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Occasionally misbehaving at school is normal, but sometimes your behavior may upset your teacher. If you've disrespected your teacher, you may need to write an apology letter. Writing an apology letter to your teacher is easy to accomplish. To write your letter, you just need to think out your apology, format your letter, and give the letter to your teacher.
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Sample Apology Letters
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Acknowledge what you did wrong. Whether you made a mistake or forgot to do something you were supposed to do, state what you did and that you know it was wrong. Reflect on why what you did was wrong before you write out your apology. [1] X Research source [2] X Expert Source Alicia Oglesby
Professional School Counselor Expert Interview. 29 October 2020.- If you're having trouble understanding why what you did was wrong, talk to your parents, the principal, the counselor, or another teacher. It may also help to think about how your actions affected your classmates.
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Be direct. Say exactly what you did and apologize. For example, say, “I’m sorry that I tried to copy my friend’s quiz,” rather than “My behavior last week was wrong.” [3] X Research sourceAdvertisement -
Use “I” statements. Don't try to figure out what your teacher is thinking or to put the focus back on them. When you apologize, focus on your actions and feelings. [4] X Research source- For example, say, “I know that you were speaking to the class, and I should not have been talking to Alex while you were speaking.”
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Don't make excuses. It's tempting to minimize your blame or explain yourself with an excuse. Maybe there really is a great reason for why you acted the way you did, but bringing it up in your apology will only undermine your efforts because it shows the teacher that you don't feel totally at fault. [5] X Research source- If you feel like your behavior was caused by an outside factor, such as a new medication you are using, set up a time to talk to your teacher, either with or without your parents. At the meeting, explain your situation to your teacher, who will understand. This is a great option if you know that the medicine may cause the issue again. For example, if your medicine makes you drowsy, then your teacher needs to know that you may fall asleep.
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Don't blame the teacher. Blaming the teacher will only make the situation worse. When you put the blame on the other person in an apology, then it becomes about you, not about them. It also shows them that you don't think what you did was wrong because you think it's their fault. [6] X Research source- Blaming the teacher also includes saying something like “I’m sorry if you felt like I disrespected you yesterday when I shouted during the test.” Saying “if you felt” places blame on the other person for how they feel. It shows them that you don't think you did anything wrong but instead think they overreacted. [7] X Research source
- A better way to say your apology would be like this: “I’m sorry I disrespected you yesterday when I shouted during the test.”
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Plan to be better in the future. Now that you've realized that what you did was wrong, think of ways you can avoid that behavior in the future. How you plan to be better will depend on what you did. [8] X Research source- Think about what you could have done instead. [9] X Research source If you were talking during class, then you could have been taking notes instead. If you got into a fight, you could have used your words or should have found an adult to help you resolve the issue.
- If you made a huge mistake, such as shoving a teacher, then you want to make it clear that you will never do it again. You could say, “Instead of shoving you, I should have stepped back and asked to go get a sip of water to calm down.”
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Keep your promises. When you apologize and promise to do better, you need to make sure that you can follow through. It's tempting to say what you think the other person wants to hear, especially when you're in trouble, but if you can't keep your promise, then your apology will come under doubt.- Don't promise your teacher that you'll never nod off in class again because that's a hard promise to keep. Instead, promise that you'll stop playing video games past your bedtime, you'll eat breakfast, and you'll keep your head up. These are all completely doable tasks.
- You don't have to “promise” anything. Instead, try saying, “From now on, I’ll raise my hand and wait for you to call on me when I want to speak in class.”
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Tell your teacher what you learned. Briefly summarize your lesson to show your teacher that you've grown from the incident. [10] X Research source- If you're struggling to figure out what to write, think about why what you did was wrong, and that will help you figure out what you learned.
- You could say, “I learned that it’s rude to talk while the teacher is talking.”
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Write your opening. “Dear Mr./Ms. (Name)” is a standard way to open any letter, but if your teacher has taught you something different, then use that.- Choose the right salutation. When you open your letter, make sure that you address it to your teacher with the correct form of Mr./Mrs./Ms./Miss.
- Avoid being too informal, such as writing, “Hey Miss Smith!”
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Thank your teacher. Begin your letter by showing your teacher that you value them. This will set a friendly tone for your letter and will show the teacher that you care.- Write something like, “Thank you so much for always being there to help me with my work. I’m glad to have you as my teacher.”
- You could also say, “Thank you for planning such fun lessons for us. I know that you put a lot of time into helping us learn, and I’m glad I get to be in your class.”
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Summarize what happened. Describe what you did or didn't do so that your teacher knows what you're apologizing for. [11] X Research source- Be specific. For example, say “I’m sorry that I used an inappropriate word during class yesterday” instead of “I’m sorry about what I did in class.” [12] X Research source
- Be concise in your explanation. Keep your summary of the events to no more than four sentences. Your teacher should be familiar with what happened.
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Apologize. You should explicitly use the words "I am sorry for..." or "I deeply apologize for..." to make it clear that you are admitting your errors and seeking their forgiveness. [13] X Expert Source Alicia Oglesby
Professional School Counselor Expert Interview. 29 October 2020. Tell your teacher that that you know that what you did was wrong, and that you will take steps to avoid repeating the same mistakes in the future. [14] X Research source -
Close your letter. Write “Sincerely” or “Thank you,” and then sign your name.
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Fold your letter. How you fold your letter will depend on the size of your envelope. The most common way to fold a letter is to imagine the letter divided into thirds.- Fold up the bottom third. Line up the edges and press down to create the fold.
- Now fold the top third of the page over to complete the fold.
- Your letter will look like a rectangle that is slightly smaller than a standard business envelope.
