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Aries men (March 21 - April 19) love bold, sophisticated, and savvy women. It's no wonder you've fallen for this guy—he's confident, charming, and sexy as hell. Catching his eye is all about working with what you’ve got and having the confidence to reel him in. If you want to get an Aries man, it’s important to work your magic from that first glance to forming a lasting relationship! Plus, we spoke with astrologers Stina Garbis and Kyle Thompson to get their best advice for attracting and having a relationship with an Aries man.

This article is partially based on an interview with our psychic astrologer, Stina Garbis, owner of Psychic Stina. Check out the full interview here.

How to Attract an Aries Man

You have to be bold if you want to catch the eye of an Aries man. Make your interest clear with strong eye contact, compliments, and a flirty touch, but don’t come on too strong. Aries likes to feel needed and act as your protector, but he also likes someone who can engage him in intellectual debate.

Section 1 of 5:

Getting an Aries Man to Notice You

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  1. Aries men are often attracted to women who look traditionally feminine because it can bring out their protective side. But don’t feel you have to change who you are to catch his eye. Aries men love the thrill of the hunt, so they’re always on the lookout for someone interesting to pursue. [1] But your hairstyle, the clothes you wear, and the way you smell can engage his senses, which is a good strategy with the sensual sign of Aries.
    • Wear dresses and skirts that show off your feminine curves… and maybe give him a flash of leg.
    • Exfoliate and moisturize your skin so it’s soft skin to touch.
    • Wear your hair long or soften short styles with curls or waves.
    • Choose a luscious floral or vanilla fragrance to intoxicate him.
  2. Aries love to flirt. In their minds, it keeps every situation spicy. One of Aries’s favorite ways to turn up the heat is with intense eye contact . Hold his gaze to show your confidence… and give him a little bit of a challenge. [2]
    • Flirt with him on every level— use body language , eye contact, and your words.
    • Smile, stand up straight with your shoulders back, and angle your body toward him. Keep your arms comfortably at your sides, not crossed over your chest.
    • Aries is a fiery, passionate, sexual sign. If your lustful, impulsive side is buried under inhibitions or insecurities, your Aries is likely to look the other way.
    • Reader Poll: We asked 2819 wikiHow readers about how Aries men typically flirt, and only 9% said by flexing his muscles or showing his skin . [Take Poll] So, look for other signs that he’s flirting with you back, such as making intense eye contact.
  3. In addition to confidence, Aries loves a clever woman. He wants someone who can match him intellectually—the Aries man is not a fan of boredom (and that's putting it lightly). Garbis suggests that you tease your Aries! He’ll love the attention, especially if you do it slyly and with a grin. [3]
    • Above all, Aries men need to be entertained. Being clever can do just that!
    • Don't just spit out facts, though—add a little humor and personality to your conversation. In short, be yourself !
    • Try double entendres and plays on words to add some spice to your interaction.
  4. Aries men are very tuned into their bodies and how others operate in theirs. Take advantage of his physical awareness with a light “accidental” touch. As you pass him, graze his back with your shoulder or fingertips. Playfully tap his arm when he says something funny. [4]
    • Take it to the next level by tousling the hair at the nape of his neck or dangling a heel against his calf. It will drive him wild.
    • If you can keep him engaged on multiple levels (intellectually, sensually, etc.), he’ll be even more intrigued by you.
  5. Let's put it out there: the Aries man is pretty fond of himself. In order to win his heart, you'll have to play along. Give him the praise he believes he deserves. Garbis suggests, “Start any sentence with them with, ‘You are…’ Like, ‘You are so strong.’ ‘You are so great.’ ‘You’re so amazing.’ Then, you would be heading in the right direction.” [5]
    • Garbis adds, “They love attention and hate being alone with no one telling them how great they are.” [6]
    • His giant ego is just a part of his personality. Some find it charming. If that’s you, he'll love you for it!
  6. The Aries man needs a strong personality to counter his boundless enthusiasm and drive. Though he loves to be a protector, he also needs a woman who’s confident and not afraid to argue with him if necessary. Garbis explains, “If you poke at an Aries lightly and flirtatiously, and make them a little mad, it might drive them wild. But tread lightly. An Aries’s anger is not something to toy with.” [7] Aries is the sign of the ram, a notoriously aggressive animal.
    • Show him you know and love who you are, and he won't be able to argue with it.
    • Just because you're praising him and being coquettish doesn't mean you can't be confident about it!
    • It shows him you know what you're doing and are definitely interested in him.
Section 2 of 5:

