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Expert tips to cheer up your boyfriend over text messaging
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While you might want to spend every moment snuggled up next to your boyfriend, there are inevitably going to be times when you have to be apart. Luckily, texting can be a fun way to keep things feeling fresh until the next time you're together. Keeping up a flirty text conversation can be a bit of an art, but we're here with plenty of tips that will have your boyfriend lighting up every time he sees your name on his screen.
This article is based on an interview with our professional dating coach, John Keegan, founder of The Awakened Lifestyle. Check out the full interview here.

Quick Ways to Cheer Up Your Boyfriend with a Text

  1. Send him a cute picture you found online.
  2. Snap a photo of whatever you're doing at the moment.
  3. Give him a quick compliment.
  4. Tell him you love him and can't wait to see him again.
  5. Ask for his advice or a recommendation.
  6. Propose a date night or a fun outing.
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Send him a pic.

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  1. Of course, selfies always work, especially if you're having an especially great hair day or your outfit is amazing. But turn that camera around once in a while, too. Show him things like your neighbor's cute cat, the amazing view from your lunch meeting, or some cool street art you passed on your way to meet a friend. [1]
    • Not only will this help spark a conversation, but it will show him the cool, interesting things you have going on—and that's only going to make him want to be around you more! [2]
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Compliment him.

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  1. If you really want to put a smile on your boyfriend's face, surprise him with an out-of-the-blue compliment. Make it feel really personal by choosing something specific that's really unique to him. [3]
    • Get flirty with a compliment about his looks, like: "That shirt you were wearing today really showed off your toned arms. I can tell you've been working hard at the gym! You look amazing."
    • Get in touch with his softer side by complimenting something about his character. Say something like, "You have this way of always making me feel better when I'm down. You always know the right thing to say!"
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Tell him when something reminds you of him.

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  1. Do you ever wonder if your boyfriend is thinking of you when you're not together? Chances are he does the same thing. The next time something makes you think of him, no matter how small, grab your phone and shoot him a quick text! [4]
    • If you hear a song that made you think of him, send him a link and a simple text like "aww it's us!" [5]
    • If you pass a restaurant where the two of you have eaten, send him a pic and a note like, "This was such a fun night! Let's do it again soon."
    • Make him laugh by reminding him of an inside joke, like texting him a picture of a frog with a caption like, "OMG it's that singer we heard at the bar that night!"
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Ask questions to get him to open up about himself.

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  1. Giving your boyfriend a chance to talk about himself will help him feel appreciated and cared for. Ask him about his day when you first start talking. Then, sprinkle in questions throughout the conversation to keep things rolling. [6] Just don't hit him with non-stop questions or it will start to feel like an interrogation. [7]
    • Try asking about his favorite childhood memories, dreams about the future, or even what he wants for lunch—anything that will get him talking about himself.
    • Get silly with random questions that will put him on the spot, like, "If you could only ever listen to one band again, who would it be?" or "Pineapple on pizza, yes or no?"
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Ask him for a recommendation.

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6

Open with something interesting.

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  1. Greetings like that can make him feel like you just decided to text him because you're sitting around with nothing going on. Instead, jump right in with something that feels spontaneous and fun—like you texted him because you just couldn't wait to tell him something! [9]
    • Try drawing him in with a hook that will build anticipation, like, "You're never going to believe who I just saw!" or "Guess what happened in math today!"
    • You could also link back to a conversation you had earlier by saying something like, "You know how we were just talking about Greek food the other day? I found this awesome place we should try this weekend."
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Talk to him about something that you're interested in.

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  1. Don't feel like you have to spend your whole text conversation talking about him. If you have something going on that you think is really cool or you know a lot about, bring it up! When you share something you're passionate about, that enthusiasm is usually contagious, so let him know why you think it's super cool. [12]
    • For example, if you're really into paleontology and you come across a news article about a new dinosaur species, send it to him! If he doesn't know a lot about it, give him a little context, like, "This is the first time they've found a new fossil in this area in over 50 years!"
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Tease him a little.

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  1. Get him excited about seeing you again by letting him know where you'd like to go and what you'd like to do next. Not only does that take some of the pressure off him to constantly come up with creative date ideas, but it also gives him insight into the type of stuff you're into. Even better, it lets him know that you're looking forward to seeing him again soon. [14]
    • If you hear about a band playing in town, you might send him a link to the event and say something like, "I was thinking of buying tickets to this. Wanna go?"
    • Remember that a date doesn’t have to be super extravagant to be special—especially if you’ve already been dating for awhile.
    • Reader Poll: We asked 415 wikiHow readers about their preferred date night and 51% of them chose spending a night in to cuddle and watch a movie . [Take Poll]
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Be there for him when he has a bad day.

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  1. Everybody has a tough day sometimes. If you know your sweetheart had a bad day at work, if he's not feeling well, or if he's dealing with something stressful, do your best to let him know you care. Listen to him if he wants to talk about it, but don't push him if he doesn't. Either way, let him know you're there, and ask if there's anything you could do that would make him feel better . [15]
    • Don't follow up with a bunch of suggestions about what he should do unless he specifically asks for your advice. Sometimes people just need to vent to a supportive listener. [16]
13

Get a little flirty.

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  1. Flirting with your boyfriend through text doesn't always have to be tame. If you have something steamy on your mind, start by hinting around at it to see if he's receptive. Something like a flirty emoji or a song with sexy lyrics can be a great way to ease the conversation in more of an intimate direction. You could also just tell him what you're thinking about by saying something like, "You've been on my mind all day. Last night was amazing!" [17]
    • Some people don't like to get too racy in their texts, so if either one of you aren't crazy about the idea of dirty talk or suggestive photos, that's totally fine. You can always flirt in person if you prefer! [18]
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