10 Smart Ways to Ask Someone if They Like Your Friend

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When your friend has a new crush, you probably know all about it. Talking, texting, and gushing about them all the time is totally normal—but taking the next step might feel a little scary for your friend. You can be a good friend by putting on your detective hat and seeing if the feeling is mutual.

Here are 10 clever ways to ask someone if they’re crushing on your friend.

1

Be straight up.

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    Make sure you get your friend’s permission before talking to their crush. If your friend’s okay with it, simply walk up to your friend’s crush and pop the question. Try to do it privately so they don’t feel like they’re on the spot. [1]
    • You could simply ask, “Hey, do you like Breanne?”
    • Keep in mind that your friend’s crush might be too shy to admit their feelings to you, so they might say no, even if they don’t mean it.
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2

Send a quick text.

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    Your friend’s crush might feel better about admitting their feelings if you shoot them a text or DM. If you have their number, just ask them who they have a crush on or if they like your friend. [2]
    • Send a simple text like, “Hey, do you have a crush on anyone?”
    • If the answer is yes, you can forward the good news to your friend! If the answer is no, you can slowly but surely convince your friend to set their sights on someone else.
3

Drop a hint.

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    You don’t have to spill all your friends’ secrets (like how they write about their crush in a journal every night), but you can give their crush a clue. Put your friend on their radar by saying something like: [3]
    • “You probably already know this, but Jessica thinks you’re cute.”
    • “Have you talked to Brian lately? I think he kinda likes you.”
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4

Inquire about their love life.

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    If they’re talking to someone or hanging out with someone else, you can probably tell that they don’t like your friend. If they make it clear that they’re single, though, your friend still has a chance! [4]
    • Say something like, “So, are you dating anyone?”
    • Or, “How’s the love life been lately?”
5

See if they’re looking for a relationship.

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    Ask them a few questions to see if they’re looking for someone to date or if they’re not super interested. If they are open for a relationship, your friend still has a chance! [5]
    • Say something like, “You’ve been single for a while now. Are you looking for a new girlfriend?”
    • Or, “I heard that you and your boyfriend broke up. Are you taking a break from the dating scene for a while?”
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6

Ask if they have a type.

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    If your friend’s crush describes your friend to a tee, they’re probably a good match! You can also ask about people they’ve dated in the past to get a better read on who they might like. [6]
    • Ask something like, “Do you have a type?”
    • Or, “What kind of people do you normally date?”
7

See if they have a crush on anyone.

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    Try asking your friend’s crush who they like or who they’re eyeing right now to get a read on the situation. Don’t push it too hard, or you might be a little obvious. [7]
    • Say something like, “Do you have a crush on anyone?” Or, “Who do you like?”
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8

Give a hypothetical about who they’d date.

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    Phrase it in a way that makes it seem totally crazy. You can keep it lowkey while still getting a straight answer out of your friend’s crush. Try not to make it obvious, and say something like: [8]
    • “If you absolutely had to date one of my friends, who would you pick?”
    • “If you had to, which of my friends would you ask out on a date?”
9

Ask if they want your friend’s number.

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    Check in with your friend first to make sure it’s okay. Then, offer to text your friend’s crush your friend’s number so they can hang out later. If they say yes, it’s a good sign! [9]
    • Say something like, “Hey, I could give you Taylor’s number if you want it.”
    • Your friend might be embarrassed about this at first, but they’ll be grateful later on when they get a fun text from their crush.
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10

Compliment your friend.

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    Try hinting about how cool or awesome your friend is when their crush is around. You could compliment their school work, their outfit, or how kind they are. Try something like: [10]
    • “Elaine always wears the coolest outfits to school.”
    • “It’s crazy how smart James is. He’s probably the smartest guy in our school.”

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      1. ↑ https://herway.net/relationship/how-to-ask-someone-if-they-like-you/
      2. ↑ https://herway.net/relationship/how-to-ask-someone-if-they-like-you/
      3. ↑ https://www.seventeen.com/love/a35506/things-that-happen-when-your-friend-has-a-new-crush/
      4. ↑ https://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/a31346416/questions-to-ask-your-crush/
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      7. ↑ https://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/a31346416/questions-to-ask-your-crush/
      8. ↑ https://www.youtube.com/watch?t=304&v=7cOi8hdaeUQ&feature=youtu.be
      9. ↑ https://www.refinery29.com/en-us/how-to-set-up-friends-blind-dating
      1. ↑ https://www.pride.com/sex/2016/6/07/7-ways-be-best-gaybi-wingman-help-your-friend-get-some

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