How to Make a Virgo Man Obsessed with You

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Do you have a Virgo man on your radar? As the self-proclaimed perfectionists of the zodiac, these detail-oriented individuals can be really hard to woo and please. Don’t give up hope, though! Once you know how this earth sign ticks, you’ll be able to get the ball rolling in your relationship. Read on for tips, tricks, and strategies to get this mercurial man in your corner.

How to Woo a Virgo Man

Be mindful of your Virgo man’s feelings and behave maturely when things don’t go your way. Show your flexibility and willingness to compromise, while also being open with him about your needs and wants.

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Look your very best before heading out.

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    Virgos love everything to be just right, and will really appreciate someone who puts a lot of time and attention into their appearance. Go the extra mile to look as fresh , stylish, and put-together as possible. This could mean: [1]
    • Hopping in the shower when you first wake up
    • Brushing your hair an extra time
    • Ironing any stray wrinkles from your clothes
    • Gargling some mouthwash before heading out
    • Color-coordinating your outfits
    • Remember—Virgos are going to notice everything! [2]
    • Reader Poll: We asked 26 readers who've crushed on a Virgo, and 85% of them agreed that dressing in classy, fitted clothes is the best way to catch this Earth sign's eyes. Take Poll.
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Speak openly about your feelings.

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    Virgo men don’t like to be kept guessing and tend to struggle with a lot of self-doubt in their relationships. Instead, take time to remind him how much you care about him, and what you love most about him. This way, he can obsess over you instead of obsessing about his feelings. You might say:
    • “I love it when you get passionate and talk about the things that you enjoy.”
    • “I love being able to spend time with you.”
    • “You look so good in that flannel shirt!”
3

Stay grounded and humble.

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    Bragging is a huge turn-off for Virgos, and he definitely won’t want to sit through a convo of you gushing about the greatest vacation you ever went on. [3] Instead, try to keep your chat balanced and open so you both have equal opportunities to share. You might talk about:
    • School
    • Pets
    • Sports
    • Music and movies
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4

Ditch any extra drama in your life.

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    Relationships are all about give and take, and he’s looking for someone who’s willing to carry their weight. Try to be mindful of his wants and needs as well as your own, and don’t make a fuss when things don’t go your way. You’ll grab his attention just by being flexible and willing to compromise. [4] You might:
    • Respect his decisions instead of guilt-tripping him
    • Let him choose the locale for your date night
    • Respect his boundaries and give him space when he needs it
5

Cater to his interests.

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    Bring up a few tidbits about what you’ve learned and share them during your next conversation. Chances are, he’ll be eager to talk about his favorite topics with you! Plus, he’s sure to be impressed that you both like the same things. [5]
    • If you aren’t totally sure what he likes, take a peek at his social media pages! You’re sure to find some great conversation starters there.
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Remember the little details.

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    Make an effort to commit his interests and preferences to memory, whether that’s his favorite book, his favorite drink, or something else altogether. He’ll really appreciate the effort and diligence you took to remember all of his favorite things. You could say: [6] [7]
    • “I found this Stephen King novella at the used bookstore the other day. I know you really like his books, and I wasn’t sure if you’d read this yet.”
    • “Let me order drinks this go-around! You like your coffee with 2 sugars, right?”
    • “I’m assuming you’ll want the blue pen since blue is your favorite color.”
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Go the extra mile in the bedroom.

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    While some men prefer to get hot and heavy on the drop of a dime, Virgos are all about foreplay and well-planned roleplay. Take some time to send a few spicy, arousing messages before jumping into bed. [8]
    • With that being said, Virgo men can be very flexible once they know what your likes and dislikes are. Take things slowly at first, and then see how your relationship progresses!
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Appreciate everything that he does.

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    Try saying something the next time you notice him opening the door, cleaning up after a meal, or going out of his way to make your life a little easier. He’ll love the fact that you appreciate his loyalty and faithfulness. You might say: [9]
    • “Thank you so much for clearing off the table! I really appreciate it.”
    • “Wow, thanks for paying for my coffee! You really didn’t have to do that.”
    • “Thanks for waiting for me even though my class ran a little long.”
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Do him a favor.

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    Maybe your man surprises you with breakfast, buys you coffee, or simply holds the door open for you. Return the favor by doing thoughtful, helpful things for him, especially when he’s not expecting it. You’re sure to catch his attention by:
    • Making him a homemade lunch
    • Cleaning his car when he’s not around
    • Washing and drying his clothes
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Give him a thoughtful gift.

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    If he’s a stickler about his appearance, you might get him a high-end comb or bar of soap. If he prefers luxurious gifts, surprise him with something beautiful and high-quality, like a ring. [10] Here are a few other gift-giving ideas:
    • A set of stylish coasters
    • A high-quality journal
    • His favorite cologne
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Embrace a thrifty lifestyle.

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    Steer clear of impulse buys and those purchases that you want but don’t really need. [11] Instead, share some new, clever ways to save money—he’s sure to appreciate your practical, thrifty ideas! You might:
    • Mention your favorite, inexpensive stores to shop at
    • Cook him a homemade meal instead of ordering out
    • Make him a gift instead of buying something extravagant
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Learn How to Date a Virgo Man with this Expert Series

Virgo men are notoriously difficult to woo and please. These expert articles will help you connect romantically and date the Virgo of your dreams.
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Make a Virgo Man Obsessed with You
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Make a Virgo Man Chase You
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Love a Virgo Man
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    Virgos appreciate dates where they can have a real conversation. If you aren't interested in talking to a Virgo and listening to what they have to say, then you're dating the wrong sign.
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      2. ↑ Jessica Lanyadoo. Astrologer & Psychic Medium. Expert Interview. 12 November 2019.
      3. ↑ https://www.saga.co.uk/magazine/relationships/dating/star-signs/dating-a-virgo-man
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