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Talking over text is a convenient way to get to know someone new or catch up with old friends, but sometimes it can be hard to figure out what to say next. Luckily, there are a ton of ways you can keep things interesting, like asking open-ended questions and discussing topics that interest you. We've got all the best tips and tricks you need to know to keep a text conversation going, including expert advice from dating coach Joshua Pompey.
Ways to Keep a Text Conversation Going
- Ask open-ended questions so the other person can talk about their interests.
- Send a funny joke, meme, or GIF if you don’t know what to say.
- Try to give detailed responses rather than dry, one-word answers.
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QuestionWhat do you say to keep a conversation going?Joshua Pompey is a Relationship Expert and Founder of Next Evolution Matchmaking (NEM) based in New York City, NY. With over 15 years in the industry, Joshua helps his clients navigate online dating and has a success rate of over 99%. His work has been featured in CNBC, Good Morning America, Wired, and Refinery29 and he has been referred to as the best online dater in the world.When it comes to keeping conversations going, you want to avoid the small talk and just get into the meat of the conversation. It could be a story, a question, or a joke, but skip the unimportant stuff. So let's say you’re gonna text someone, you might start the text with, “Wow, you won’t believe what my coworker just did”, or, “Have you seen this new Netflix documentary? I'm watching it right now, it's so crazy,” and then just let the conversation naturally evolve. When you start conversations in a more natural way, it's more entertaining and it looks less desperate than just saying, “Hey, what's up?”
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QuestionHow do I keep a text conversation going if the other person doesn't ask questions back?Community AnswerTell them a little about your day, or share something in the hopes of getting a response.
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QuestionWhat if someone says "K" or "OK"?Community AnswerThis is generally just an acknowledgement they are listening, but it can mean they're getting bored, depending on the tone of the conversation.
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- Don’t take things personally if the conversation doesn’t go as well as you’d hoped. You may have a better conversation next time. If not, it’s probably better to talk to people who are interested in talking to you, anyway.Thanks
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References
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- ↑ https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/should_you_call_or_text_science_weighs_in
- ↑ https://psychcentral.com/health/deep-conversation-starters
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