16 Awesome Topics to Talk About with a Girl

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When you're talking with a girl you've just met or don't know very well, you may wonder where to begin. You want to spark a conversation or at least keep it going ! Fortunately, with a bunch of interesting topics, you'll always feel confident with your conversation skills. Check out the list below to get started.

1

Everyday life

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  1. These give her a chance to make small talk and feel comfortable before you talk about more serious or personal subjects. For instance, instead of asking, "How are you?" try a more detailed question like: [1]
    • "What do you like to do to unwind?"
    • "What's the best part of your day?"
    • "Are you an early bird or a night owl?"
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2

Her hobbies and passions

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  1. Most people enjoy talking about themselves! To make simple questions a little more interesting, try to be specific. For instance, ask: [2]
    • "Do you have any hidden talents?"
    • "What hobby would you learn if you could totally master it?"
    • "What activities or sports make you super competitive?"
    • "Do you play an instrument or dance?"
    • Reader Poll: We asked 52 readers, and 76% agreed that when you're trying to get to know a girl better, asking about her hobbies and passions is the best move. Take Poll.
3

Her city

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  1. This topic works especially well if you're texting or talking on the phone, although you still can talk about your surroundings if you're meeting in person. You might ask: [3]
    • "What do you like about living here?"
    • "Where are your favorite restaurants in town?"
    • "If you could change something about living here, what would you change?"
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4

Entertainment and pop culture

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  1. Find out what she loves and absolutely can't stand. You might find that you really hit it off over a shared loved of a TV show or book series. You could ask: [4]
    • "What's a show do you consider to be a guilty pleasure?"
    • "What's one of the most underrated bands?"
    • "Who's your favorite actress? Actor?"
5

Would you rather?

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  1. You might be familiar with this popular icebreaker game. It's a great way to ask fun questions while getting to know her preferences. For instance, ask: [5]
    • "Would you rather only eat breakfast or dessert every meal for the rest of your life?"
    • "Would you rather see your favorite band at a big outdoor festival or a small club?"
    • "Would you rather write a bestselling novel or meet your favorite author?"
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6

Career and education

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  1. If she has a job, ask her about what her day is usually like or what attracted her to the job. If she's still studying, get her to tell you what classes she's taking and what she hopes to do one day. Here are a few solid ways to bring up the topic: [6]
    • "Do you have any great teachers?"
    • "What do you love most about your job?"
    • "What's your most challenging class?"
7

Quirky questions

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  1. You'll break the ice if you're just getting to know each other and it's a fun way to get the conversation rolling. You might ask unique questions that lead to a serious discussion or ask silly things that just lighten the mood. For instance, ask: [7]
    • "What's the best thing you've ever found at a thrift store or garage sale?"
    • "What's the most unhealthy thing you do on a regular basis?"
    • "What's an ice cream flavor that you can't stand?"
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8

Favorite things and pet peeves

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  1. It's a classic way to get to someone better so you can see if you two click. You might even have a list of things or experiences that you ask her about. Here are a few fun ways to get her to share her opinion: [8]
    • "What's your type of party?"
    • "What's a popular trend that you can't stand?"
    • "What do you look forward to most in the summer?"
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    Interesting questions like these make for great conversation starters. They help show a genuine interest, and encourage an easy interaction.



9

Pets and animals

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  1. She may even show you pictures. If she doesn't have a pet, you could ask her what her dream pet would be or find out why she doesn't one. In addition to the classic, "Are you a dog person or a cat person," ask her: [9]
    • "What's your favorite animal to visit at the zoo or aquarium?"
    • "Which animal in the world do you think is the most majestic?"
    • "If you could have an exotic animal for a pet, what would you get?"
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10

Humor

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  1. Talk about a funny story or something that made you laugh. You might feel pressure to have a good conversation , but joking around can relieve that tension. Tell her a joke , be a little goofy, or ask her about things that she finds funny. You could ask: [10]
    • "Which person always makes you laugh?"
    • "What's the worst joke you've ever heard?"
    • "What's the funniest thing that's ever happened to you?"
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11

Travel

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  1. If she's traveled a lot, she'll probably love sharing memories and telling you about where she's been. If she hasn't traveled much, don't worry! You can still talk about places you've always dreamed of visiting. For instance, say: [11]
    • "What are the top 3 countries you’d love to visit?"
    • "Where's somewhere you'd never want to go?"
    • "Tell me about the best trip you've ever taken."
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12

Childhood

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  1. This is a great way for her to decide where the conversation goes—she could share a funny anecdote, reveal an important memory, or tell you about a sad event that shaped her life. Get her talking by asking a question like: [12]
    • "Do you think your childhood was happier than most people's?"
    • "What did you want to be when you were 5 years old?"
    • "What was the most embarrassing thing that happened to you when you were a kid?"
13

Family and friends

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  1. If you're making light conversation, ask a broad question like, "What's your family like?" This really gives her a chance to lead the conversation. If you know her pretty well or want to keep the conversation going, you can ask a more detailed question like: [13]
    • "How close are you to your family?"
    • "Of all your friends or family, who are your favorites? Least favorite?"
    • "Who was your first best friend?"
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14

Love and relationships

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  1. These are good questions to ask early on so you know if you both are interested in dating each other. These questions don't have to be crazy or unique—the goal is to start talking about what attracts both of you. For instance, ask: [14]
    • "What do you look for in a relationship?"
    • "What was your first impression of me?"
    • "Tell me about the worst date you've ever gone on."
15

Goals and dreams

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  1. You might be surprised to find out what she's looking forward to! However, if she's not very excited to talk about life goals, ask about what she wishes would happen or what she could change. Try asking: [15]
    • "Where do you see yourself in 10 years?"
    • "What is something that your future must include?"
    • "If a crystal ball could reveal your future, what would you want it to show?"
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16

Philosophical beliefs

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  1. Maybe you just want to talk about serious subjects for a minute or you want to know if she holds similar views. These are great questions to get an animated conversation (or debate) going: [16]
    • "What do you think is the meaning of life?"
    • "Do you think people have free will?"
    • "What do you want to be remembered for after you die?"

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      2. ↑ https://www.teenvogue.com/story/20-questions-ask-best-friend-become-closer-relationships
      3. ↑ https://rendezvousmag.com/250-questions-to-get-to-know-someone/
      4. ↑ https://icebreakerideas.com/questions-to-ask-to-get-to-know-someone/#Casual_Questions_About_Entertainment_and_Pop_Culture
      5. ↑ https://www.teenvogue.com/story/20-questions-ask-best-friend-become-closer-relationships
      6. ↑ https://youtu.be/CaZXmyf5dcs?t=369
      7. ↑ https://www.theknot.com/content/questions-to-ask-your-girlfriend
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      9. ↑ https://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/a31346416/questions-to-ask-your-crush/
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      2. ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/why-bad-looks-good/202011/3-conversation-topics-to-spark-a-relationship
      3. ↑ https://ggia.berkeley.edu/practice/36_questions_for_increasing_closeness
      4. ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/why-bad-looks-good/202011/3-conversation-topics-to-spark-a-relationship
      5. ↑ https://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/a31346416/questions-to-ask-your-crush/
      6. ↑ https://youtu.be/OWmFtZv1mUw?t=198
      7. ↑ https://conversationstartersworld.com/philosophical-questions/

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