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Kelli Miller, LCSW, MSW

Psychotherapist

Kelli Miller is a Psychotherapist based in Los Angeles, California. Kelli specializes in individual and couples therapy focusing on relationships, depression, anxiety, sexuality, communication, parenting, and more. She is also an award-winning and best-selling author. Her latest book, “Love Hacks: Simple Solutions to Your Most Common Relationship Issues", details the top 15 relationship issues and 3 quick solutions to each.

Education

  • University of Pennsylvania, MSW
  • University of Florida, BA, Health/Sociology

Professional Achievements

  • Published "Love Hacks: Simple Solutions to Your Most Common Relationship Issues" in 2024
  • Published “Professor Kelli’s Guide to Finding a Husband” in 2010
  • Published “Thriving with ADHD” in 2018, winner of the Indie Book Award and Firebird Book Award
  • Co-hosted advice show on LA Talk Radio, currently hosts livestream show on Balance by Nature
  • Columnist for Psychology Today

Certifications & Organizations

  • Licensed Clinical Social Worker
  • Spokesperson for Brillia, ADHD Awareness
  • Psychotherapist Consultant for Cognitive Leap

Philosophy

Kelli strives to provide both immediate, short-term solutions and long-term, in-depth care for a wide variety of clients. Her strengths include helping clients develop better self-esteem, facilitating open and constructive communication among family members, and working with romantic partners to address underlying causes of dissatisfaction in a relationship.

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Husband can't be faithful
After your husband cheats, you need to tell your husband how you feel: that you're hurt, that you're sad, that you're angry. It's important for you to vocalize that. After infidelity, the partner who has been cheated on often feels extremely vulnerable, making it even harder to say how they're feeling, but I really would encourage that. That way, they may feel less isolated. And when something like infidelity happens, there's going to be waves: you may feel close and connected to your partner one day, and really angry the next day. That's grief, and when there's infidelity, there is a loss of trust of your partner which can result in grief.

Also, if you have questions about why this occurred or what happened, ask them. Infidelity isn't necessarily the end of a relationship. In fact, it can be a really nice opening for a deeper and more connected relationship. So I think there's an opportunity here for partners to grow and learn from what happened. When the time is right, talk about what wasn't working in the relationship, or why you didn't feel connected. And then, figure out a plan going forward to feel more connected and more safe.
How do I forgive my cheating husband?
Remember that forgiveness is a process, not an event. You may feel very forgiving towards your husband one day, and the next day, you may have a flashback to the event, and you may get triggered and angry at him for cheating all over again, and that's totally normal. It's something that you both are going to be working toward, and it may take more time than you want. Your husband has to understand that you may ask him the same questions over and over again.

But I think if both of you establish common goals and agree on where you want to be, what you want to do, how you want to be more connected, that will help you throughout the process. I think it's really important for the partner who was unfaithful to reinforce their commitment, and really try to earn your trust back. Trust has to be earned.
My ex returned only some things I had given him
When a relationship ends, we often want to analyze everything in hopes that we can feel our ex-partner still cares or wants to continue. It’s like we want to take pieces of a puzzle and make them mean something. I caution people to try not to do this, but rather get clear signals from their ex-partner. This means actual words about wanting to get back together and/or actions that show they want to resolve the relationship.

I am a licensed clinical social worker providing general information for educational purposes only. I am not liable for any decisions made or actions taken based on the information provided.
What are the telltale signs of a narcissist?
Only a trained professional would be able to tell for sure, but typically, if you see these traits, it may be likely that you're dealing with a narcissistic person:
  • They tend to have a grandiose sense of self-importance.
  • They may feel that they can only be understood by other exceptional and extraordinary people.
  • They have a strong desire for admiration, a sense of entitlement, a lack of empathy, and even resentment toward others.
Narcissism is a spectrum. There's a difference between somebody who is narcissistic, and somebody who has narcissistic personality disorder. A narcissistic person can have some of those traits and not necessarily have NPD.

I am a licensed clinical social worker providing general information for educational purposes only. I am not liable for any decisions made or actions taken based on the information provided.
How can you make a girl fall for you?
While there isn’t necessarily a specific way to make a girl fall for you, you'll have a better chance at winning her heart if you’re being yourself as much as possible. Besides that, you might give her a few compliments that show you appreciate her talents and personality. If you think you'd be a good match, go ahead and ask her if she'd like to hang out together, so you can get to know each other better.

I am a licensed clinical social worker providing general information for educational purposes only. I am not liable for any decisions made or actions taken based on the information provided.
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