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    I teased my girlfriend by telling her that I would post a picture of her if she did not take my call after I called her over 15 times. Now she is really mad and broke up with me, saying I blackmailed and threatened her. But I didn't post anything. Any help?
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    First of all, don't call your girlfriend 15 times, that is obsessive behavior that could be construed as harassment. Second, she's right. Even if you weren't serious, she didn't know that. Threatening to do something against someone's wishes if they don't do what you ask is blackmail. You don't get a pass because you didn't actually post anything. Tell her that you understand why she's upset - validate her feelings - and tell her you're sorry and it will never happen again. Give her some space and let her decide how she wants to proceed. If she doesn't want to get back together, accept it and leave her alone.
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    How do I ask my girl to forgive me after she finds out I slept with her best friend and denied it?
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    You say you were a inconsiderate, then say she doesn't deserve you and you wish her happiness down the road. It is unlikely she will forgive you enough to continue the relationship.
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    How much time should I give her to accept my apology?
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    That depends on what you did to your girlfriend. The more serious offense committed, the more time it will take for her to forgive you.
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    Will my girlfriend get her feelings hurt if I go to her friend's birthday party whom I dated previously?
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    If you were to go by yourself, probably. If you were to go together with your girlfriend, it depends. Let her decide whether she wants to go to the party and whether she is comfortable having you come along.
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    What can I do to get my girlfriend to forgive me when our relationship is entirely online?
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    Give her time, honestly explain your actions and listen to her. An old-fashioned handwritten letter can go a long way, so try to get her address to send an apology letter.
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    After talking, what does it mean when she says, "we should start all over again?"
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    It means she has forgiven you, and is ready to accept you, but you have to be better and don't repeat the mistakes you made before.
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    How do I think of a way to make things up to my girlfriend if she has lost trust in what I say?
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    Will give her some space first and don't bombard her. Maybe do something special like take her to dinner or buy her a gift but most importantly, show her that you've learned from your mistake. Apologize and reassure her that you will never be dishonest with her again.
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    What can I do if my girlfriend got mad at me after saying she cheated on me?
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    If you have flat-out evidence that she cheated on you, then you may have to either forgive her or move on. However, if you only think she cheated, then apologize to her and let her know that what you did was a mistake. Let her know that what you assumed was disrespectful and that you're sorry.
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    I expected my girlfriend to drop everything for me but this has damaged the relationship and she feels controlled. Is there any way I can fix this?
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    Apologize and tell her you were wrong to expect her to drop everything for you. Do something really nice for her. Bring her to a big shopping mall and give her money to buy clothes and shoes (or whatever she likes!). That's the best you can do, unless you want to give her a gift of some sort and take her out to a restaurant.
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    How do I convince my girlfriend that I'm not using her?
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    Say sorry to her and be on your best behavior. It may take time for her to realize you are not using her.
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    What should I do if I broke up with my girlfriend because I heard she was flirting with other boys, but now I want her back?
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    If you hurt her feelings when you broke up with her, then apologize and ask to go back out with her. At worst, she'll say no.
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    What if she won't tell me what I did wrong?
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    Try to get some information from her friends. Be a detective and ask questions about what went wrong in your relationship.
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    I cheated on her and she wants to leave me. What should I do?
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    How do I get her back when she is really mad on me for something I said?
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    We sometimes tend to say stuff without the intention of hurting other people. Tell her you're sorry for saying what you said and explain to her what you meant in a sensitive way. Communication and honesty are key.
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    What do I do if my girlfriend thinks I'm cheating on her when I'm not?
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    All you can do is tell her that you're not cheating on her and ask her to trust you. If you've given her no reason to suspect that you've been unfaithful, she should be willing to believe you. If she doesn't, she probably has trust issues, and this may not be the right relationship for you.
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    I teased my girlfriend a lot. She is very angry, and she is ignoring me. What should I do?
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    Apologize for what you said/did, tell her it will never happen again, then just give her some space. If she's really angry she's not going to forgive you immediately, but she probably will eventually.
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    I lied to my girlfriend about something serious and even though I've spent the whole day trying to make it better, it has only gotten worse. What should I do?
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    Give it time. One day is not long enough for someone to get over a serious breach of trust. Give her some space for a few days, then apologize again. Do something romantic when you apologize, like bringing her flowers or candy.
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    What do I do if someone won't forgive me for something dumb I did?
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    You can't make someone forgive you. All you can do is give them a genuine apology and then wait. Give them some time and space to get over it, don't expect anything to happen immediately, and don't keep bothering them about it.
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    What do I do when a girl says she has forgiven me, but leaves me alone?
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    To forgive means to no longer be angry about an incident, but it doesn't mean that she trusts you to not repeat the mistake, or that she's interested in continuing onward with the relationship. There are many things that "I'm sorry" doesn't fix. It's best to give her space to make the decisions she needs to.
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    My girlfriend called me and asked why I didn't call her and I told her I was busy. Now she is mad at me, what do I do?
    Jake O'Hanlon
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    Be less busy. If you have a job that is interfering with your relationship, find ways to reduce you hours and spend more time with her.
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    What should I do if my wife found out I did drugs when I was younger and now wants to end our 9 year relationship?
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    Firstly doing drugs is not good for health, yet people do out of curiosity in their adolescence. Talk about the present, explaining that you don't use drugs in present. Firstly, confess everything you have in your mind. Make her understand what you did and why. Give her all the information she needs to get her thoughts about you cleared. Be patient, talk to her and ultimately don't forget how you were when she fell for you. Don't lose that guy in you. People make mistakes and as a partner, he or she has to understand and accept their present. Tell her: "I made a mistake" and also that you would do anything to make it right. So be hopeful. Everything can be sorted. Give her some space. She will be back.
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    What should I do? my girlfriend refused to forgive me and I sincerely begged for forgiveness to her and now she has already starts new relationship with another guy.
    Tara Burke
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    There’s nothing to be done - your ex girlfriend has not forgiven you and is dating someone else. Move on from the relationship.
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    I was going to fake my feelings for her so I don't hurt her then she found out and now she doesn't want to talk to me at all.
    Tara Burke
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    Apologise to her, but communicate to her that you understand she doesn’t want to have contact with you anymore - ‘I understand you don’t want to speak with me and I don’t expect a reply, I just want you to know I’m sorry’. If you want to maintain her friendship, tell her how much you value and care about her.
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    How do I get her to fully forgive me and how do I get her to be able to move on? I waited, I apologised, got her flowers which she loved, wrote her a 4-page long apology letter, which she loved.
    Tara Burke
    Top Answerer
    If she has already accepted your apology and sentiments, then all you can do to mend the relationship is continue to show that you value and respect her - moving on and regaining trust takes time.
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    How do I win back my girlfriend after texting too much and making her feel cornered?
    Tara Burke
    Top Answerer
    Apologise because you didn’t realise you were making her uncomfortable and going over her boundaries. Promise sincerely to mend your behaviour.
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    Despite giving her time, being as sincere as possible, and being extremely considerate, she still hates me. What am I doing wrong?
    Tara Burke
    Top Answerer
    If she is this upset with what you’ve done, it is unlikely that the relationship can be regained and likely no action can get her back at this point - assuming she’s not just angry with you but has broken it off with you.
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