Is dating a Scorpio hard?
I went on a date with someone recently and they told me they were a Scorpio and idk if that's a red flag or not. I've heard that Scorpios are obsessive and difficult to be in a relationship with, is that facts or nah? I kinda wanna go on a second date but idk if I should so pls help
When I was dating a Scorpio, getting him to open up to me was a chore. He always felt a little closed off when I'd ask him questions about himself or try to get to know him better. I'm not sure if he was trying to create an air of mystery or play hard to get or if he just had issues with being vulnerable but whatever it was made me feel like I couldn't truly connect with him. I did notice that slowly over time he was warming up to me a liiitle bit, but it was just going way too slowly for my taste. It felt like I was talking to a brick wall at times.
Maybe your sign is a Scorpio sign is not compatible there's a lot of Truth in that you know
When a Scorpios in love with you like really in love with you right off the back and you just sit there and listen to him because they love to talk. Oh, you will hear Everything about them because my Scorpio he’s an open book. We have a night where I’m just sitting there chilling with him drinking and he will spill the complete tea about himself his family, his kids everything without me having to ask And that’s because he feels very comfortable around me. He gets a trusting vibe form me that I’ve heard him say So I don’t have to ask any questions about his life. I know about his mom his dad Life in the military traveling and we’ve only been together for three weeks now, So I know there’s more to come just be patient with them and loving
He’s probably a faker. But Scorpios can also be amazing, too. They can be very romantic and love to take charge. But that doesn’t mean that all Scorpios are bad.
Lol fr fr im going through the same exact thing
Well where are all these decent single women at cause I’m looking for a new girlfriend as I’m divorced and time to turn the page
As a Scorpio myself, I don’t believe we have the intention to be mysterious. I believe it’s our passion that creates depth and that depth can be mysterious.
Scorpio is an obsessive sign. They're looking for someone to obsess over and they're going to provide a series of tests to gauge your loyalty to them. For example, they may play hard to get or act obsequious. If they sense that you're not matching their intense energy, they're gonna lose interest. Scorpio is also a very sensual sign, so if they not sensing that you're sexually interested in them, they will lose interest. So you would definitely need to engage in sex or intimacy with a Scorpio in order for them to fall for you. Scorpios want to dive deep into issues and topics. They're not a superficial sign, so they'll be turned off if you're very shallow. They like intensity and passion. If they don't feel engaged, enthralled, sexual, and intimate with you, then they're not going to have interest in you. So there has to be something intriguing. But also, if you provide a little bit of a mystery that they need to unravel, that will keep them pulling on the yarn forever. So don't give it all up right away! Leave a veil of mystery and then they will be intrigued and obsess over you because they always have to obsess.
If they're jealous or obsessive and you show even the tiniest bit of interest in other people, a Scorpio will show you their vulnerability (which is their most cherished prize). Scorpios like to keep their vulnerability to themselves, so if a Scorpio shows you their inner sensitivity, that means they trust you enough to love you. Without vulnerability, there is no intimacy, and that's why Scorpio is the sign of intimacy, because they like to lay bare of all things so that they can get inside.
Scorpios are all or nothing, do or die. But they're also the most distrustful sign, so if they show anything that indicates trust in you—like talking about marriage or moving in together—that means they are serious about you. And another sign they're serious about you is if they tell you their secrets. They see secrets as powerful weapons, so a Scorpio revealing their secrets means that they're very serious about you because they have trusted you with their secrets.
If they're jealous or obsessive and you show even the tiniest bit of interest in other people, a Scorpio will show you their vulnerability (which is their most cherished prize). Scorpios like to keep their vulnerability to themselves, so if a Scorpio shows you their inner sensitivity, that means they trust you enough to love you. Without vulnerability, there is no intimacy, and that's why Scorpio is the sign of intimacy, because they like to lay bare of all things so that they can get inside.
Scorpios are all or nothing, do or die. But they're also the most distrustful sign, so if they show anything that indicates trust in you—like talking about marriage or moving in together—that means they are serious about you. And another sign they're serious about you is if they tell you their secrets. They see secrets as powerful weapons, so a Scorpio revealing their secrets means that they're very serious about you because they have trusted you with their secrets.
