Everyone who has a religious path wants to follow it their own way. While your parents may follow a traditional and conservative religion such as Catholicism, and you want to be say, Pentecostal, you should be entitled to make your own decisions. This article gives some advice and guidance on how to talk to your parents about your chosen religion.
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Study to be sure you are secure in your religious preferences. If you have lingering doubts about your own faith, it may be best to tell your parents after you feel comfortable and confident about your beliefs.
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Use the waiting time to do your research. Examine many sources, not only "faith promoting" ones related to the religion you are investigating.
- Start a journal to keep notes in regarding your spirituality. Include any questions you may have and the reasons why
- Discover what you can about your chosen path. Is it monotheistic (worshiping only one deity), polytheistic (worshiping multiple deities), pantheistic (worshiping the universe), or atheistic (believing in no deities)? Are there any notable people in history that have believed as you do?
- Search online for forums to find others who believe as you do.
- Purchase a number of books about your religion, or borrow them from a local or school library. Just be sure to keep them in a place where your parents won't find them until you're ready.
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Gather the notes you have collected and organize your thoughts. You may have to re-write what you have written to assure that you have a solid foundation from which to discuss religion with your parents.
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Tell your parents you have something important to discuss with them and you'll need some time to do it. Make sure that they are allowed to choose the time when this discussion is to take place.
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Tell your parents you have been researching diverse religions. Tell them this is the religious path you have decided to follow. Watch for their response, if it is shocked or angry, tread carefully and discuss any concerns they may have about your researching religions.
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Ask your parents what they know about your chosen religion.
- Listen carefully to what they say.
- Clear up any confusion they may have.
- Keep up this back and forth of asking, listening, and responding.
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Handle a poor reaction with grace. Don't try to convert your parents to your beliefs. In this instance at least, resist the urge to proselytize and do not argue with them. If they have objections, especially faith-based objections, don't contest with them. Honor your parents and yourself by actively listening and not arguing. Remember that acknowledging is not agreement, so listen and acknowledge their concerns and, as far as possible, let them know that for you at least the relationship is important and that you are still their daughter or son.
- If they are very upset, don't panic; give it time and maintain your love for them.
- As with all people, when dealing with your parents and deciding how to treat them in contemplating your reactions to them, ask yourself "is this the best expression of who I really am?"
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QuestionHow old do I have to be to become another religion when my parents disagree?Community AnswerYou have to be mature enough to understand what you are doing and the consequences of your actions.
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QuestionI was abused for leaving the Catholic Church. Why does this kind of thing happen when the Pope says we just need Jesus in our lives?Community AnswerThe Pope and the New Testament say, 'Yes,' we just need Jesus in our lives. However people who leave their religious practice do sometimes, unfortunately, become subject to abuse for choosing a new path. If you were physically abused, don't hesitate to seek outside help. Everyone should be permitted to follow their own path and physical abuse is a grave mistreatment.
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QuestionWhat if I am worried about telling one parent, but less worried about the other?Community AnswerTell the parent that you aren't worried much about first. If the outcome is good, ask that parent to help you and stand by your side for support while you tell the other parent.
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Tips
- Remember that overall, religion and beliefs are so important that they should always be your own personal choice. Don't let anyone convince you that you can't make your own choices.Thanks
- Explain to them that you are not going to turn your back on them, and that you would like them to be a part of your choice when possible.Thanks
- Wait to talk to your parents, when they are sitting down, relaxed after dinner. Do not just blurt out your feelings when they are rushed.Thanks
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Warnings
- Some parents might not go along with what you believe no matter what you tell them. Just stay true to yourself and your religion.Thanks
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