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    What can I do to keep my neighborhood safe?
    Saul Jaeger, MS
    Police Captain, Mountain View Police Department
    Saul Jaeger is a Police Officer and Captain of the Mountain View, California Police Department (MVPD). Saul has over 17 years of experience as a patrol officer, field training officer, traffic officer, detective, hostage negotiator, and as the traffic unit’s sergeant and Public Information Officer for the MVPD. At the MVPD, in addition to commanding the Field Operations Division, Saul has also led the Communications Center (dispatch) and the Crisis Negotiation Team. He earned an MS in Emergency Services Management from the California State University, Long Beach in 2008 and a BS in Administration of Justice from the University of Phoenix in 2006. He also earned a Corporate Innovation LEAD Certificate from the Stanford University Graduate School of Business in 2018.
    Police Captain, Mountain View Police Department
    Expert Answer
    Know your neighbors. Go introduce yourself to them. Exchange numbers with them so you can communicate if anything suspicious is going on. The more you know people in your neighborhood, the safer you'll be.
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    What things should I do or say if I am a kid moving into a new neighborhood?
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    If you see other kids, try to talk to them and become friends with them. Be yourself and maybe they'll go to you when they see you. Tell them that you're new in the area, where you've moved from and what school you'll be going to soon. Ask them for their recommendations of good things to do in the area.
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    Is it unneighborly to borrow another neighbor's toilet paper or trash bags and never replace them?
    Community Answer
    Yes. It is polite to return what is borrowed, or to at least return a favor in kind.
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    My neighbor is in her 70s and she believes the neighbor above her is putting pictures on her wall at night. How can I help her see she is being paranoid?
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    Paranoia of that nature can be a sign of dementia, and reasoning may not be possible. Remind her to make sure all her doors and windows are locked at night, and make sure any family or caregivers are aware of her concerns.
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    What are the basic rules for a harmonious condominium?
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    Don't be petty. Leave your fetishes for when you move back home. Contribute to being respectful. Have monthly meetings to discuss regulation of the household.
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    I saw my new neighbor across from the alley take my trash can on a very windy day and I called the cops to get it back. Did I handle it wrong?
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    You called the cops because your neighbor collected your trash can on a windy day? Yes, you handled it wrong. You should have just gone over and thanked your neighbor for collecting your trash can. He/she was probably just trying to keep it from blowing away. You really need to apologize and bring a gift.
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    What should I do if I shouted at my new neighbors?
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    Look at it this way: sometimes, people do and say things that they regret later. The only thing you need to do is offer your neighbors a sincere apology. (A small gift, like some cookies, might help too.) If your neighbors are reasonable, then hopefully they will understand that you made a mistake and forgive you.
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    What do I do if my neighbours are inconsiderate?
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    Some people give little thought to how their actions affect others. Try being direct without aggression. Communication often works. Don't be discouraged by an initial negative response, as some people get defensive. Give them a couple of days to come around. If they cease the disturbing activity, make sure to show gratitude to let them know all is well.
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    What actions could I take to show love to my neighbors?
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    You can bake them treats or cook them food, or stop over and say hello to them. You can check in on them and see how they are doing.
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    What should I do about my rude neighbors?
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    It's best to first approach your neighbors in person to see if you can both come to a compromise regarding what is bothering you, if there is a particular problem. If they are just rude in general, then you might want to avoid them. Or, you can try to develop a relationship with them by being overly kind. Offer them small gifts or try to offer your help.
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    If I offer to do chores for my neighbor, will that make me good?
    Community Answer
    Assisting anyone is being a good person. Being that it is your neighbor, yes, that would make you a good neighbor.
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    How can I help my neighbor when they get sick?
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    You can ask them what they need help with, and lend a hand in any way that they need.
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    Is it all right to throw the dead material from my neighbor's palm tree back into his yard?
    Community Answer
    You should talk to your neighbor before tossing anything from your yard back into theirs. They might actually see you throwing things over and assume that you are littering in their yard and not vice versa. When you speak with them see if you can offer them a way to compromise, such as you trimming any overhanging branches.
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    How do I share with my neighbor?
    Community Answer
    You can share food, flowers, wine, etc. with your neighbors. Treat them as friends!
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    What about giving your neighbor gifts? Any rules on re-gifting or food?
    Robin Sager
    Community Answer
    Giving your neighbor a small welcoming gift or a gift for special occasions is often a good idea. This can be a good way to open up conversation. They may even be tempted to offer you assistance in the future if you need it after you've been friendly. Re-gifting is usually okay, as long as the gift is in like new condition.
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    How can I talk to my neighbors if I am scared to talk to people?
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    There's nothing to be scared of. Just start small by saying "Hello," or "How are you" and gradually work your way up to having longer conversations. When you see that nothing bad happens when you talk to your neighbors, it will feel a lot less scary.
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    How can I be a good neighbor if I know someone in my neighborhood is involved in illegal activity?
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    It honestly depends on the illegal activity. If they're not harming anyone else or causing property damage or stealing anything, consider if it's really worth getting law enforcement involved. If they are doing something harmful, call the police and report it.
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    Would a good neighbor bake cookies for another neighbor?
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    Yes! Baking is a great way to show kindness to your neighbors, and just about everybody likes cookies. Make sure to alert them to any potential allergens in the cookies, like nuts.
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    What should I do if my neighbors have started sending their children to play in my yard without my permission?
    Community Answer
    Have a word with their parents, this is completely unacceptable and they are trespassing on your property. This issue needs addressed quickly because if you don't stop them now, this will go on forever. You should not take no for an answer and you can call the cops if you need to, if the worst comes to the worst, maybe put up a wall or fence to stop them getting in!
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