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When you really love someone, it's normal to feel like they are your whole world, but letting your life revolve around someone else can have its downsides. You might start to lose touch with other important people in your life and let your own goals and hobbies fall by the wayside. Fortunately, it's possible to cultivate a life outside of your relationship without sacrificing closeness with your partner. Keep reading to learn how to be independent and stay true to yourself while still maintaining a healthy, supportive relationship with your boyfriend.
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QuestionI sometimes feel like l cannot let go of my boyfriend. What can I do?Paul Chernyak is a Licensed Professional Counselor in Chicago. He graduated from the American School of Professional Psychology in 2011.Try to see what need he fulfills for you that you are not fulfilling for yourself. It's usually a sign of personal insecurity or lack of personal friendships outside the relationship.
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QuestionI feel that my boyfriend is avoiding me all the time and he has better options than me. It's driving me crazy. How can I prevent this?Paul Chernyak is a Licensed Professional Counselor in Chicago. He graduated from the American School of Professional Psychology in 2011.Have an open discussion with him about how you are perceiving the situation and specifically what is bothering you in the relationship. Try to come to a compromise that is ideal for the both of you.
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- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/compassion-matters/201102/staying-compatible-staying-yourself
- ↑ https://www.helpguide.org/articles/relationships-communication/relationship-help.htm
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- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/compassion-matters/201102/staying-compatible-staying-yourself
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- ↑ https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/five_reasons_to_take_a_break_from_screens
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