How to Turn Your Partner On

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In the mood? Hot to trot? Want to turn your partner on and make them feel super fine? Do you want to just blow off some steam or have some tender relations with your partner? Well here are some tried and true ways to getting your partner feeling the love.

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Romance them.

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    the romance is in knowing how to treat them right. Listen to your partner. Make them feel important by asking them about their life. Ask them about their day, and ask them what they think about their favorite subject—whatever that may be. (You do know what their favorite subject is, don't you? Understand why they like what they like, and try your best to appreciate their unique interests.) Compliment them on their looks, on how they dress, or the way they smile, as long as you are sincere. [1]
    • Don't be too coy about the compliments. If that dress your partner is wearing makes them look hotter than Arizona in August, tell them! Don't be crude, but if they've 'packaged' their assets to be admired, let them know that's appreciated!
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Flirt with them.

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    Be flirty and playful.
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Be confident.

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    This may require bluffing, but keep this in mind: the more you "bluff" confidence, the more confident you will become--it's sort of a win-win situation. [2]
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Kiss them often.

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    Don't shove your tongue down their throat on the first kiss, but don't start with little butterfly kisses, either. Kiss them like you mean it, and tease their lips with your teeth and tongue. [3]
    • Respond to their reactions: if they pull away when you try to kiss them, it may not be time for that just yet. Go back to step one next time, and try again. If they do respond, pay attention to their body language. If they are kissing but guarded, don't continue to the next step until their body language lets you know it's OK to proceed.
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Touch them lovingly.

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    Give them physical affection. Dig your hands into their hair, and pull them towards you, kissing them harder, touch places that you should not if you are not dating or married. Bunch their hair in your hands, and pull gently. Pay attention to their neck, shoulders, and arms. [4]
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Talk to them.

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    Let them know that they make you feel good, too. [5]
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Extend your touching.

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    Continue exploring her body, gradually heating things up as you sense them getting more turned on.
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Use your own body language to tell your partner what you want.

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    Roll yourself on top of them, and kiss them harder than you have so far. If your partner likes dominating you, try putting yourself under them.
    • Remember that you will receive as much as you will give. If you're in the mood and want them to go out of their way to please you, there are some things you can do to drive them insane.
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Be confident.

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    If you want to turn them on, show them. Don't keep your desires hidden behind a veil of social 'correctness'.
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Tell them how to kiss you.

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    Kiss them hungrily if you want hard, passionate kisses. If you want little love pecks to begin with, give them to your partner and gently rebuff any attempts at harder kissing until you're ready.
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If your partner is okay with it, be aggressive.

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    You don't have to pin them down and tear their clothes off just yet, but take the lead in kissing and begin exploring their body. Appreciate their physique if they work out--they'll appreciate it because they've worked hard to be cut.
    • Make sure you talk about this beforehand to make sure they're okay with you being aggressive.
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Get vocal.

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    Simply say "mmm" or moan softly into their ear. If you're "really" into what they're doing, you can say a little more. If you want him to talk dirty, start the conversation so they know you're okay with it.
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When they start removing your clothes—don't let them.

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    Purposefully, and seductively. When they go to touch (and they probably will), deny them. Where they want to touch you--you do it. Keep this up until neither of you can stand it anymore.
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Allow your partner to take the lead—sometimes.

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    You may have to physically place their hand where you want it, but they'll usually get the picture.

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      • After breaking the touch and then the kiss barrier, try mixing it up slowly, as a good progression into sex. Some sexy things to try are pushing them up against a wall, slipping a hand up their shirt, tugging at clothes, soft biting at earlobes, tracing with your fingers, and pulling away to smile for a few seconds. The absolute best turn on ever is definitely neck kissing, though.
      • Giving them a head massage can turn them on. I always messed with my guy's hair while he was making out with me and as soon as he'd try to move down, I'd deny him every time. He said it turned him on so badly. He would literally beg me to move forward.
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      2. ↑ http://www.spsp.org/news-center/blog/romanticconfidence
      3. ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/finding-new-home/201902/why-do-people-kiss
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      If you’re in the mood and want to turn your partner on, you can make things more intimate by acting confident. Most people are turned on by confidence, so keep your posture upright and tell your partner exactly what you want. When the moment is right, give your partner a small, yet passionate kiss and see how they react. If they pull away, they might not be in the mood and you should try again some other time. If they lean in closer, slowly caress their body, starting with their hair and slowly moving to their more erogenous zones, like the neck and shoulders. As you heat things up, tell them how much you care for them and what you love about their body. For more tips, like how to make noises that will turn your partner on, scroll down.

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