Starting a Relationship with an Aries Man

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  1. An Aries man likes to think he’s the pursuer and you’re his lovely catch. Thomas explains, “If something has value to them, it becomes especially sparkly and significant, which feeds into their love of that cat-and-mouse dynamic.” [8] So don’t make it easy for him! Enjoy the attention he pours on you as he closes in on you.
    • Try to stay just out of reach. Let him think he's making progress and about to get you. If he doesn't see progress happening, he'll find another mouse to play with.
    • Wondering what it's like to date an Aries man? Check out what users have to say on wikiHow's "What is it like dating an Aries man?" forum !
  2. Aries loves a woman who can challenge him mentally. So, start an intellectual debate with him to get his brain juices running. However , be careful challenging him. Garbis reminds us, “Aries is ruled by the planet Mars, [named for the Roman] god of war.” [9] He is competitive, and he has to win or he gets sulky.
    • If you prove him wrong, he might not be able to handle it. Agree to disagree or tell him that he's made valid points that are getting you thinking.
    • Aries likes to argue and will sometimes take the opposing opinion for the fun of it. That means being a versatile conversationalist with an open mind.
  3. There is no room for boredom in an Aries man’s life. The second he gets bored, he goes somewhere else to get the excitement he craves. So be an adventure seeker yourself! Suggest dates that are exotic and a little crazier than your typical dinner and a movie. Garbis tells us Aries is up for anything that helps him burn off some energy and get his aggression out. [10]
    • Go to an amusement park, try skydiving, or go on an impromptu road trip.
    • Get last-minute tickets to see an action-packed basketball game or a wrestling match.
    • They also love creative or competitive pursuits, such as acting, singing, theater, or public speaking, explains Garbis. [11]
  4. Aries men—and fire signs in general—can be a bit self-centered and moody. He’s typically good-humored, but he can have a hot temper from time to time. In many cases, his anger is just a way to blow off some steam and snuffs out as quickly as it flares. “Aries forgives and forgets so easily and so quickly, it may just turn into them asking you out on a date a few days later,” Garbis says. [12]
    • Aries is usually pretty upbeat, but when his dark side comes out, it's important to stay calm and not take it personally.
    • When your Aries man loses his temper, try to remember his good qualities. He’s a driven, confident, charismatic, clever, and sensual guy.
    • However, if he’s blowing up at you, you don’t have to put up with it. If you tell him you aren’t going to put up with it and walk away, he’ll respect you even more.
  5. Aries men are easily distracted, so it can be hard to keep their attention for very long. But it is possible if you don't tell your guy your entire life story right from the beginning. Leave little gems for him to discover as he gets to know you to keep him thinking there's more of you to conquer!
    • It's important that you maintain your own identity while in this relationship. Stay connected with your friends and have a life he’s not part of.
    • Aries will feel like there's more territory he needs to conquer to get to know the real you. They don't want their partner to be too much of an open book!
Section 3 of 5:

Winning an Aries Man’s Heart

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  1. Aries hate being bored. Make things spicy and playful in the bedroom to keep the spark alive… and he’ll be coming back for more. He’s always ready to experiment in the bedroom and will be overjoyed that you’re right there with them. [13]
    • Try to be more impulsive in the rest of your life, too. Aries loves surprise gifts, last-minute trips, and spur-of-the-moment changes in plans.
    • Suggest an impromptu romp and refer to it as a “power lunch.”
    • Try initiating some sexy role-playing and he’ll be hot and bothered for days.
    • Instead of being bored, he'll spend his time wondering what the next day with you will bring… and looking forward to it!
  2. When you're springing surprise romantic gestures on your Aries man, make it clear you've been paying attention. He'll love it that you remembered a comment about Star Wars he made three months ago and bought him a lightsaber for his birthday. That's admiration in its finest form! The little things mean a ton to him.
    • This goes back to Aries needing praise and attention. Even if he seems self-assured and like he needs nothing, it's not true. He still needs others, craving their approval and notice. These little displays of your awesome observational skills will let him know you're there and giving him just what he needs.
  3. When you get to the relationship stage, the near-obsession your Aries man had for you at the beginning will fade. An Aries man needs to be free to find his true power. If you try to rein him in, he'll just explode. He relishes his independence and thrives on it, so it's important not to be too clingy. [14] Trust him and let him do his thing.
    • Aries wants a partner who has their own life. When you get too entwined with his, you're cramping his style.
    • Try to avoid texting him too much when you’re not together. It’s important to give him his space, or he might start to feel smothered.
    • Tell him about your hobbies to show him you’re fired up about them. When he tells you about his hobbies, cheer on his efforts and accomplishments.
  4. Aries is full of life, and he expects you to be too. How else could you keep up with him? He's constantly on the move. If you want to be with him, you need to be quite the Energizer bunny yourself. So get excited and show more enthusiasm about your life. Be passionate and go after what you want. [15] He’ll only love you more for it.
    • Don't be afraid to show your emotions. If something makes you excited, preach it on the hilltops!
    • And if your Aries is showing you how much he cares, definitely give him the reaction he's aiming for.
  5. At the end of the day, the Aries man wants to provide for you and be the man of your dreams. He’s an incredibly loyal partner, and like the chivalrous knights of old, he will stay true to his lady fair until the end. Let him “protect you” when you’re out for a walk, even if you don’t think there’s anything to protect you from. [16]
    • Allow yourself to be vulnerable with him. He'll love seeing the softer, genuine side of you and that you trust him enough to do so!
    • Though he can be erratic, moody, and fiercely independent, sharing your worries and fears will show him he can do the same.
Section 4 of 5:

