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If you're bisexual or a lesbian and you have a crush on a girl, here are some tips. Before starting on this, the term "bisexual" can mean different things for different people. Some bisexuals define it as liking both men and women, and some define it as liking both binary and nonbinary genders. Make sure you know what their label means to them so you don't offend them.
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Find an attractive girl at school/work.
- If you're straight (heterosexual), don't force yourself to like the same gender! You can try, but it won't work because you can't choose who you're attracted to. If you've already found a girl you like, skip this step. To find a bisexual girl, visit your local LGBT community centre.
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Get to know her.
- Unless she's your best friend, but if you've just met this girl get to know her better and try to become her best friend.
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Flirt. Flirt a bit, but don't make her think you like her. Smile a bit, giggle calmly and cute and make her laugh, maybe if you befriend her enough you can go somewhere! Also: Make sure she is comfortable with any approaches you make. If she seems unsure, then stop.
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Ask if she's into girls.
- If you really got to know her, ask if she's bi or lesbian. Don't do this if you think she doesn't trust you enough, be patient, she would open up if she trust you, once you earned her trust ask her this question. How you gain her trust is tell her a secret, not your biggest one but one you feel comfortable telling her. Don't make it seem like a big deal, just nonchalantly ask her.
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Ask her on a date.
- That's part of liking each other, dating! If you feel like she's your bestie now, ask her out casually like "lets go to coffee shop" or take her to a basketball game! Find out her interests first, then take her somewhere that fits her hobbies!
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Get her phone number. You should be able to call or text her to get her to be your friend more.
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Find her on social media.
- Facebook, Twitter, Snapchat, Instagram, etc. Ask her to add/follow you on a social site, you can know her better this way.
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If she's a really great friend, confess your feelings for her! Don't be scared. If she doesn't like you, then that's okay! There's plenty of fish in the sea!
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I don’t really understand how someone gets a girlfriend. Do you just sort of ask a girl you like if they want to be your girlfriend or do you do dates first before you ask? I feel embarrassed because I really don’t know and I have friends who say they take girlfriends out on dates and stuff, but I don’t want to seem like I don’t know. I have liked girls before but never did anything with them. How does the whole thing work? Where would you meet a girlfriend? What do you do with them that’s so different outside of kissing and stuff?
I think the best way to go about looking for a girlfriend is to be proactive. Place yourself in situations to meet more people. For instance, social gatherings are a wonderful way to meet new and different people. The more exposure the better. Likewise, exposing yourself via dating apps and social media is a good idea. Introverts typically do better with dating sites versus meeting in person. However, be careful not to be too desperate in your search for a girlfriend. Just think of it as a new opportunity to meet new people. And if you meet your girlfriend…it will be a plus!
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QuestionMy bisexual friend has recently been holding my hand a lot, as well as hugging and cuddling me. Are these signs that she might like me?Community AnswerIt depends on the type of person. Usually these are signs, but she could also have the touchy-feely sort of personality. Try and see how she behaves around other people. You could also try getting more flirty with her and see how she reacts.
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QuestionI think I'm bisexual but I'm kind unsure. I've had a crush on a certain girl, but it went away after a month. What does this mean?Community AnswerYou may well be bisexual. Crushes can fade, whoever they're on. If you're unsure, that's fine too. You'll see who else you get attracted to over time and figure it out.
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QuestionI used to date a girl and she broke up with me because she didn't like over-summer relationships. How do I get her back?Community AnswerTell her that it wasn't just a summer relationship to you, and you would like to pick back up on the relationship or at least have her in your life as a friend.
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Tips
- If you're not attracted to females don't force yourself to be.Thanks
- Understand different sexualities:
- Straight (heterosexual) - attraction to the opposite gender.
- Gay - attraction to the same gender.
- Bisexual - attraction to more than one gender.
- Asexual - lack of sexual attraction to any gender (although romantic attraction is possible).
- Pansexual - attraction to all genders/attraction regardless of gender.
Thanks - Get beautiful, wash your face, take care of your teeth, shower, fix your hair up in cute styles get makeup done (if you like natural beauty, don't wear makeup unless you are comfortable with it.)Thanks
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Warnings
- Romantic orientation can differ from sexual orientation. Note that it is possible to only be able to fall in love with men and only be sexually attracted to women. Make sure you know their romantic orientation if you plan on having a long term relationship with this person.Thanks
- If she's not part of LGBT+ (lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender) community then don't impress her, chances are she's not into women. Don't force yourself to like a girl if you feel she's not right for you, don't hang around with her.Thanks
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