How to Attract an Aquarius Man As a Scorpio Woman

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Scorpio, if you're crushing on a quirky and intelligent Aquarius guy, then you've chosen well! You may be wondering how exactly you can snag this air sign's heart. With your witty and mysterious nature, it's sure to be a snap. For all the very best tips on how you can attract your Aquarius crush, read on.
This article is based on an interview with our astrologer and performance artist, Angel Eyedealism. Check out the full interview here.

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Engage him in intellectual conversation.

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  1. Ask him engaging questions, show interest in the rigorous topics he’s passionate about, and let all of your off-the-wall opinions fly. [1] Astrologer Angel Eyedealism suggests that you "talk about ideas or concepts." So, for example, instead of launching into a deep conversation about love, "talk about the intellectual construct of love or the ivory tower of love to get [him] to relax a little bit." He's an air sign, so Aquarius feels that stimulating chats are the ultimate pastime, but he's not necessarily interest in full depth right off the bat.
    • Ask him open-ended questions to kick off a discussion: “Do you think there’s any chance that we’re living in a simulation?”
    • Aquarians are passionate about humanitarian issues, so show him you’re interested in them, too: “Did you read that new report about the climate crisis?”
    • Men of this sign love a totally unique opinion, so share your wild theories: “I genuinely believe that K-12 school should be held outside. Here's why…” [2]
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Draw him into fun debates.

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  1. [3] When Aquarius realizes that you aren’t afraid to challenge his opinions, he’ll be absolutely obsessed, Scorpio. During your next conversation, listen closely for a chance to kick off a friendly (but rigorous!) debate. If he says something you disagree with, let him know.
    • Challenge his opinion: “Do you really think that The Neon Skyline is Andy Shauf’s best album? I feel like The Party is hard to beat.
    • Ask him to expand on his logic: “What specifically do you think makes The Neon Skyline better? I might have to challenge you on this one…”
    • Scorpio, you’re quick and observant. Use this to your advantage! Stay civil, listen close, and poke holes in his argument when you can. He’ll love it.
3

Build a friendship first.

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  1. Scorpio, when you like someone, you’d probably rather jump right into an intense, emotional deep-dive. But to snag an Aquarius, move at his pace instead. Be a great friend to him first. Hang out platonically—whether that’s in groups or alone. Bond with him, integrate him into your circle, and wait for him to initiate romance. [4] However, astrologer Angel Eyedealism cautions against going too far down this path: "remember with Aquarians it's so easy to fall into the friend zone." Instead of forgoing the romantic connection all together, she suggests that you go slow and "breach physical or intimate emotionality with an Aquarius carefully."
    • When your Aquarius crush is hanging out with his pals, tag along. Get to know him better through the people he cares most about.
    • Then, return the favor. Invite him to hang out with your circle of friends. If you’ve got a group camping trip coming up, for instance, save him a spot in the tent.
    • When you're alone, focus on getting to know who he is as a person—not as a boyfriend. Ask him questions while you bowl, hike, or go sightseeing.
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Be mysterious.

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  1. Scorpio, Pluto is one of your ruling planets. That makes you the definition of mysterious. Keep him on the line by playing hard to get. Avoid sharing too many personal details, but when you do, make sure you surprise him. If you can make an Aquarius man think, “ Wow, this girl is so unique and interesting ,” that’ll work in your favor. [5]
    • Evade personal questions when you’re getting to know each other: “I’m going to keep you in suspense for now. Maybe I’ll share that later on.”
    • Turn the questioning back onto him: “This totally isn’t fair. Before I answer any more questions, you’re going to have to answer a few of mine.”
    • Share personal details that’ll take him by surprise: “Because of my nose ring and tattoos, people are usually surprised to learn that I did the pageant circuit.”
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Plan surprises for him.

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  1. [6] That's because he's ruled by Uranus, the planet of innovation. Improv may not always come naturally to you, Scorpio—because as a fixed sign, you like structure and plans. Don’t worry, to impress an Aquarius, you don’t need to be naturally wild and free. Instead, use your organizational skills to plan surprises for him. Surprise him with thoughtful, quirky presents, a road trip, or a zany activity.
    • Pick out a gift you know he’ll love and give it to him when he least expects it. On a random Tuesday, show up to hang with an action figure he's wanted.
    • Tell him to block out his upcoming Saturday. Plan a silly trip. Buy snacks, make a playlist, and find directions to the world’s largest strawberry, for example.
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Keep things lighthearted.

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  1. Scorpio, you’re into big feelings, 24/7. [7] With your Aquarius crush, connect through shared laughter and fun instead. You two can absolutely still share tender, intimate moments, but let him initiate them. Then, find ways to meaningfully bond without actually discussing your emotions. [8]
    • Connect with him by making jokes, having dance parties, and enjoying activities together. Sharing fun, light moments together will make him feel close to you.
    • Instead of asking him about his deep feelings, ask him about something he’s passionate about: “Why do you think volunteering is so important to you?”
7

Show him you're empathetic.