Common Traits of an Aries Man

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  1. Aries, Leo, and Sagittarius are all what are called "fire" signs. This means just what it sounds like—they’re enthusiastic, larger than life, and unstoppable. Thomas shares, “A trait I love about Aries energy is that it's tied to childhood — they're free-spirited, independent, and genuinely joyous.” [17] They also tend to be very self-assured, confident, sexual, and incredibly creative. Your Aries is just that! [18]
    • Thomas tells us, “They want success, they want to express their ideas… they always feel that they're right.” [19]
    • The downside of this is that they have very strong personalities and can be seen as rather bossy.
    • “They can also be explosive and tend to push boundaries,” says Thomas. [20]
    • Thomas adds, “They often hunger for recognition—ego is a significant part of any Aries energy.” [21]
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    They dislike low enthusiasm, passive-aggression, and rigid routines. An Aries man will usually be open about what he likes… and what he doesn’t. [22] Obviously, every person will have different preferences, but there are a few common Aries man turn-offs:
    • You’re passive-aggressive with him. He’s a natural leader, but that doesn’t mean you should stifle any dissenting opinions. If you don’t like his decision, politely and clearly tell him so.
    • You never step out of your comfort zone. “Boredom is intolerable for an Aries,” states Thomas. [23] Aries men like adventure and spontaneity. If you refuse to put one toe out of your routine, he’s going to get bored. Try something new to show him you like a little excitement.
    • You don’t get excited about anything. Your passionate Aries guy loves to see that you have your own interests. If you don’t get excited about anything, he might get bored. Stay engaged with your hobbies and find new ones that you can do together.
    • You never ask him for help. Aries men like to be a hero. If you never ask him for help, he might start to think you don’t need him. So throw him a bone by asking him to change a flat tire or open the lid on a jar of spaghetti sauce.
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    There are a few different ways to tell if an Aries man likes you. According to Garbis, “They can not hold things back or keep things secret for very long. If an Aries likes you, they will find ways to tell you.” [24] Being a fire sign means he’s ready to act first and think later. This can be a problem if you’re wondering if he’s ready to commit, but it’s great if you want to know whether he’s interested or not. Here are a few ways an Aries man will tell you he likes you: [25]
    • He’s very obviously flirting with you.
    • He’s affectionate… very affectionate.
    • He wants to spend all of his time with you. Garbis says this is a clear indication they’re interested. If an Aries is spending time with you, that's another indicator that they are interested in you.
    • He brings you flowers.
    • He fights with you. “If an Aries is fighting with you, then they fiercely love you,” Garbis tells us.
    • He tells you.
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    Being ignored or betrayed absolutely breaks his heart. It takes Aries men a while to get serious about a relationship. But once you win his heart, he’s fiercely loyal. He’s also a little uncomfortable with being emotionally vulnerable. So, if you betray him, it’s going to really, really hurt him. [26]
    • “They crave a partner who will make it all about them—they have to be in the spotlight, similar to other fire sign energies,” says Thomas. [27]
    • He’s not usually jealous, but if he feels like you’re giving your attention to someone else and ignoring him, it will break his heart.
Section 5 of 5:

