Catching your girlfriend in a lie can leave you upset, confused, and disappointed. While you can’t control whether she decides to lie, you can try to understand her motives and reasoning. In this article, we’ll walk you through all the reasons why your girlfriend might lie to you, whether she tells a little white lie or lies all the time. We also talked to licensed professional counselor Tara Vossenkemper, PhD, LPC, and psychotherapist Kelli Miller, LCSW, MSW, for tips on confronting your partner about their lies.
Top Reasons Why Your Girlfriend Lies to You
Your girlfriend might lie because she’s afraid of upsetting or offending you. It’s possible that she did something you wouldn’t appreciate and lied to avoid the consequences. Alternatively, she may lie to you because she’s feeling insecure and wants to protect her ego, or because she’s covering for someone else.
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QuestionWhat should you do if you think your girlfriend lies to you?Kelli Miller is a Psychotherapist based in Los Angeles, California. Kelli specializes in individual and couples therapy focusing on relationships, depression, anxiety, sexuality, communication, parenting, and more. She is the author of “Love Hacks: Simple Solutions to Your Most Common Relationship Issues” which details the top 15 relationship issues and 3 quick solutions to each. She is also the award-winning and best-selling author of “Thriving with ADHD”. Kelli co-hosted an advice show on LA Talk Radio and was a relationship expert for The Examiner. She received her MSW (Masters of Social Work) from the University of Pennsylvania and a BA in Sociology/Health from the University of Florida.I would talk to her about how you could make her more comfortable around you. You know, there may be some kind of fear about your reaction, or she may be trying to protect you from an unpleasant feeling. Try to make her as comfortable around you as possible and encourage her to open up to you. If she does say something that doesn't make you the happiest, try to react poorly. By taking it in stride, she'll feel more comfortable opening up to you in the future.
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- ↑ Tara Vossenkemper, PhD, LPC. Licensed Professional Counselor. Expert Interview. 27 October 2021.
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