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  1. Scorpio, as a water sign, you’re extremely empathetic and insightful. Use this to your advantage! Find ways to use your natural emotional intelligence to help other people. Then, make sure your Aquarius crush is aware of your good deeds. [9]
    • When a friend is down, use empathy to find the perfect mood-booster: “Sarah loves words of affirmation. I’m bringing a letter by to cheer her up.”
    • Or, use your insight to help your Aquarius crush: “Hey, I noticed you seemed stressed. Want to go for a long walk? I know those help you feel centered.”
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Be loyal.

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  1. That’s you to a T, Scorpio! You value loyalty just as much as he does, so this is a huge area for connection between you two. [10] When he needs help, be there. When he gets into a heated debate, make sure you take his side. Prove to him that you’ve got his back, and that will go a long way.
    • Be the person who shows up when he needs it. Say he runs out of gas on the way home. Make sure you’re the person who comes to his rescue.
    • For Aquarius men, riveting debates are hard to resist. Next time, take his side in public: “I’m with Mario. That first point he made makes a ton of sense.”
    • Aquarius men tend to keep feelings to themselves, so if he opens up, that’s big. Make sure he knows he can trust you with his emotions: “I won’t judge you. You can talk to me.”
9

Prove that you're honest.

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  1. Both of you value telling it like it is—so, use that to your advantage. Make sure your Aquarius crush knows that you’d never lie just to spare his feelings. Even when it’s tough, tell him what you really think. Luckily, Scorpio, honesty comes easily to you.
    • If he needs advice, be real with him: “I’m not going to lie, Danny. I think you need to talk to your roommate. I know that’s not what you want to hear, but…”
    • If he wants your opinion on something, be honest—even when it’s hard: “You know I think you’re an amazing songwriter. I liked your last piece a bit better.
    • Like you, Aquarius is a natural sleuth. If you keep a secret, he’s likely to uncover them eventually. So to gain his trust, be upfront and open.
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Do your own thing.

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  1. So he’s definitely looking for a crush who knows how to focus on himself. Scorpio, this will be a piece of cake for you. Show him that you have your own passions, goals, and projects. When the two of you spend time apart, make sure he knows that you’re not just waiting by the phone.
    • Send texts that highlight the fun you have with your other close relationships: “Wow, I had SUCH a fun day! Rachel and I went caving. 🤠”
    • When you can’t hang out, explain that you’re busy working towards a goal: “Aw, man! Can’t Friday. I’m spending the night cranking out a scene in my screenplay.”
    • Fill him in on all of your amazing hobbies: “I love working with my hands. I’ve been really into pottery. I spend at least a couple hours a week at the wheel.”
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Keep jealousy on the DL.

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  1. This might cause him to bolt. Scorpio, you may feel you struggle a bit with jealousy, but don’t stress. Feelings of jealousy are normal, and to keep him on the hook, simply redirect your feelings into something else. When you’re feeling the effects of the green monster, vent to your friends, pick up a creative hobby, or walk away from the conversation. [11]
    • Reach out to that friend who’s an amazing listener. Offer to buy them a cup of joe in exchange for a little vent sesh.
    • Channel your energy into something creative or active. Anything from a run to a little guitar practice can help shake off negative feelings.
    • Come up with an excuse to walk away if you start to feel jealous: “Hey you know what, I’m getting a little headache. I’m going to lie down for a bit.”
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Are Aquarius and Scorpio compatible?
Angel Eyedealism
Astrologer & Performance Artist
Aquarius is a sign that needs time and space for intellectual detachment. They need a partner who won't get too personal too fast; Aquarians hate that because they're all about thoughts and concepts and intellectualism. But because Aquarians are so in their head, you need to let them know that you're physically and sexually interested in them.

Meanwhile, Scorpio is a sign of obsession and of sexuality: they like intensity, they like passion. If they don't feel engaged and enthralled with you and sexual and intimate with you, then they're not going to have interest in you.
wikiHow Editorial Team
Aquarius and Scorpio can be romantically compatible as long as they maintain awareness of their different approaches to love and emotions.

Aquarius, as an air sign, lives in their head and has a tendency to overintellectualize things. They also are known to avoid emotions and prioritize their independence. On the other hand, water sign Scorpio can be super intense, emotional, brooding, and even obsessive, and they may be a bit too possessive for ultra-independent Aquarius. Scorpio may require more emotional intimacy than distant Aquarius is comfortable offering.

If these two signs can reconcile themselves to these differences and figure out a way to meet somewhere in the middle, they can make a great pair. They're both creative, unique, headstrong, very loyal, and they have a lot to learn from one another.
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    Angel Eyedealism is an Astrologer and Performance Artist based in the Lower East Side of Manhattan. With nearly three decades of astrology experience, Angel specializes in relocation astrology and astrocartography. Eyedealism has been featured in numerous media outlets such as Vogue, Cosmopolitan, The Atlantic, The Washington Post, Refinery29, NBC, MTV, Showtime, and Bravo. Angel aims to help others through a straightforward, kind, and humorous astrological lens, utilizing her entertainment and singing skills for performance art astrology readings.
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    Engage with them on a thoughtful and intellectual level first! Aquarians really love their space, and appreciate intellectual discussions more than personal questions (especially if you're just getting to know each other).
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