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In a relationship, few things are more hurtful than feeling shut out by your partner. If your sweetheart acts emotionally distant or refuses to talk to you, you might feel tempted to plead with them, berate them, or demand that they let their walls down. While these approaches seldom work, the good news is that there are other things you can try. In this article, we’ll talk you through a few ways you can try to get through to your unresponsive loved one.
This article is based on an interview with our licensed marriage and family therapist, Allen Wagner. Check out the full interview here.
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QuestionHow do you improve communication skills in a relationship?Allen Wagner is a licensed marriage and family therapist based in Los Angeles, California. He received his Master's in Psychology from Pepperdine University in 2004. He specializes in working with individuals and couples on ways they can improve their relationships. Along with his wife, Talia Wagner, he's the author of Married Roommates.Set aside time to communicate about the household-related topics, like scheduling things and completing chores.
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QuestionHow can I improve my dinner conversation?Allen Wagner is a licensed marriage and family therapist based in Los Angeles, California. He received his Master's in Psychology from Pepperdine University in 2004. He specializes in working with individuals and couples on ways they can improve their relationships. Along with his wife, Talia Wagner, he's the author of Married Roommates.Try playing a game at the table! Companies like Table Topics make topic-related card games that help keep your dinnertime conversations fresh and dynamic.
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- In many cases, people act unresponsive in relationships because they are insecure or scared. However, if your partner intentionally shuts you out or gives you the silent treatment as a way to manipulate or punish you, then you may be in an abusive relationship. If you suspect that your partner’s behavior might be abusive, talk to your doctor or a therapist for advice. [18] X Research sourceThanks
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- ↑ https://psychcentral.com/lib/stonewalling-in-couples-when-you-or-your-partner-shuts-down
- ↑ https://www.relate.org.uk/relationship-help/help-relationships/communication/stonewalling
- ↑ https://goodmenproject.com/featured-content/how-to-help-an-emotionally-unavailable-partner-show-up-and-be-fully-present-dg/
- ↑ https://goodmenproject.com/featured-content/how-to-help-an-emotionally-unavailable-partner-show-up-and-be-fully-present-dg/
- ↑ Allen Wagner, MFT, MA. Marriage & Family Therapist. Expert Interview. 24 September 2021.
- ↑ https://www.denverpost.com/2016/05/26/relationships-how-to-deal-with-an-emotionally-distant-partner/
- ↑ Allen Wagner, MFT, MA. Marriage & Family Therapist. Expert Interview. 24 September 2021.
- ↑ https://psychcentral.com/lib/stonewalling-in-couples-when-you-or-your-partner-shuts-down
- ↑ https://psychcentral.com/lib/stonewalling-in-couples-when-you-or-your-partner-shuts-down
- ↑ https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2891543/
- ↑ https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2018/11/boyfriend-emotionally-supportive/576040/
- ↑ https://www.uagc.edu/blog/the-psychology-behind-the-5-love-languages
- ↑ Allen Wagner, MFT, MA. Marriage & Family Therapist. Expert Interview. 24 September 2021.
- ↑ https://goodmenproject.com/featured-content/how-to-help-an-emotionally-unavailable-partner-show-up-and-be-fully-present-dg/
- ↑ https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5042820/
- ↑ https://www.relate.org.uk/relationship-help/help-relationships/communication/stonewalling
- ↑ https://www.relate.org.uk/relationship-help/help-relationships/communication/stonewalling
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