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After someone gets married, it might seem like they’re totally immune to having a crush. But even when you’ve said your vows and committed to someone, it is still possible to develop feelings for someone else. If there’s a married man in your life who’s giving off some “I like you vibes,” it can be confusing to figure out if he actually has a crush on you or is just being super friendly. Fortunately, we’ve got the telltale signs that a married man likes you so you don’t have to wonder anymore.

Things You Should Know

  • He might like you if he’s vulnerable around you and makes a point to hang out with you one-on-one.
  • You might notice that he’s jealous of the people you date or of your significant other.
  • He might buy you little gifts or remember everything you say about yourself.
  • He’ll probably act differently toward you around his spouse and won’t want to talk about his marriage with you.
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He shows you his vulnerable side.

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  1. In our modern society, men are often taught that being vulnerable is a bad thing. If the married man in question opens up to you or—gasp—even cries in front of you, it’s likely that he views you as a little bit more than a friend. [1]
    • He might tell you about his hopes, dreams, and even fears.
    • He might also ask you for advice, even about his own relationship (awkward).
    • If he does open up to you about his feelings for you, have an open, honest conversation with him. Let him know that even if you were (or are) interested, he has a spouse and a family to think about.
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He remembers small details about you.

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  1. Sure, friends will ask you how your weekend was or what you’ve been up to lately. But when a guy is into you, it will seem like he’s making a special effort to remember what you told him and then follow up about it. This is likely because he has some romantic feelings toward you, and he spends a lot of time thinking about you. [2]
    • He might even remember things that you told him in a totally off-hand way. If you ever find yourself thinking, “How did he remember that?!” then there’s a good chance he likes you.
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He asks about your dating life often.

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He wants to hang out with you alone.

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  1. It’s not super out of the ordinary for a guy to hang out with a friend alone, but a married man? He should probably be a bit more careful about who he spends his time with. If he constantly pushes you to hang out with him by yourself, there’s a good chance he has feelings for you.
    • Not only does hanging out alone give you two a chance to bond, but it lets him display his feelings more than he could if there were other people around.
    • Try gently reminding him that he should probably be spending time with his spouse, not with you. This sends the message that you aren’t interested in breaking up a marriage.
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He flirts with you.

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  1. It sounds a little obvious, but a married man definitely shouldn’t be flirting with anyone. If he compliments you or banters with you in a flirtatious way, he probably likes you. You can tell if he’s flirting if he acts differently with you than he does with other people.
    • Since he’s married, he might only flirt with you when no one else is around. However, if he doesn’t care about getting caught, he could do it in front of others, too.
    • Even if you do like him, try not to flirt back. He’ll likely use your flirting as an open invitation to pursue you, which can be a disaster if he’s still married.
    • Reader Poll: We asked 351 wikiHow readers and 53% of them agreed that the best way to handle a married man being interested in you is to distance yourself from him . [Take Poll]
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He avoids certain topics.

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      Do you suspect a married man you know might be hiding feelings for you? If he looks for excuses to spend one-on-one time with you, makes flirty comments, or opens up and gets vulnerable when you’re together, he may consider you more than a friend. He may ask you about your love life or even act jealous when you bring up other people you’re dating or interested in. You might also notice him making a lot of eye contact, blushing, or breaking the touch barrier often when you’re together. Pay attention to the way he acts when the topic of his marriage comes up, too. He might avoid talking to you about his spouse and family, or even act more distant and closed off with you when they’re around. Read on for more tips on identifying whether a married man likes you.

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