How to Know if You're Falling for Your Best Friend

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You and your very best friend have been through many moments together, then suddenly you get this strange feeling in you. A feeling that makes you feel like you want to spend the rest of your life with them. This is called a crush, and while most people continue on to have one on their best friend they barely even know they do. If you think you're falling for your best friend but you're not exactly sure, read on.

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Deep Feelings

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    The next time you see your best friend, note whether you feel tingly inside. When they talk to you, the words in your mind get tangled up in a huge knot and you don't know what to say. You try your best to get those words out of your mouth but it ends up that you just can't bring yourself to. If talking just became a huge challenge for you, it may be a sign you're falling in love. [1]
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    When you go somewhere and get bored. Or, if you have extra time and feel like it, you take out your binder and a piece of paper and a few colored pencils and start doodling their name on the paper you brought out. You do this to make yourself feel that feeling, that feeling of love and a crush. [2]
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    When you're asleep at night, you dream of you and them living a carefree and happy life together. Maybe you even dream about a honeymoon. Sometimes you get this one dream where they ask you out, and you say yes, and until you wake up you feel that that dream is real––you never want it to end. [3]
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    If you try to stop it, you just can't. They have altered your mind somehow and you can't get them out of there, everywhere you go and anytime of the day that's all your imagination has in store for you, more of them.
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    You sit down for a while and start writing, until you run out of ideas and you start to daydream about them and you like it. Until the point when someone snaps you out of it and you go back to reality. Your daydreams seem timeless and you imagine that you and them are the only two people in the world. [4]
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    You start listening to slow love songs, and those songs explain a sweet love story and strangely remind you of them. Then it becomes your favorite type of music for a long while. You listen to those songs again and again and you just can't get enough, pretty soon you'll know every single one of the lyrics.
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Impatience and Longing

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    If you're falling in love, you'll likely find that you just can't settle down and you find yourself wanting more and more of them. Maybe your friends also notice you've been acting strange lately. Somehow you seem to be getting a little bit clumsy––you start getting clumsy because they are the only thing that seems to go around in your mind and nothing else.
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    If you find you miss them at all times, it's likely to be falling in love. [5]
    • You are hungry to meet up again, often. You find most happiness when you're both together, not apart.
    • You just can't wait to hang out together again.
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    More than before that is. This is an indicator of growing love. [6]
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    If you feel that you don't have to have a kind of "mask" around them and you feel like you can be yourself and express thoughts and feelings openly, things are off to a great and healthy start!
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    How do you get your friend to like you back?
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    Try getting them to see you in another light! For instance, you might hold a party and invite a lot of cool people over, including your friend. As you express new facets of your personality, they may start to view you in a different light.
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    Should you tell your best friend you have feelings for them?
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    It's better to take it slow. Simply sitting down and telling your friend you have feelings for them could be overwhelming and scary for them to process. Instead, it's better to take a more indirect approach.
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    Have you explored the possibility of sharing your feelings with this person and seeing if they could be reciprocated? If you already know that your friend is not interested/unavailable, try to take some space (or at least balance your time out with other people) to see if less contact helps change your interest or lower the intensity of your feelings.
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      1. ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/meet-catch-and-keep/201507/how-do-you-really-know-if-youre-falling-in-love
      2. ↑ https://www.insider.com/signs-that-youre-falling-in-love-2018-1
      3. ↑ https://www.livescience.com/33720-13-scientifically-proven-signs-love.html
      4. ↑ https://www.bebeautiful.in/lifestyle/work-and-life/9-signs-youre-falling-in-love-with-your-best-friend
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