As a Scorpio female, you've hit the nail on the head each time you made a point. Wow, either you ARE one, or have been in a long term deep relationship with one. Can I ask which? My last man :(was emotionally unavailable and verbally abusive. I was so incredibly vulnerable and he knows my deepest darkest secrets, that I've NEVER told anyone, NOOO one! Now I'm scared that he has my story and took it with him! I was married for 20 yrs and he died 11 yrs ago. He was extremely dishonest and treated me like a prisoner. I couldn't go anywhere alone, not even church or to Drs appts. I wasn't allowed to carry any money. He gave me $20 on the 1st of the month but he was with me and had to approve my purchase. Needless to say, I didn't trust him with my secrets. When I met my last guy, he was extremely wonderful for 6mos. i flew across the country (Seattle, to Florida) to be with him. I was so happy to be there, but I was terrified of not having him. I was insecure and needed so much reassurance and he was extremely confident. All my life, my biggest dream was to truly know another & for him to truly know me and accept my demons and regrets. But every time I told him about my life, (and it WASN'T all bad. I have 5 wonderful children and had a lot of great memories with them) he thought I was dwelling on the past. I was just telling my story.
I learned about the things that were important to him, because that's what you do for someone you love.
But he always shunned & criticized my interests, taste in music, movies, and didn't care about anything that meant anything to me. I grieved him terribly when he left, but I now realize I give my entire heart and affection to whom I love. Yes I can be intense, but I'm extremely transparent from day one.
I think it's not too much to ask for the same, maybe not as intensely, but I DON'T deserve to be called names, criticized @every turn, and given the silent treatment or daily threats to leave me.
One thing I was a bit confused by, was your statement that Scorpio's are the most distrustful (or -ing can't remember) But did you mean to say we can't be trusted? Or that it's so hard for us to trust others? If you meant the latter, I agree wholeheartedly. Anyway, I'm impressed by the extent of your knowledge of Scorpio's. We are unfortunately extremely misunderstood by the masses. Thanks for your fair accurate understanding and perspective. Peace & Love, taridia17
I learned about the things that were important to him, because that's what you do for someone you love.
But he always shunned & criticized my interests, taste in music, movies, and didn't care about anything that meant anything to me. I grieved him terribly when he left, but I now realize I give my entire heart and affection to whom I love. Yes I can be intense, but I'm extremely transparent from day one.
I think it's not too much to ask for the same, maybe not as intensely, but I DON'T deserve to be called names, criticized @every turn, and given the silent treatment or daily threats to leave me.
One thing I was a bit confused by, was your statement that Scorpio's are the most distrustful (or -ing can't remember) But did you mean to say we can't be trusted? Or that it's so hard for us to trust others? If you meant the latter, I agree wholeheartedly. Anyway, I'm impressed by the extent of your knowledge of Scorpio's. We are unfortunately extremely misunderstood by the masses. Thanks for your fair accurate understanding and perspective. Peace & Love, taridia17
Yeah my Scorpio man was incredibly jealous! After we started officially dating, he'd get upset every time I hung out with my guy friends and asked me to spend less time with them. At first I didn't realize that he was trying to cut me off from my male friends and thought maybe he just wanted me to spend less time with friends so that I could spend more time with him (which is still a red flag), but eventually I realized he was jealous of me having male friends. I was upset that he had waited so long to show his true colors because that was a dealbreaker for me. I simply will not be with a partner that forces me to choose between them and my friends.
I think it’s important to understand that scorpios will drop anything for partners and loved ones and they simply just expect the same. Another good trick to keep in mind for Scorpios is when you’re hanging out with these guy friends talk about your Scorpio partner to them. Not just with this calm their worries, but if your guy friends have secret intentions, they will pull away from you when they see they’re not gonna get what they want. The Scorpio could actually help you find out who your real friends are and who just wants to get in your pants.
