When and how do you define the relationship?
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Every couple is different and there isn’t a specific time when you should define the relationship, but 2-3 months is a good benchmark if you’re not sure. If you’re happy with how things are going and feel secure in the relationship, you don't necessarily need to have a formal talk.
But, if you feel unsure about where you stand, talking to the person you're dating about their expectations and where they see the relationship going can give you some clarity. Think about what you want out of the relationship, then make time to talk and say what's on your mind. For example, "I'm really enjoying spending time together and I like you a lot. What do you think about making our relationship exclusive?"
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But, if you feel unsure about where you stand, talking to the person you're dating about their expectations and where they see the relationship going can give you some clarity. Think about what you want out of the relationship, then make time to talk and say what's on your mind. For example, "I'm really enjoying spending time together and I like you a lot. What do you think about making our relationship exclusive?"
There’s no set-in-stone timeline for defining the relationship. Some people meet on the first date, and they just know that they were meant for each other, and for others, it may take a little longer to be sure. Some people might be more ready to enter something serious, whereas others have just gotten out of a relationship and they'd rather take it slower. Ultimately, making things official is a different experience for each couple, and there’s no right or wrong answer.
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The best way to transition from a fling into a relationship is to communicate with your fling and let them know you are genuinely interested in pursuing a relationship with them. Be consistent in your pursuit of this person, and be honest about your feelings.
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If you want to go about this in a subtle way, ask them how long it took them to go into a first relationship with their significant other. That will help you gauge how long they take to warm up to somebody. Or, you can use a direct approach and ask them, "What are your plans for us?" or "What do you think our future looks like?" If they can't really answer the question or ignore it, then you still have your answer.
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