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Put your letter in an envelope. Seal the envelope and write your teacher's name on the front. -
Give the letter to your teacher. When you next see your teacher, hand them your letter. Try to do it before or after school or the class period when you have them. Avoid raising your hand and doing it during class, which will likely cause a disruption.- If you absolutely cannot face your teacher, then place it on their desk.
- Be prepared to explain the contents of your letter in person.
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QuestionHow do I apologize to my teacher for not doing homework?Alicia Oglesby is an Academic Counseling Expert based in Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania. She is currently pursuing a PhD in Education at the University of Pittsburgh and working as a Graduate Research Assistant. She was previously employed as the Associate Director of College Counseling at the Winchester Thurston School. Prior to that, she worked as a Director of School and College Counseling at 4 other secondary schools. With over twelve years of experience in academic counseling, Alicia specializes in academic advising, social-emotional skills, and career counseling. Alicia holds Professional School Counseling Certifications in both Washington DC and Pennsylvania. She has created a college counseling program in its entirety and developed five programs focused on application workshops, parent information workshops, essay writing collaborative, peer-reviewed application activities, and financial aid literacy events. Alicia holds a BS in Psychology from Howard University and a Master’s in Clinical Counseling and Applied Psychology from Chestnut Hill College.Honestly, a simple "I'm sorry" is totally fine. The best thing you can actually do in this scenario is just start doing your homework! Your teacher is getting irritated because they want to see you succeed, so make it up to them by succeeding in the future!
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QuestionIs it okay to email my apology?Alicia Oglesby is an Academic Counseling Expert based in Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania. She is currently pursuing a PhD in Education at the University of Pittsburgh and working as a Graduate Research Assistant. She was previously employed as the Associate Director of College Counseling at the Winchester Thurston School. Prior to that, she worked as a Director of School and College Counseling at 4 other secondary schools. With over twelve years of experience in academic counseling, Alicia specializes in academic advising, social-emotional skills, and career counseling. Alicia holds Professional School Counseling Certifications in both Washington DC and Pennsylvania. She has created a college counseling program in its entirety and developed five programs focused on application workshops, parent information workshops, essay writing collaborative, peer-reviewed application activities, and financial aid literacy events. Alicia holds a BS in Psychology from Howard University and a Master’s in Clinical Counseling and Applied Psychology from Chestnut Hill College.Yes, absolutely. In fact, that may come off as more professional or adult-like. Don't feel weird about emailing an apology!
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QuestionWhat should I do if I don't have enough time to write a full letter?Alicia Oglesby is an Academic Counseling Expert based in Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania. She is currently pursuing a PhD in Education at the University of Pittsburgh and working as a Graduate Research Assistant. She was previously employed as the Associate Director of College Counseling at the Winchester Thurston School. Prior to that, she worked as a Director of School and College Counseling at 4 other secondary schools. With over twelve years of experience in academic counseling, Alicia specializes in academic advising, social-emotional skills, and career counseling. Alicia holds Professional School Counseling Certifications in both Washington DC and Pennsylvania. She has created a college counseling program in its entirety and developed five programs focused on application workshops, parent information workshops, essay writing collaborative, peer-reviewed application activities, and financial aid literacy events. Alicia holds a BS in Psychology from Howard University and a Master’s in Clinical Counseling and Applied Psychology from Chestnut Hill College.You could just write out a short apology on a post-it note or a small scrap of paper and hand that to them before the class is over. It doesn't need to be some kind of giant 5-paragraph apology. It's the gesture that counts!
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Tips
- Remember that your teacher cares about you, even if you did make a mistake.Thanks
- If you have difficulty with wording your letter, ask a different teacher for assistance. They will know what is expected of you and will be more than happy to help.Thanks
- Be honest about your actions.Thanks
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Warnings
- Don't write anything inappropriate. Imagine reading your letter aloud to your entire family. If you wouldn't want them to read it, then don't write it.Thanks
- Don't plagiarize your letter, especially by copying it directly from the internet. Use your own words to make your letter truly honest.Thanks
- Don't say that you were forced to write the letter by either your parents or the principal, even if it's true.Thanks
- Don't try to manipulate your teacher with an apology letter.Thanks
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References
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/how-be-grown/201206/how-craft-the-perfect-apology
- ↑ Alicia Oglesby. Professional School Counselor. Expert Interview. 29 October 2020.
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/how-be-grown/201206/how-craft-the-perfect-apology
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/how-be-grown/201206/how-craft-the-perfect-apology
- ↑ https://www.letters.org/category/apology-letter
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/how-be-grown/201206/how-craft-the-perfect-apology
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/how-be-grown/201206/how-craft-the-perfect-apology
- ↑ https://www.letters.org/category/apology-letter
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/how-be-grown/201206/how-craft-the-perfect-apology
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/how-be-grown/201206/how-craft-the-perfect-apology
- ↑ https://www.letters.org/category/apology-letter
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/how-be-grown/201206/how-craft-the-perfect-apology
- ↑ Alicia Oglesby. Professional School Counselor. Expert Interview. 29 October 2020.
- ↑ https://www.letters.org/category/apology-letter
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If you need to write an apology letter to a teacher, start by acknowledging what you did wrong and reflect on why it was wrong. From there, apologize directly by saying “I’m sorry.” Throughout your letter, use “I” statements so the focus isn’t on your teacher, but rather on your actions and feelings. While it might be tempting to minimize your blame or place it on someone else, don’t make excuses, since it will only undermine your efforts by making you seem like you don’t care. In the next paragraph, write down ways you can avoid that bad behavior in the future and tell your teacher what you’ve learned from the experience. For more help, like how to format your apology letter, read on.
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