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Kelli Miller, LCSW, MSW

Psychotherapist

Kelli Miller is a Psychotherapist based in Los Angeles, California. Kelli specializes in individual and couples therapy focusing on relationships, depression, anxiety, sexuality, communication, parenting, and more. She is also an award-winning and best-selling author. Her latest book, “Love Hacks: Simple Solutions to Your Most Common Relationship Issues", details the top 15 relationship issues and 3 quick solutions to each.

Education

  • University of Pennsylvania, MSW
  • University of Florida, BA, Health/Sociology

Professional Achievements

  • Published "Love Hacks: Simple Solutions to Your Most Common Relationship Issues" in 2024
  • Published “Professor Kelli’s Guide to Finding a Husband” in 2010
  • Published “Thriving with ADHD” in 2018, winner of the Indie Book Award and Firebird Book Award
  • Co-hosted advice show on LA Talk Radio, currently hosts livestream show on Balance by Nature
  • Columnist for Psychology Today

Certifications & Organizations

  • Licensed Clinical Social Worker
  • Spokesperson for Brillia, ADHD Awareness
  • Psychotherapist Consultant for Cognitive Leap

Philosophy

Kelli strives to provide both immediate, short-term solutions and long-term, in-depth care for a wide variety of clients. Her strengths include helping clients develop better self-esteem, facilitating open and constructive communication among family members, and working with romantic partners to address underlying causes of dissatisfaction in a relationship.

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Forum Comments (10)

Am I gay
It's okay to be confused about your sexuality and it might take time to figure out how you feel. Sexuality is very fluid and some people are in a gray area—they may not feel 100% gay or 100% straight, and that's okay. Start by trying to get comfortable with the fact that there may not be a concrete answer. Then, give yourself permission to explore your feelings and attactions. You might fantasize about someone of the same gender, but not want to pursue it. Or, you might choose to pursue it and see how you feel in that situation. You may find that it’s not really for you, or you may find that it feels right. Either way is totally fine, and then you’ll have a little bit more clarity.
Can a relationship work after cheating?
Yes, a relationship can work after cheating. Infidelity isn't necessarily the end of a relationship. In fact, it can be a really nice opening for a deeper and more connected relationship. There's an opportunity here for partners to grow and learn from what happened. When the time is right, both partners can talk about what wasn't working in the relationship, or why they didn't feel connected, and then they can figure out a plan going forward to feel more connected and more safe.
How do you know if you're gay?
First and foremost, know that it's okay to be confused about your sexuality. Think of sexuality as very fluid—it's not so black and white. Are you 100% straight? Are you 100% homosexual? Sometimes you can be in the gray. And sometimes you can have fantasies about another gender but never want to actually pursue it. So sexuality is one of those things that we need to have a little bit more leeway around and be okay with that. There may not be a direct answer.

Second, it's okay to explore and see if you're ready to take that next step and just see how you feel in that situation. Does it feel right to you? Was it okay? Do you want to try that? And maybe it's not really for you, or you might have built this up in your head, but it's not really what you want. Or it’s the opposite and now you know this is the sexuality that you want to pursue.
What are body language signs a woman is flirting?
Here are some things to look for! Eye contact, smiling, giggling, tossing or playing with their hair, open body positioning (as opposed to crossed arms), and interest in the conversation are all signs.
How do you actually know if you're in love?
Love is both a feeling and an action. Of course, signs of being in love vary from person to person, but it starts with the way you feel around this person. Do you feel uplifted, and excited, and want to be around them more? Are you thinking of them often and excited about a future with them? Are you drawn to do nice things for them and want that person to be genuinely happy?
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