like that
Anonymous WikiPanda
Anonymous WikiPanda
11/25/24 4:25pm
Mine says I'm ambitious.
Anonymous WikiKangaroo
Anonymous WikiKangaroo
11/25/24 6:55pm
Mine is Confident (Self obessed) I dont think I'm self obsessed bruh
Anonymous WikiRiver
Anonymous WikiRiver
11/25/24 10:23pm
This makes sense
Anonymous WikiNarwhal
Anonymous WikiNarwhal
11/26/24 5:29am
mine said that I am way to independent
Anonymous WikiToad
Anonymous WikiToad
11/26/24 8:54pm
I got you love people. That is 1000000% me.
Anonymous WikiFox
Anonymous WikiFox
11/27/24 2:37am
Im apparently obsessed with others... I'm not surprised I just want a partner to make me happy or someone to talk to all the time.. which is probably why I'm commenting on a WikiHow quiz... :0
Anonymous WikiLynx
Anonymous WikiLynx
11/27/24 3:19am
Mine is ruthless
Anonymous WikiNarwhal
Anonymous WikiNarwhal
11/27/24 2:58pm
me too!
Anonymous WikiTiger
Anonymous WikiTiger
11/28/24 4:43pm
same here
Anonymous WikiFerret
Anonymous WikiFerret
11/28/24 7:24pm
Accurate! This is so true. My boyfriend and I aren’t really getting a lot right now. We’ve been together 3 months. I keep making so many mistakes. It’s true. All I think of are my own feelings.
Anonymous WikiFerret
Anonymous WikiFerret
11/28/24 11:26pm
Same
Anonymous WikiFlamingo
Anonymous WikiFlamingo
11/30/24 2:42am
I got that I'm ambitious! I'm actually quite pleased with it honestly--Slytherin all the way!!
Anonymous WikiLoris
Anonymous WikiLoris
12/01/24 2:27am
Same here I have commitment issues but like I have had some life issues.
So I think I get a pass.
EmilyMartin1
12/02/24 11:27pm
mine said I have commitment issues,and that might be true SOMETIMES for like stuff I want/have to do like gaming and school work so yay,commitment issues,great...
Anonymous WikiZebra
Anonymous WikiZebra
12/03/24 1:29am
mine says i cant be alone..... how is that bad
Anonymous WikiKangaroo
Anonymous WikiKangaroo
12/03/24 2:00am
I got you love everyone and that's true I do I'm a very kind person but I also like being by myself.
WikiGladeWhisperer991
12/03/24 8:28pm
mine said I have commitment issues,and that might be true SOMETIMES for like stuff I want/have to do like gaming and school work so yay,commitment issues,great...
WikiCheetahDiver374
12/06/24 2:07pm
Mine says i was independent, which is completly true.
Anonymous WikiGlade
Anonymous WikiGlade
12/08/24 10:33pm
Ambitious, I suppose that describes Me well enough.
Anonymous WikiAxolotl
Anonymous WikiAxolotl
12/09/24 5:14am
I got you love people (read: can't be alone) That is true on a good way I always give people 2nd chances because I just can't help that I love everyone. But the negative thing is my love for "everyone" can get annoying sometimes I want us locked to the hip which my friends have told me before. Like I remember I few yrs ago I could not stand being alone I always had to be with someone or talking to someone and sometimes meant invading their personal life/space. I would call my friends or people I don't even talk anymore at 12:00 am or 3:00 am or 7:00 am just because I didn't want to be alone. Even though people loved that I loved them. The love that I gave them just showed that I was desperate for some type of companionship or something. Because one time I was following my bff the entire day because I didn't want to be lonely she told me "Go get a boyfriend or something" I was hurt but it was true I was clinging on to people and bad. Soon my parents noticed that, so they isolated me from my phone, TV etc. I took that time to realize how lonely I was and at the end of the day I realized sometimes I need time for myself and so do others. So gave people their space and that was when my friendships returned back and I lived a healthier life. I didn't change because of my results because this happened like 2 or 3 years ago I changed because there were times where people just didn't like my presence and it because of my clingyness. This is my story
Anonymous WikiLynx
Anonymous WikiLynx
12/09/24 9:51pm
Mine said that I love my friends too much and that I have a fear of abandonment. Like, Excuse me for loving my friends and family.
Anonymous WikiButterfly
Anonymous WikiButterfly
12/09/24 10:37pm
So I got that I’m self obsessed. I get that I care about myself but when has loving yourself been a crime? I’m not thinking about myself day and night, but I also don’t want to embarrass myself. I also didn’t like how it told me to get on a therapy thing, my mental health is fine, thank you very much, so that was a little offending. If I truly liked the guy I would go out of my way for him, not too busy daydreaming about myself. I know I might be a little preppy and all, but it’s called personality. But thanks for the quiz anyway.
Anonymous WikiEmu
Anonymous WikiEmu
12/10/24 1:24am
It's not bad to love yourself I agree but there are times where you can put yourself in front in the which can be called self obsessed, But the positive word for it is confidence.
Anonymous WikiBird
Anonymous WikiBird
12/10/24 5:24pm
Mine said ruthless but I’m so happy I need to be ambitious to achieve what I want (I’m just not the type of person to maliciously hurt people, I could just care less about others actions)
Anonymous WikiFerret
Anonymous WikiFerret
12/11/24 1:23am
Mine said independent (I don’t need a boy)
BlinkLoverLiliSlay13
12/11/24 8:08pm
Mine is that "i love ppl/ i cant be alone" help
Anonymous WikiFerret
Anonymous WikiFerret
12/12/24 9:47pm
Apparently I love people and can't be alone ( which is true)
Anonymous WikiToad
Anonymous WikiToad
12/14/24 8:43pm
Um I got independent……. I’m dating someone and completely reliant on them. It also told me I should seek professional help๐Ÿ˜ƒ
Anonymous WikiBadger
Anonymous WikiBadger
12/15/24 7:31pm
I also got "confident (read self-obsessed)". Btw I'm passing those quizzes just 4 fun. Don't really believe 'em, duh
Anonymous WikiLlama
Anonymous WikiLlama
12/17/24 9:19am
I think being self obsessed is a good thing it means you know how to look after your self self care is the best care!
WikiSalamanderJammer224
12/18/24 1:29am
same!!!!! i do not think that its really a problem to be self-obsessed. is there anything wrong with loving the amazing, wonderful person that i am?!?
Ameliacordina1808
12/18/24 8:01am
i got the same as you lol
Anonymous WikiFawn
Anonymous WikiFawn
12/18/24 10:04am
lol I got that I love other people. haha is that a red flag? OH CRAP. is THAT why I'm single???
Anonymous WikiLoris
Anonymous WikiLoris
12/18/24 6:09pm
Nothing like me, (self obsessesed) I despise people who are that way. Ask anyone I know, they’ll tell you for sure.
Anonymous WikiIbis
Anonymous WikiIbis
12/19/24 10:37am
Mine says that I love people lmao
Anonymous WikiChinchilla
Anonymous WikiChinchilla
12/19/24 10:20pm
Main said that my red flag is that I love people but actually I’m the most unsocial person in the world ๐Ÿ˜…๐Ÿ˜‚
Anonymous WikiGorilla
Anonymous WikiGorilla
12/20/24 1:06am
Mine said I can't be alone but I'm an ambivert so I can be alone

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