I think people don't give Scorpios a chance. I've been married to a Scorpio for 6 years now and our relationship is going strong. Yes, I do find that sometimes he gets a little jealous but I think that comes from a place of insecurity, so I make that work by reassuring him that I love him by being affectionate and reminding him about all of the wonderful qualities of his that make me swoon. And people may see Scorpios as "obsessive" but personally I really like that my partner is madly in love with me, because I'm madly in love with him too! We match each other's energies and that has been working great for us so far. Ultimately, Scorpios are people too and all the negative stereotypes about them are not necessarily true. Even if you find some of those negative qualities in your partner, if you're meant to be then you'll find a way to communicate and make things work together.
What is your zodiac?
I got Scorpio and I'm a Gemini.... that was suspicions
Pisces
Ooooh No wonder. It says cancers and pisces are their soulmates. I jus started dating a Scorpio and I’m a cancer, it’s only been a week and he’s bearing his soul😄 but at the end of the day, like you said it’s all about the energy as with any couple. The vibe and the chemistry has to be there and everything else should fall into place. You both have to be riding the same wave but that’s just my opinion.
Not necessarily true Scorpios and Virgos make the perfect 10 in the zodiac sign… the heal ones their are literally soul mates
If it doesn’t work out I’m a Taurus but I don’t know how much that matters. I’m a good guy example : yesterday at ex wives (she likes free fixes)& I had a thought better check all windows and I found two unlocked windows that should not be unlocked and coincidentally no screens on those two.she has new boyfriend too
It is Taurus ♉🐂
I'm an aries
I’m a guy and taurus
Scorpio
I am a sagittarius whos venus is in scorpio. I am madly in love with my scorpio. November scorpios are hard not to love. But the one I have been seeing. I am aiming for keeps.
👍 Exactly!!
As a Scorpio myself, I’d say dating a Scorpio isn’t necessarily "hard," but it can be intense. We value loyalty and trust the most, so if those things are broken, the relationship can be difficult. But if you're open, patient, and not afraid of vulnerability, you’ll find that dating a Scorpio can be incredibly rewarding.
I'm also a fellow Scorpio ^^
i love my scorpios
i think its hard because the are passionate, intense and fiercely loyal individuals with a unique persrpective on life as a scorpio woman ,i can attest that they are often misunderstood due to their complex personalities
i think i should try one cause i havent dated a scorpio man
I was with a Scorpio for 4 years, totally agree their obsession comes from a good place, can be turned into a positive thing. Very sensual, devoted and attentive enough. But their impulsiveness and vengefulness are spot on. Whilst not all Scorpios might have all of the listed characteristics, my guy had the most and his vengefulness plus competitiveness made him blind to the collateral damage. In the end he ended up losing his favourite job, he ended our relationship even on the second try (after initial split he asked me back for another chance), and now even his two daughters have become estranged. He forever holds grudges on his parents for things in childhood, even though they gave him great education and opportunities, they were lovely in my eyes. I couldn’t understand how someone so smart, sensitive and goal orientated cannot see how their destroy their own happiness with own hands. I now realise that Scorpio’s competitiveness, vengefulness and impulsiveness at times rule over other positive traits. They are able to analyse and understand this, but usually much later, when damage is irreversible.
What I’m saying is that not all Scorpios are difficult, because not everyone will have all listed negative traits (mine was exemption I think, but I loved all those positive traits in him)
I would definitely give it a try with another Scorpio as they make great partners.
What I’m saying is that not all Scorpios are difficult, because not everyone will have all listed negative traits (mine was exemption I think, but I loved all those positive traits in him)
I would definitely give it a try with another Scorpio as they make great partners.
This made me cry, because this is me.
As a Scorpio, I'm pretty sure it just depends on the person! But if it really bothers you, then talk about it! ^^
I'm a Scorpio and if you shower us with physical physical touch and quality time wanting to give us time alone together on a regular basis you'll be all right
Will a Scorpio date a stripper?
This is true. I am a scorpio female.🤪 Surprisingly, I am now interested in a scorpio male.
