What's considered a big age gap in relationships?

I am 42 and he is 66 and we have a great relationship. I think it’s healthy but my family does not. What should I do ?

That age gap is normal nowadays.Youre an adult and nobody has the right to make a blue print of your life.

I’m 43 and he is 23 and I do struggle with the outside judgement, but he doesn’t. I’ve never been treated better in a relationship but I do fear when it shows even more as I age that things will change for him even if he says he isn’t concerned with it.

I know there's a ~discourse~ around age gap reltionships as like, imbalanced but tbh the biggest issue I see in age gap relationships (between consenting adults obviously) is that if the gap is big enough the older partner may eventually develop health complications and the younger partner may have to take care of them. All partners take care of each other, that's what love is, and just because you're older doesn't always mean you're going to get health problems, but it can be a lot more pressure and stress on the younger partner in these kinds of cases.

Yeah as a woman who has dated a handful of older women and women my age I much prefer older women. I've been told I just have an "old soul" so maye that's part of it, but I also agree with the above poster, that they just have things figured out more and are more confident. Theres less questioning and wondering what they want--they KNOW what they want!

This isn't a big gap, as long as you are both adults who love each other it shouldn't matter what others think. Does he love you because you are young? Does he feel like he's your dad instead of your spouse? If the answer is no, then it sounds like you two have a beautiful relationship. Best of luck, girl!!

Age gaps can be a touchy subject, but honestly, it’s all about how you two feel about each other. Every relationship has its critics, so focusing on mutual respect and growth is key. I think it’s great that you’re reflecting on what you want in a partner—exploring and articulating this not only strengthens your relationship but also helps clarify your own values and goals.

Dude, at the end both of you will be old. You will grow old together.

My husband of 10yrs, aged 61, has shacked up with a 25yr old girl!!! She is a very young 25 who still lives at home with her parents. (Her parents don't know about it) she spends half a week with them n half with him. I feel that the 'relationship ' is wrong and almost disgusting. What is your opinion?

Nine years is not in my opinion a large gap.

Hello am turning 25 and he's 48. I love him so much but I think he might be worried with what people will say. How can I overcome this situation?

Let me just say my birth dad and mom are 18 years apart so a 9 year age gabs is NOTHING

I'm 29 and I definitely wouldn't want to date anyone under 21. Even though I can legally date someone who is 20 or under, it'd weird me out that I couldn't even take them to a bar with me.

Hi im 45 and she is 30 we both have a great time together but i cant stop thinking about the age gap of 15yrs ill be 50 when shes 35 i just not sure on what to do to be hony.

I’m 28 and he’s 50. We have the same taste in music, humor, everything! I think I like him a lot. But I’m worried my family might not agree. And is it a good age difference.

i met my boyfriend when he was 19 and i was 24 in the middle of 2021 at first we where just FWB but it turned out that we caught feelings through out that friendship and soon ended up being in a relationship it just came naturally ...... one day maybe a year in i felt like he wasnt giving me what i needed and told him we needed a break and it was painful for the both of us so after i left..... the next day maybe around 5pm he texted me and told me he loved me.. we had never said it before ... i felt the same. i also forgot to mention im his first REAL girlfriend hes only had 1 other gf and it was "puppy love" and only a month or 2 but anyways so long story short he bought us a house in 2023 to start our lives together and it means the world to me... as of now 2024 we are still going and happy! i DEFINITELY am insecure and being with him has showed me that i am "toxic" but i have learned to control my feelings and talk .... this is the best relationship i have been in at the age of 26 and hes now 21 almost 22... dont let people get you down

I'm 21 and he is 47 our feelings are mutual I see no problem dating someone older as long you're and adult it doesn't matter

Cleaning and keeping the lights on at his house is not enough for you. You need to be happy first, receive care and support from him first

I am 19 he is 32 he wants me to help him with everything like doing his laundry, cleaning for him and to spend the night at his house every day

I am 19 and he is 32

I'm 24 and my girlfriend is 17 is it acceptable