How to Make a Scorpio Man Obsessed with You

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If you’ve fallen for a Scorpio man, you’re in for a world of adventure. With their outgoing personalities and endless charisma, it’s no wonder why you’d choose a Scorpio to be with! But with their hot and cold personalities, it can sometimes feel like you’re doing all the chasing. Read through this article to find out how you can get your Scorpio guy to be obsessed with you so he never lets you go.

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Make him chase you a little.

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    When a Scorpio likes you, he won’t mind doing a little bit of chasing—in fact, it will probably only make him like you more. [1] Don’t be afraid to be a little hot and cold, or tell him that you’re too busy to see him for one week.
    • For instance, if he asks you to hang out over the weekend, you might say, “Oh, I’d love to, but I’m actually all booked up! Could we try for next week instead?”
    • You can play hard to get, but be encouraging, too! If a Scorpio thinks you aren’t interested, he might just back off completely.
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Have deep talks about interesting subjects.

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    Be prepared to analyze things that you would have never dreamed of, and don’t be afraid to talk about weird stuff, too. He’ll appreciate that you’re willing to indulge his discussions, and having a fun conversation with you will make him think about you after you leave. [2]
    • Many Scorpio signs feel comfortable talking about things that might be a little taboo, like sex, intimacy, and human psychology. Try to open your mind a little bit, and don’t be afraid to bring up stuff that you wouldn’t talk about with other people.
    • He might ask you questions like, “Do you think the afterlife is real?” or, “Isn’t it interesting how the brain named itself?”
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Give him compliments.

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    If he just got a new haircut or he put on a new outfit, be sure to call out these little things, and tell him how much you like them. The more you boost his ego, the more he’ll think about how awesome you are—which will only make him want you more.
    • You might say things like, “Wow, new hairstyle? You totally pull it off.”
    • Or, “Cool outfit! You’re always so on top of the latest trends.”
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Let him contact you first.

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    Instead of always reaching out to make plans first, let him come to you, at least half of the time. That way, he’ll wonder why you haven’t reached out, and he’ll probably think about all the fun stuff you might be doing without him.
    • For example, if you planned a date last week, wait for him to text you and plan something instead of texting him again.
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Be honest to build his trust.

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    Water signs value honesty very much, so if you tell him a lie (even a little one!), he’s sure to back away from your relationship. Be as honest as possible with him, and don’t sugar coat things, even if you think it might be more kind. [3]
    • Even small white lies, like telling him you like a gift when you really don’t, might hurt his feelings. Being brutally honest will bring you two even closer than you already are.
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Accept him without judgement.

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    [4] [5] If your Scorpio man shows you the real him, it means he trusts you a lot. Try to accept him for who he is without making any judgements, and he’ll only want you more. [6]
    • Don’t be offended if it takes him a little while to bare his soul to you. Scorpios are terrified of rejection, and showing someone the real you is very scary.
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Try not to focus on your appearance too much.

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    It’s totally fine to spend time on how you look, but try not to obsess over it, especially in front of your man. He’ll appreciate that you’re confident enough to head out without worrying about how you look, and he’ll want to spend much more time with you.
    • In general, you should try to look good for yourself, not anyone else. If you feel confident with your appearance, that’s great! Your Scorpio man will notice, and he’ll like you even more.
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Live your own life.

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    Make sure you’re keeping up with your friends, your hobbies, and your career, and let him do the same. If you give him the room to flourish and aren’t breathing down his neck all the time, he’s going to become obsessed with you and your laid back nature. [7]
    • Plus, this gives him more time to chase you instead of feeling like you’re smothering him.
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Keep some things about your life to yourself.

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    [8] Instead of oversharing about yourself, keep a few tidbits back, and only reveal information a little bit at a time. It will make him think more about you, and he’ll probably try to get closer to you to uncover some of your mystery.
    • For instance, instead of saying things like, “I grew up in New Hampshire, but moved to Michigan when I was 12,” you might say, “I’ve kinda lived all over the place. It’s so fun to travel around, especially when you’re young!”
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Rein in your jealousy.

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    Try not to let this bother you—while it might not seem like it on the outside, Scorpios are intensely loyal, and they’d never do anything to jeopardize your relationship. [9] Let him live his life how he wants to, and you’ll never be able to get rid of him. [10]
    • He might also have a lot of female friends, too. The best course of action is to be friendly toward them and try to maintain a connection with them. That way, you all become friends, and you’ll be able to see that they aren’t a threat to you.
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Be open to trying new things in the bedroom.

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    [11] You don’t have to do anything you aren’t comfortable with, but try to keep an open mind, and try things that you’ve never done before. If you’re at least open to his wants and needs, he’ll never let you go. [12]
    • Scorpio men, in particular, tend to have fairly high sex drives. Try to match his energy, and take the time to initiate sex sometimes, too.
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    How do you win a Scorpio man's heart?
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    Don't give it all up right away. Leave a veil of mystery and then they will be intrigued and obsessed over you. If you open yourself up too soon, they're gonna lose interest, specially if they're not sensing your sexual interest.
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    How do you know if a Scorpio is serious about you?
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    Oh, you will know. A Scorpio man is all or nothing! If they want you to move in or to marry them, know that they're serious!
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    Do Scorpios fall in love easily?
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    They don't. They are the most distrustful sign and they see secrets as powerful weapons. That's why Scorpios usually want to find out about other people without revealing theirs. So, if the Scorpio reveals their secrets, then that means they're very serious about you.
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      1. ↑ Angel Eyedealism. Astrologer & Performance Artist. Expert Interview. 13 January 2022.
      2. ↑ https://www.vogue.co.uk/miss-vogue/article/scorpio-traits
      3. ↑ https://www.vogue.co.uk/miss-vogue/article/scorpio-traits
      4. ↑ Angel Eyedealism. Astrologer & Performance Artist. Expert Interview. 13 January 2022.
      5. ↑ Jessica Lanyadoo. Astrologer & Psychic Medium. Expert Interview. 12 November 2019.
      6. ↑ https://i.thehoroscope.co/how-to-get-a-scorpio-man-back-what-no-one-tells-you/
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      8. ↑ Angel Eyedealism. Astrologer & Performance Artist. Expert Interview. 13 January 2022.
      9. ↑ Jessica Lanyadoo. Astrologer & Psychic Medium. Expert Interview. 12 November 2019.
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      2. ↑ Jessica Lanyadoo. Astrologer & Psychic Medium. Expert Interview. 12 November 2019.
      3. ↑ https://mensvariety.com/scorpio-man-bed-relationships/

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