Aries Man Compatibility

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  1. Aries men are more compatible with some signs than others. Aries like to live their lives out loud. Their passionate and energetic nature is attractive, but not everyone appreciates that level of intensity in their daily lives. That means an Aries man is going to have better compatibility and be a better fit for some signs than others. But remember, it’s still possible for an Aries to have a great relationship with any zodiac sign.
    • Best matches:
      • Sagittarius – These 2 fire signs are destined to get along very, very well. They’re both adventurous and have a similar approach to emotions. This pair has the potential to be an epic love story for the ages.
      • Aquarius – Aries and Aquarius might seem like fire and water, but Aquarius is actually an air sign, which can make this pairing explosive…in a good way. They’re also independent and authentic, and appreciate those qualities in others.
      • Leo – These 2 fire signs make a passionate and exciting relationship. They both have big personalities and may need to tone it down to avoid big blow-ups when they argue.
      • Gemini – Aries and Gemini are both independent, social, and up for trying new things, which can make for a fun relationship vibe. As a cardinal sign, Aries will usually take the lead, which is fine by Gemini. [28]
    • Possible matches:
      • Aries – Normally, you’d expect 2 Aries to be the perfect couple, but that’s not always the case. They have big personalities that can lead to clashes if they don’t make an effort to put their competitive natures aside.
      • Libra – “Aries and Libra are polar opposites, representing war and peace. That dynamic can either be a perfect match or lead to significant challenges,” Thomas says. But opposites attract, so they can make a great team if they can meet in the middle. [29]
      • Virgo – Virgo is an overthinker, while Aries is impulsive. They often feel like they have nothing in common and might make better friends than lovers. But they do respect each other, and might be inspired to put the work in to make a love match.
      • Scorpio – These 2 are both ruled by the planet Mars, so they have the potential to be a great match. Aries can be immature and playful, while Scorpio is all business. But they might just spark a blazing hot romance. [30]
    • Challenging matches:
      • Taurus – An Aries-Taurus pairing can be a bit rocky because they live life at different paces, and they’re both stubborn. “For this match to work, both need to communicate and ensure they're getting what they need,” recommends Thomas. [31]
      • Cancer – These 2 have a lot of hurdles to clear. Cancer is a water sign, and Aries is fiery. And they both like to be in charge. It’s not hopeless, though. If Aries can be a little more sensitive and Cancer a little more open, they have a shot. [32]
      • Capricorn – Quiet, unassuming Capricorn can be easily overwhelmed by loud and flashy Aries. They’re also both incredibly stubborn cardinal signs. Compromise is the key to learning from each other and making this relationship work. [33]
      • Pisces – Aries is the first sign of the zodiac, and Pisces is the last, making this pairing a little awkward. Aries is direct and driven, while Pisces likes to go with the flow. They can be a successful pairing if they learn to see the world from the other’s perspective. [34]

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I've been seeing this really cute Aries guy recently and I'm wondering what Aries men are like in relationships. Are they good boyfriends? How do I make him fall for me?
Stina Garbis
Psychic Astrologer
Aries men emulate the phrase “I am.” So if you're talking to them and start any sentence with, “You are…”—like, “You are so strong,” “You are so great,” “You're so amazing”—then you'll be heading in the right direction. Aries men love attention and hate being alone with no one telling them how great they are.

On the flip side, if you lightly or flirtatiously tease an Aries man and make him a little mad, it might drive him wild. But tread lightly, an Aries' anger is not something to toy with. But if you do make an Aries man's blood boil a little, he will think about you a lot. If he finds you attractive, it may make him go wild with wanting to see you again so that he can tell you how he feels about what you said. But Aries men also forgive and forget really quickly and easily, so it may turn into him asking you out on a date a few days later.

Aries men are into themselves. Whatever he likes about himself (or his adopted persona at the time) is what he's into. Aries is ruled by the planet Mars, the god of war, so any space to release his aggression is where you will find Aries. He may be playing video games, practicing MMA, or watching or participating in sports. Other ways to channel this energy might be creative or competitive pursuits like acting, singing, theater, public speaking, social media, etc. I wouldn't advise becoming a competitor to an Aries man and trying to do everything that he does, but rather be a spectator or do something to complement him. If you become his favorite fan or collaborator and cheer him on, he will love and adore you.
Tara Divina
Vedic Astrologer
Aries men need space to think and be in their head, so give them lots of space. They also usually want people that can keep up with them mentally---make sure you're paying attention when an Aries man is explaining something. You don't want to have to ask tons of clarifying questions or ask the same question over and over. An Aries man also wants to feel like you're moving forward together. He might not be as interested in long-term planning, but you can win him over by taking on the long-term planning yourself.

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    When you're dating an Aries, first of all, it's really important that your Aries crush feels so important to you. If Aries gets an idea that they are not important to you, they will be offended. What you want to do is follow their lead while always stepping towards them.
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      • Many Aries men love exercise. If that’s your guy, join him at the gym. If you’re not into the gym scene, comment on his muscles or mention how strong he is.
      • Aries tends to be competitive, so he may enjoy playing sports or going to sports events. Some prefer other types of games and contests, but they’re usually gunning for first place.

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      • Aries guys respect daring decisions. If you have even a little bit of a feeling like he likes you back, don't hesitate to just go for it and ask him out. He'll appreciate the audacity of the move, and even if he says no, he'll respect the attempt and it shouldn't impact your friendship.
      • Aries men tend to be a little impulsive and spontaneous. Lean into that by surprising him with a unique activity that can turn into a "date" organically. Go-kart racing, mini-golf, paintball, and escape rooms are all great options.
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      Warnings

      • Aries men tend to be extremely independent with fiery temperaments. This can sometimes make your guy a bit impatient, which may cause problems in a relationship.
      • You may have to set some clear boundaries with your Aries man. Just be direct and specific, and a smitten ram will respect your wishes happily.

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