Is a Virgo Ignoring You or Pulling Away? 11 Things to Do When a Virgo Woman Stops Talking to You

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Virgos are typically great communicators, so you might wonder what to do if the Virgo in your life suddenly stops talking to you. Whether she doesn't want to meet up with you or she's not answering your texts, you're probably confused. We'll guide you through what to do if you've been ghosted by a Virgo so you can get her talking and mend your relationship. Read on for specific suggestions you can start using right away!

1

Remain calm and don’t get worked up.

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    A Virgo might not be answering your calls, responding to your texts, or agreeing to meet. Instead of getting increasingly frustrated, tell yourself to cool off. Blow off some steam and make time for yourself. [1]
    • It's not a good idea to have a thoughtful relationship discussion if you're angry. Instead, focus on your own well-being and try to relax.
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Give her time and space to think things through.

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    She may feel betrayed, angry, or hurt and she might need to work through some things. Virgos can be notoriously private, so don't try for a conversation until she's ready to talk or she may push away even more. [2]
    • She might need a few days to sort out how she's feeling or she might cut off communication for longer. Either way, she needs space to decide what she wants.
    • She may not be upset with you! Virgos can be hard on hard on themselves, so it may be that she's unhappy with herself.
3

Focus on other things while you wait for her to come around.

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    However, there's not much you can do while you're waiting for her. In the meantime, do things you enjoy and spend time with your favorite people. They'll take your mind off of her and help improve your mood! [3]
    • When she's ready to talk, you hopefully won't be as stressed or anxious since you've been focusing on self-care.
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Have a conversation with her once she’s ready to talk.

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    Instead, let her know that you're available when she wants to talk. Let her lead the way with the conversation and resist the urge to ask her lots of questions all at once. [4]
    • For example, say or text, "Hey, I'd really like to talk to you whenever you feel up to it." This shows her that you want to talk, but you're not pushing her.
    • Virgos are logical, so don't be surprised if she doesn't immediately start talking about her feelings.
    • Resist the urge to ignore her when she does reach out. Remember, you've given her time to think and she probably wants to discuss what she's figured out. [5]
5

Ask her to tell you what's going on.

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    She might bring up a situation or something you did so you'll need to ask her follow-up questions to pinpoint why she's upset and what caused it. Then, just listen and accept how she's feeling. [6] Definitely don't argue or deny what she's feeling! [7]
    • For instance, she might say something like, "I always have to plan our dates." If you ask why that bothers her, she might reveal that she feels stressed with planning them or that she's concerned that you don't care about the relationship.
    • Virgos are meticulous and detail-oriented so you might find that something that seems trivial might be really bothering her.
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Get to the root of the issue.

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    While there are lots of reasons she might stop talking to you, it's vital that you discuss what the problem is so you can both work it out. Virgos love to analyze so if something's wrong, it's important to find a solution that makes sense for everyone. [8]
    • There might be a simple misunderstanding or the Virgo might just need reassurance that you're committed to the relationship. Just because there's a problem doesn't mean you're the only one in the wrong!
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Work on things if you want to stay in the relationship.

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    After you've heard her explanation, spend some time deciding if you want to make the relationship work. You might decide that her reason for not talking to you wasn't acceptable or you might realize that you do want to improve your relationship. [9]
    • Whatever you decide, it's important that you think about your relationship needs! If you don't think it's going to work out with her, then it's time for another honest conversation.
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Apologize if you’ve done something to upset her.

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    She'll want to know that you won't hurt or upset her again. [10] Giving an apology allows both of you to move forward in your relationship. [11]
    • For example, say something like, "I'm sorry that I haven't made time for you lately. I need to do a better job of prioritizing our relationship."
    • Keep in mind that a Virgo will remember when you've hurt her. If she forgives you, it's really important not to make the same mistake twice!
9

Make the changes that your Virgo asked for.

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    For instance, maybe you need to work on your listening skills or talk together before you make plans. The point is to show her that you heard what upset her and are willing to improve things. [12]
    • Your Virgo will pay attention to the changes you make!
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Communicate regularly to make her feel secure in the relationship.

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    Things might feel awkward for a little while after you've started talking again, but don't slip back into uncomfortable silence! Show her that your relationship is important by checking in frequently. [13] You might call her if you haven't seen her that day or send her texts just to say hi. [14]
    • She'll probably appreciate a text like, "You've been on my mind all afternoon. Want to get lunch tomorrow?"
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Show her your fun or romantic side.

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    Bonus points if you're romantic! She'll appreciate you putting in the effort. Plus, doing fun, sweet things together will remind her why you're together in the first place. [15]
    • You might make a candlelight dinner for her or surprise her with tickets to a show she's really wanted to see. Being thoughtful goes a long way with a Virgo.
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