How to Attract a Virgo Man Sexually

Co-authored by Stina Garbis and Dan Hickey

Last Updated: July 12, 2024 Fact Checked

If you’re trying to attract a Virgo man, then you’ve got good taste! This guy’s a meticulous and dedicated lover just waiting to please you—but how do you get his attention? It turns out it’s pretty easy when you connect with him on a mental level and give him the confidence that he can satisfy you in the bedroom. Read on for a comprehensive list of ways to sexually attract a Virgo man and keep him coming back for more!

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Engage him with intelligent conversation.

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A Virgo man appreciates someone with a great intellect. He’ll feel happy and comfortable with someone who can hold their own in conversation. Show off your knowledge on a variety of topics and current events—for Virgo, a well-informed partner is a sexy partner.
- Keep your conversations authentic. He’ll be able to tell if you’re pretending to have an opinion or trying to be somebody else to impress him.
- Great conversation topics could be anything in the local or international news, a new breakthrough or project at work, or telling an amusing story.

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Compliment him so he feels desired.

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A Virgo man’s mind and ego are his erogenous zones. Give him lots of compliments—tell him how hot and attractive he is, how smart he is, or let him know you like his company. The more you show him genuine affection, the more he’ll start to like you and his sexual attraction will get even stronger.
- Keep your compliments genuine and don’t lay it on too thick. If he sniffs a hint of fake, he’ll be turned off and lose some trust in you.

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Play easy-to-get.

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Virgo men aren’t natural pursuers. If you make yourself open, available, and not a hard target, that might get a shy and receptive sign like Virgo to approach. ^{[1]
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Expert Interview} As a mutable sign, Virgo is more go-with-the-flow than other earth signs and he’ll opt for the path of least resistance when it comes to making a move.
- Try intriguing your Virgo man by appealing to his intellect or a fetish you know he has. This will tempt him to approach you even more.
- Approach him first or strike up a friendly conversation to break the ice. Make it really clear you’re into him with eye contact, laughter, and welcoming body language.
- If your Virgo man isn’t getting the hint, make the first move with a seductive touch or by asking him out. A Virgo guy will appreciate a straightforward approach.

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Help him find ways to express himself.

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A Virgo man has trouble voicing his thoughts and feelings. Help him express his desires by prompting him with flirtatious questions like “How do I look?” or “What do you think of this new perfume?” As he gets more confident complementing you, his sexual attraction will grow.
- A big turn on for a Virgo man is a partner who doesn’t need constant validation. Be careful not to overdo it or he might see it as attention-seeking.

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Shower thoroughly before you see him.

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Good personal hygiene is a must for a Virgo man. He will always be impeccably clean and fresh and expects his partner to be too. He has a sensitive sense of smell and is easily turned off by any hint of BO. ^{[2]
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Expert Interview} Jump in the shower before you meet up, especially if you suspect sex will be involved. Always wear deodorant and a pleasant perfume around your Virgo guy to tantalize him.
- Showering together is the best (and most fun!) way to satisfy Virgo’s need for everyone to be clean before sex.
- After you get squeaky clean, put on a crisp, well-fitting outfit and a light makeup look to appeal to his love of a classic, natural beauty.
- Reader Poll: We asked 576 wikiHow readers who've dated Virgo men, and 73% of them agreed that their go-to style to attract them is classy, fitted clothing. [Take Poll]

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Act like an angel to lure him in.

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Virgo is the “virgin” of the zodiac. This explains their prudish front and their attraction to pure, modest partners. To attract him, showcase your angelic and innocent side and avoid jumping into your dirtiest desires right away. Once he overcomes his reserve, he’ll be open to your wilder side.
- Talk about work, volunteering, your family, or other wholesome things in your life to mesmerize him. The less he suspects your kinky preferences, the more pleasantly surprised he’ll be later.
- A Virgo man falls for the “lady in the streets, freak in the sheets” type. A proper partner with a secret kinky side is a big turn on for him.
- Virgo men are more likely to be freakier right away if they view you as a fling instead of a potential long term partner.

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Show him that he can trust you.

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Virgo men are usually shy lovers at first. They’re uncomfortable with emotional vulnerability and need to know they can let their guard down with you. Spend time together outside of the bedroom and speak freely with each other (talking is a turn on for a Virgo guy). When he feels he can trust you, he’ll be down for just about anything. ^{[3]
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- Be candid with your thoughts and try not to hide things from him. He’s more likely to embrace vulnerability if he sees you embrace it too.
- Express your authentic thoughts and feelings. A Virgo guy can usually tell if you’re withholding or fudging the truth.

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Communicate your wants and needs.

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A Virgo man will be turned on by knowing what satisfies you. Talk to him about what positions, techniques, and fantasies you crave—the more descriptive and directive you can be, the better. Dirty talk is a great and fun way to tell him what you want and build up his excitement.
- Keep the communication going during sex. Moan or tell him you like what he’s doing—the reassurance will ease his perfectionist tendencies and help him loosen up.
- Virgo men love to pitch in to help. ^{[4]
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  Expert Interview} Playfully tell him you need him to do these things to you and that no one else can get the job done.

9

Create a romantic atmosphere.

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Earth signs are highly sensual and like comfortable, nice things. Appeal to all of his senses to get him in the mood. Try a gourmet dinner and fine wine paired with romantic music and a few fragrant candles to make things truly sensual.
- Tantalize his sense of touch too with a suggestive massage and fresh, soft sheets on the bed.
- Virgo men are very visually stimulated, especially during sex. Keep some mood lighting on in the bedroom so he can see you.

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Make sure the bedroom is spotless.

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Virgo men are the neat freaks of the zodiac. They’re often most comfortable getting intimate in their own homes since they can control the mess and cleanliness. Make sure your home (especially the bedroom) is decluttered, clean, and well-organized to help him relax into a sexy mood.
- A Virgo man has an insane eye for detail. Anything out of order can distract him during sex, so double and triple check that your room is immaculate!

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Enjoy long, sensual foreplay.

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For a Virgo man, sex is about the journey, not the destination. He’ll take his time warming you up, and he’s good at it too (Virgo is ruled by Mercury, which governs the hands and mouth). He gets satisfaction from pleasing you, so let him do his thing. ^{[5]
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Research source} You’ll both enjoy the payoff after a long, tantalizing buildup.
- Guide him with your body language and words while he explores your body. He’s turned on by direction and knowing that he’s doing the right things.
- Virgo men like to please—just make sure to reciprocate and make him feel appreciated.

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Let yourself climax first.

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A Virgo man’s ultimate pleasure is pleasuring you. He probably wants you to finish first, so let it happen. His attraction to you will be red hot when he knows he has what it takes to satisfy you in bed. He’ll be so turned on afterwards that you’ll have an easy and enjoyable time returning the favor.
- You don’t always have to finish first, but it’s helpful for increasing his attraction to you in the early stages of your relationship.

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Be open to trying new things.

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Virgo men seem rigid at first, but it’s not permanent. Once he’s comfortable with you, he’ll want to explore his kinkier side. Keep his attraction to you strong by acting out new fantasies, bringing toys into the bedroom, or playing sexy games with each other.
- Try new things outside of the bedroom too. This will make his mental connection to you stronger, which will definitely make your sex together better.