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Have you ever wondered how to tell if you're attractive? What exactly does it mean to be an "attractive" man or woman anyway? In this article, we cover 17 signs to help you determine if people are attracted to you. We also explain what being attractive means and how to enhance your unique appeal , with expert tips on dressing, exercising, and being authentic from experienced image consultants and dating coaches.
Top 6 Signs You're Attractive
- People light up when you enter a room.
- They make prolonged eye contact with you.
- They compliment your smile.
- They're always willing to help you.
- They act nervous or awkward around you.
- They want to be near you and pick you out of a crowd.
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17 Signs You're Attractive
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People make prolonged eye contact with you. If you catch someone staring at you or glancing at you over and over again, look out: they're probably attracted to you! They're looking at you because they find you beautiful or handsome or because they want to catch your eye – or both. If they're looking at your face, they may just be smitten with you, but if they're staring at the rest of your body, you can be certain their mind is on your physical qualities. [1] X Research source
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You get compliments on your smile. Attractive people tend to have a charming or endearing way of smiling that makes people feel happy. They may describe your smile as "sweet" or "infectious," meaning they want to smile whenever they see it. The size and shape of your lips don't make your smile attractive so much as how genuinely you feel it. Authenticity in expressions always stands out.
- Aside from your smile, you may notice you either receive a lot of compliments or none at all. If people regularly gush about your appearance, that could be a sign they're jealous and obsessing over you. No compliments may mean you're so attractive that people don't think you want or need to be told how good you look!
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People are always willing to help you. Have you ever had any trouble getting help when you need it, even from strangers? If the answer is, "No," you may simply have a lot of great friends or good luck interacting with people you don't know. But it could also mean you're attractive! People in general are more eager to assist people whom they find good-looking.
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People act nervous or awkward around you. When you interact with people and some of them smile nervously, struggle to add to the current discussion, or laugh uncomfortably loud and often, those are all symptoms that they're intimidated by your attractiveness. It's only natural to feel nervous and awkward around people we crush on or whom we feel is out of our league, physically. Unfortunately, it also makes it harder to just have a normal conversation!
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Your pics always get tons of engagement on social media. Attractive people tend to get a lot of likes and comments on their social media posts, especially when they post selfies. People you may not even realize started following you will come out of the woodwork to engage with you. In doing so, they let you know they enjoy looking at pictures of you, probably because of how attractive you are.
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People light up when you enter a room. When you enter a room full of people, do any of them notice right away and make eye contact, smile, or greet you? If so, that's a sign they may be attracted to you in some way. They may not necessarily feel a sexual attraction toward you, but they may like the way you present yourself. If they know you, it's possible they're attracted to your inner qualities, like integrity, positivity, and kindness.
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People seem to copy your style or mannerisms. Have you noticed people in your social circle wearing the same clothes, makeup, or jewelry as you? Have they also started doing their hair in a similar way or walking and talking using your mannerisms? If so, and if you were the first one to introduce the trends to your group, it's also possible you've got some copycats following your every move. Take it as a compliment and keep pursuing your own original style!
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People seem to want to be around you. Despite the way you make some people feel intimidated by your attractiveness, people still want to be around you. They pick you out in a crowd and hang out by your table. They invite you to their parties and hang-outs, and talk to you at every opportunity. An attractive person never has to worry about whether they'll have weekend plans if they choose!
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You notice people change the way they talk around you. One way to know if you're attractive is if the way people talk and the pitch of their voice changes when they talk to you. For example, men tend to lower their voices when they're talking to someone they're attracted to, whereas women's voices sound higher. [2] X Research source
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Some people seem to dislike you for no reason. Life as an attractive person isn't all a bed of roses. You may discover that a lot of people dislike you because they feel you're prettier or more handsome than they are. But what they really resent is all the positive attention you're getting. While they may not come right out and say they don't like you, you may be able to tell if they act distant or rude toward you, but not others.
- You may also hear through the grapevine they don't like you, but they aren't able to give a reason for their animosity without revealing their jealousy.
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People act surprised when you express insecurity. Attractive people have confidence issues as much as anyone else, yet other people always seem to be surprised when you express insecurity about some part of your appearance. [3] X Research source This is a good sign they think you're physically attractive because they clearly don't understand why you're criticizing yourself.
- The person listening to you in this conversation may respond with, "If I looked like you, I wouldn't have any problems!" or "I'd give my right arm to have your looks!"
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You've had people obsess over you in the past. Another potential pitfall of being attractive is having people become obsessed with you simply because they think you're good-looking. These people reveal themselves by liking and commenting on all your social media posts (especially your pictures), texting you at all hours, trying to set up times to meet every weekend, mirroring you, and talking about you to others constantly.
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Confidence comes naturally to you. Even if you're not considered "beautiful" or "handsome" by Western beauty conventions, a lot of people may be attracted to you because of your healthy sense of self-confidence. You're not obsessed with your looks, nor are you dissatisfied with them and constantly trying to change them. You're comfortable in your own skin, and that makes you appear and act as if you've got it all put together. Confidence just comes naturally to you, and people love that about you!
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You receive a lot of direct messages from strangers. If you regularly receive random DMs from strangers complimenting your looks or asking you for your number, you're definitely attractive! People don't usually reach out if they don't know you unless they think you're hot or sexy. While this can be a confidence booster, it can also be annoying, so feel free to change your social media accounts to Private or block those individuals to avoid them.
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People talk about you a lot. If they're jealous types, they may try to talk down about you in other ways besides your appearance, like your career or your relationships. If they're true admirers, however, they'll ask mutual friends how you're doing and speak highly of you.
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People reach out to you at random times. Do you get friends, acquaintances, and ex-partners you haven't heard from in years contacting you out of the blue? If so, that could be a sign they find you attractive because they clearly still think about you. However, it could also be that they just thought about you one day and wanted to know how you're doing. So don't assume that they're reaching out because they're interested in kindling (or rekindling) a romantic relationship.
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You never have trouble getting a date. If you never struggle to find a date while all your friends and family bemoan how terrible the dating scene is, it's highly possible you're just really attractive. You may even get asked out on dates by strangers when you're running errands or hanging out with friends.
- While you're probably flattered by such attention, remember to use your best judgment when choosing whom to date. Avoid getting involved with someone who only values your appearance, not your personality or character.
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References
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/social-instincts/202409/3-subtle-signs-that-someone-finds-you-attractive
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/social-instincts/202409/3-subtle-signs-that-someone-finds-you-attractive
- ↑ https://www.succeedsocially.com/awkwardgoodlooking
- ↑ https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/attractive
- ↑ https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC9925008/
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