How to Get Through Valentine's Day Being Single

Co-authored by Kelli Miller, LCSW, MSW

Last Updated: June 18, 2023

Being single doesn't mean that you need to find Valentine's Day a depressing occasion. You can still treat yourself and feel good about where you are in life. This article provides a range of ideas for doing things to participate "in spirit" while keeping up your spirit; or, you can simply treat it like any other day.

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Who says you need someone to buy it for you? Get a box of chocolate and enjoy it. Chocolate releases endorphins in the brain to make you feel good! So a little chocolate will actually improve your mood and make you feel better.
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Order the set a couple weeks before Valentine's Day. Sign the card "From A Special Admirer." and send it for you to get on Valentine's Day. Even if you remember it's you who really sent it, it will still make your day.

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Instead, spend time with different kind of love - your friends and your family. See a movie with some friends, eat dinner at the local diner with a handful of family, whatever you do, love is love, and Valentine's Day is there to represent it. You don't need to be in a romantic relationship to enjoy Valentine's Day.
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If you just got out of a bad relationship, a great idea of what to do for yourself is, make it a " Pamper Day " or an " All About You Day ". Go spend some money on yourself. It's good to be a little selfish now and then. And when you see those red heart decorations or you hear a love song, think of yourself, and how much you love yourself.
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This will just make the day depressing and dreaded. Instead, be excited for this day. After all, it only comes once a year and it's still a holiday!
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Try out a fun recipe and spend time on it! And make it a goal to eat all yourself! Try this . Basically, it's a fast 10 minute way of making a cake!
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Open a door for someone who needs it, volunteer at a church, buy a rose and give it to someone random on the street, whatever you do, will make you feel full of love inside.
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A friend, a relative you haven't seen in a while, whoever it is, visit them. Offer to help out a little bit. This is your day, spend it on someone worth spending on.
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This simplest of all solutions is also the most difficult to carry out, if Valentine's Day is in the middle of your workweek or at the start of it—and your supervisor may not appreciate having half her work force call in sick on a busy Monday. But if you’re self-employed, by all means, lock your door, turn off all your lights, and wait until the day is over. Try to avoid this, but if you're really this depressed, stay in.
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If you’re the type who imagines folks secretly pointing at you on the street and laughing at your single status, you’re spending way too much time measuring yourself against supposedly happy, snuggling couples. Remember: just because a person is partnered up on V-Day doesn’t necessarily mean that he or she is blissed out (or even remotely contented).
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Use Valentine's Day as an actively seek a partner day, so many places put on singles evenings so get your girlfriends or male friends together and head for a singles party. Who knows who you might meet?

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You've already made a choice to not do so, so surely you have made the decision to deal with it too. Don't raise the issue with others, change the topic if they talk about it and realize that it's only one day a year and it'll be over soon. Remind yourself that it's just a game people like to play and won't impact your life in the long run. If people question you or embarrass you, say "Nothing to do with you, it's just that none of these people are that important for me to give them a card" and walk away.

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To make your holiday a little more interesting, mix it up, by watching a Christmas movie, or a Halloween movie, try to remember other past holidays and incorporate it into one. It will take your mind off being single, and it's a great funny fun tip.

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Valentine’s Day is meant for that special someone in your life. Who says that special someone can’t be you? You work hard for the money and St. Valentine wasn’t going steady with anyone. So spend the day treating yourself to indulgences the Saint himself would want you to have!

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If you are alone on Valentine’s Day, think of it as an opportunity to focus on the presence of love. Train yourself to love you for once! It’s just as important as loving others.

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Don't miss out on today just because you want to avoid it. Sleeping all day doesn't serve any purpose.

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Ever heard of Carpe-Diem? (It means Seize the Day!)

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