I do agree, not because my birth falls on November 5th!!! However we are everything you just said.. I hate to chase a women if your not showing any interest in me nor want to have a full blown conversation
My birthday's on Bonfire night as well!
well,I wouldn't agree with the statement because I have been best friends with a scorpio for 3years and they are absolute sweethearts.They crave deep connections and mutual respect and devotion.Thoughh they get jealous over silly things I consider it as a sign of their true love.They are very sensitive and observant of their surrounding and notice most things you would think they didn't.To sum it up,they are the exact persons to wish to trust and build a future with .You just gotta be a little patient and understanding towards them
Good analogy spot on 👍
I believe that you shouldn’t base your opinion on your date based on zodiac signs. People can most definitely vary from their zodiac signs. Don’t forget that moon and rising signs are also something to take note of. To summarise, use the traits associated with the zodiac sign as a guide, but not as a firm set of rules or “base”.
I turned out to be a Scorpio but I'm a cancer😭
No bc im a pisces, and apperently im scorpio😭😭😭
It’s definitely true
Don't do it I ended my relationship they crazy
i am a scorpien try not to open up about you self to much we cant keep things to are selfs
Forget about compatibility matches. If you really like this person, then go for it. See where it goes. Love works in mysterious ways, it doesn't even matter what your sun sign is. Good luck! I hope my advice works.
oh my God that's my motto
U TOTALLY SHOULD
Scorpios go through phases in life! We are represented by the scorpion (stinger), eagle (soar, observant), the Phoenix (transformation, and the Dove (Peace). Meeting a Scorpio at different stages of life/phases can yield different results in a relationship, any relationship! But for the most part, as a female scorpio (without bias) it is a blessing to be loved by us! It means we think the world of you!
Scorpio are easy going, reserved, and would rather avoid confrontation but also have no problem going toe to toe with many. We are sensitive due to the level of care we give. We’re not necessarily secretive but rather love to collect data, store it away, and present it when the opportunity arises. Until then, you may not know what we’re thinking because when we build a rock-solid case, it’s hard to pull us back if we want to walk away. We’re possessive when we fall in love because we we’d rather not share, and feel a huge sense of betrayal when people are disloyal because we’re all in or nothing. Therefore, we again have no problem walking away and deleting contacts even though we may allow a situation to permeate our hearts and minds for a short period of time. On the other hand, we’re able to move on quickly because we know our worth. We also spend a lot of time being accommodating to people we love. I would not avoid dating someone because of their astrology sign because I believe one’s background and experiences also shapes who they become.
Wow this is so accurate. There are so many positives to being a Scorpio and/or dating a Scorpio. I agree it's best not to turn someone down because of their sign - we all have different life experience and are shaped in different ways.
Wrong scorpions are great to be with
I am a Virgo and I love surfing time with water signs it depends on your sign as welll
I am a Virgo and I love surfing time with water signs it depends on your sign as welll
No am not a Scorpio am pisces because pisces were on February 20-March....
I don't think that's a red flag at all just go with flow and express your feelings to them.
I'm a Scorpio and I like an Aquarius. Don't know if he likes me or not
I know Scorpio men and Aquarius women can be a great combination. Maybe the same goes for Scorpio women and Aquarius men.
I am not a Scoripio I am in fact a Aquarius
it feels like when people go all crazy abt zodiacs as red flags they are just looking for a reason to leave. if you are not sure about a second date just don't have one this just seems kinda weird. sorry.
you should definitely date Scorpios i have a friend who is a scorpios
It always depends on how they act, if they are obsessive or not, just don't say that to their face XD
As a Scorpio myself, I'd say that dating a Scorpio is not hard because we are very loyal.
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Ah That's sad but you could still be his friend!
I think you should go on a second date.See how they are like,
Yes it is a red flag. He is irresponsible.
There is no mechanism to explain how it could work, no force that can back it up, and, furthermore, no rational reason to split up the entire human population into 12 groups symbolized by randomly assigned constellations. No matter how you look at it (and people have tried), there’s no plausible mechanism that could work.
I'm dating a Scorpio ngl shes really nice to me when you get closer to Scorpios they are really kind its treu
I have a really good relationship with a Scorpio so I don't think you should worry!
I think that you shouldn't just ASSUME that because they are a Scorpio they are not a good match. If you like them, give them a try!
