How to Address a Queen

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It's a special privilege to get a chance to speak with a queen, so it's only natural that you'd want to get it right. We have all the etiquette tips you need for addressing a queen, whether you're talking to her in person or sending a letter.

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Addressing a British Queen in a Letter

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The UK doesn't currently have a Queen, but you may still want to know for if the UK does in the future.

  1. According to the Royal Family's official policy, you should be free to write in whatever style you like. Politeness and respect will make any letter more kindly received, but that does not necessarily equate to using formal terms. Stay sincere, and do not use the formal terms below if they make you uncomfortable.
  2. At the top of your letter, write "Madam," skip a line, and start writing your letter on the line below it. This is the formal and traditional term of address when writing a letter to the Queen of the United Kingdom.
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  3. The traditional written conclusion is I have the honour to be, Madam, Your Majesty's most humble and obedient servant, followed by your name. If you find this conclusion distasteful due to the declaration of servitude, or the insertion of the letter u in honour , consider one of the following respectful conclusions instead:
    • With greatest respect,
    • Yours faithfully,
    • Yours sincerely,
    • If you make a request, end the letter with a thank you and write your name. [1]
  4. On the envelope, write the following postal address, using the last line only if you are mailing the letter from outside the UK:
    • The Queen
    • Buckingham Palace
    • London SW1A 1AA
    • United Kingdom
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Addressing a British Queen in Person

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  1. Traditionally, women do a discreet curtsy and men bow from the neck when they meet the Queen of the United Kingdom. This is no longer required, but citizens of the Commonwealth usually choose to use this greeting. People who are not subjects of the Queen often prefer to use a slight nod instead.
    • Do not bow from the waist.
  2. The Queen may or may not offer her hand, although there is no special significance to one decision or the other. If she does offer her hand, take it in a brief, gentle handshake.
    • Do not offer your hand first.
  3. A good general rule, in fact, is not to initiate an action or conversation until the Queen has addressed you directly. Needless to say, wait until the Queen finishes speaking before you reply.
  4. If you are stuck for words, say "Hello, Your Majesty. I am delighted to meet you." Any polite greeting is acceptable, however. [2]
  5. For the rest of the conversation, say, "Ma'am," pronounced to rhyme with "jam." You may use the term "Your Majesty" again if you are asking her a question or introducing someone, but "Ma'am" will do most of the time.
  6. Most likely, the Queen will be guiding the conversation. But if you contribute your own small talk, avoid asking her about her family or personal life. [3]
  7. Remain facing her or standing to the side throughout the conversation. Turn away or leave only when the conversation is over. [4] And of course, don't forget to give her a proper good-bye and thank Her Majesty for the unexpected opportunity.
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Addressing Queens of Other Nations

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  1. Monarchies often have specific terms of address borne of their countries' traditions. Search online or in etiquette books for the terms of address for the specific monarchy.
  2. The term "Your Majesty" is common and unlikely to cause offense. This term is the proper way to address most queens, from Queen Pengiran Anak Saleha of Brunei, to Queen Mathilde of Belgium.
    • Use "Her Majesty" instead of "her" when writing or speaking about these queens in the third person.
  3. If a monarch's title includes "Empress," or if the nation she heads traditionally considers itself an empire, she should be addressed as "Her Imperial Majesty."
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      1. ↑ https://www.indeed.com/career-advice/career-development/how-to-end-a-letter
      2. ↑ https://www.merriam-webster.com/words-at-play/a-field-guide-to-british-noble-titles-whats-a-duchess
      3. ↑ http://abcnews.go.com/Politics/International/story?id=7228105&page=2
      4. ↑ http://abcnews.go.com/Politics/International/story?id=7228105&page=2

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      If you are addressing Queen Elizabeth II formally in writing, begin by writing “Madam” at the top, skip a line, then begin composing your letter on the line below. After finishing your letter, sign it with a respectful conclusion such as “With greatest respect” or “Yours faithfully.” If you are addressing Queen Elizabeth II in person, make a small curtsy, bow, or nod upon greeting her, and only shake her hand if it is offered to you. Address her as “Your Majesty” the first time in conversation and as “Ma’am” on subsequent references. Read more to find the Queen’s address for mailing letters and tips for addressing Queens of other nations.

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