Being born on a certain month shouldnt be a red flag wtf
not everyone fits the description of a scorpio and most info on zodiac signs are exaggerated anyways for example its not like most scorpios are obsessive or difucult (it makes zero sense, why would they be?) , if you like that person you should for sure go for a second date
I am a Scorpio and we are wonderful! Plus, I've been in the same relationship for three years so...
Not all Scorpios are the same. Some may be difficult and others a great match. I am a Scorpio woman and I can tell you that I'm not the intense, ambitious, dominating seductress. In fact, my preferences are for peaceful, quietly smart, relaxed, and easy going people and environments. My partner's calm demeanor is one of my favorite of his attributes. I get very stressed in aggressive situations.
Personalities & behaviors are strongly impacted by nurture and environment. Btw, Scorpio is also know to be very loyal to the ones they care about, discerning, passionate, emotionally & intellectually deep. So, I say it's not the zodiac sign that matters, it's the behaviors & comments the person displays that you need to observe, as with all people.
Best wishes!
Personalities & behaviors are strongly impacted by nurture and environment. Btw, Scorpio is also know to be very loyal to the ones they care about, discerning, passionate, emotionally & intellectually deep. So, I say it's not the zodiac sign that matters, it's the behaviors & comments the person displays that you need to observe, as with all people.
Best wishes!
Can you say about love and relationship between scorpio man and capricorn girl..
I am capricorn girl and am in love with scorpio man in long distance relationship.
I am capricorn girl and am in love with scorpio man in long distance relationship.
well idk because mt bf is a Scorpio but i think its hard
A lot of people don't know this but did you know that most of the time, it's harder to date
a scorpio because everyone stresses over them and is afraid? I'm not even a scorpio I'm just pissed that people think a certain star alignment in the sky is going to change the difficulty it is to date someone. Like what the heck, grow up!
a scorpio because everyone stresses over them and is afraid? I'm not even a scorpio I'm just pissed that people think a certain star alignment in the sky is going to change the difficulty it is to date someone. Like what the heck, grow up!
I think there's a reason that Scorpios have a reputation...Like yeah it's true that not every Scorpio is the same but in my past relationships, the ones that have been toxic have more often than not been Scorpios...But yeah not all of them are toxic, I have a friend who is a Scorpio, so I wouldn't let someone's zodiac deter you from pursuing a relationship with them...just be observant so you don't miss any red flags...
Dang I don't think Scorpio deserve all this hate :( I've been in a relationship with a Scorpio for a few years now. In classic Scorpio fashion, he is a little jealous and possessive, but he's also incredibly loyal and passionate. I feel so taken care of when I'm around him. Even all these years later I still get butterflies thinking about him!
I like a Scorpio man, A LOT, but, I’m a Leo and have my own insecurities, and when he goes “dark,” I don’t do well with it.
Whenever I go on dates with scorpios, I always feel like they're a little too mysterious for me. I want a partner who will be open and vulnerable with me, and in my experience I haven't run into a scorpio who is willing to do that. Maybe I just need to be more patient, but I've struggled to get into relationships with scorpio because they take such a long time to get comfortable with you and close to you.
I think thats not a red flag bc i think a Scrpio can be a good partner if u find a way to their heart.Also good luck
I am a Scorpio and I will say we are not for liars and cheaters. If you are gonna be serious about the relationship ans not try to manipulate you should be fine. Scorpio love the innocent the honest the truthful. Cheat and more than your feelings will be hurt! If you are water or earth I recommend it! I do not recommend air signs with Scorpio. That flighty stuff will get you hurt!
The time their born doesn't matter! Trust me, I'm a Leo and I'm not really any of the things they say I would be. I say just meet them, get to know them then you decide.♥
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When an independent Scorpio reaches out needing support, they are communicating something important. Make your best effort to be present, whether in person or returning calls. They value reliability in hard times and remember favors.
Scorpios crave deep emotional connections in romantic relationships. Take time building trust before rushing physical intimacy. Once devoted, they remain loyal partners. Handle their heart carefully, as betrayal wounds them deeply.
Not every Scorpio fits the brooding stereotype. Some have bright, playful sides too. Take humor and sexually open conversation in stride, but don't assume all their remarks are serious. Lightness balances their intense nature.
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