How to Help Prepare a Preteen Girl for Puberty

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You can prepare a preteen girl for the changes that puberty will bring by talking to her honestly, even if it feels awkward. The best way to prepare your preteen is to explain the changes her body will be going through, menstruation, and sex openly and answer any questions she asks. Additionally, provide her with things she will soon need ahead of time, such as period products, deodorant, face wash, and a training bra. Let her know that you will be there to support her whenever she needs you.

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Helping Her Adjust to Physical Changes

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  1. One of the most noticeable changes that may occur to girls during puberty is the growth of breast tissue. Explain to your child that this is normal, and that is happens differently for every girl. Take her shopping for a training bra when this development starts, to help her feel comfortable about her changing body. She will feel very happy about this.
    • This change may start as young as eight in some girls.
    • If your daughter requests a training bra before she starts to develop, buy her one anyway to encourage her to make active choices about her body and to ensure she feels more comfortable.
  2. As your daughter gets older, she should take control of her own personal hygiene and work out a schedule for it. Make sure she understands that she should shower or bathe at least once a day and wash her hair at least twice a week, or once every one to two weeks if she's black . Help her decide whether she wants to do so in the morning or in the evening before bed.
    • A child who plays sports may need to wash more than once a day to maintain good hygiene.
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  3. Most teens deal with acne to some degree, but good hygiene can minimize it. Show your daughter how to wash her face properly in the morning and evening to prevent the buildup of oil and dirt, which can cause breakouts. If her skin is dry, demonstrate how she can moisturize her face after washing it.
    • Help your daughter choose a face wash and moisturizer that suits her particular skin type.
  4. During puberty, the underarm sweat glands are stimulated, causing sweat and odor. Buy your daughter underarm deodorant, which will reduce the smell of body odor, or anti-perspirant, which will cut down the sweat produced. Tell your daughter to apply it every day after washing. [1]
    • If she wishes, bring your daughter shopping for deodorant or anti-perspirant so she can choose the brand and scent that she prefers.
  5. Assure your daughter that the growth of body hair is perfectly normal during puberty, particularly on the underarms, pubic area, and legs. Tell her that shaving is her choice and not necessary if she doesn't wish to do it. If she does, show her how to do so safely to avoid injury. [2]
    • Give your daughter shaving cream and a single-blade razor to start with to minimize the risks of cuts while shaving.
    • Alternatively, give her an electric or battery-operated razor, which will be safer but provide a shave that is less close.
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Explaining Menstruation

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  1. Start by stating in simple terms what happens in the female body during a typical 28-day menstrual cycle. Explain that the uterus builds a lining to feed a fertilized egg, but if pregnancy doesn't occur, the lining is shed. Note that when this happens, blood and menstrual fluid are released through the vagina.
    • Outline how this all plays out over the approximately 28-day timeline. Understanding how each menstrual cycle works is valuable and practical information for her to have.
  2. It is important to prepare girls for the hormonal changes that they will experience during their menstrual cycle. Describe how hormone levels drop right before a woman starts her period, which may cause sadness, irritability, or mood swings. Tell her that this is common and completely normal.
    • Reassure her that there will always be ways for her to cheer herself up when she experiences these emotions, and that it won't last long.
  3. PMS symptoms and menstrual cramps are difficult symptoms that most women have to deal with. Explain that these side effects of the menstrual cycle are temporary and that her discomfort can be managed. Tell her about some reliable remedies, such as:
    • Hot water bottle or heating pad to relieve cramps.
    • Taking a warm bath or shower .
    • Taking an over-the-counter pain reliever like ibuprofen to reduce the intensity of cramps.
    • Exercising and eating healthy to reduce bloating during PMS.
  4. Stock your bathroom with pads, tampons, or any other type of period product so they are ready for your daughter when she gets her first period. Explain how they are used and advise her to try each option when she is comfortable doing so to see what she prefers. You should also give her a small carry-case of these supplies to bring to school when the time comes. [3]
    • Tell her how and when to dispose of pads or tampons properly.
    • As a third option, you may wish to purchase a menstrual cup in case she is interested in a reusable option. Period underwear and reusable pads are other more sustainable options.
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Guiding Her to Make Good Choices

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  1. While you may feel that puberty is too early for your child to start thinking about sex, it is likely that they will hear about it from friends, television, movies, or social media. Make sure that your daughter has accurate information about sex by discussing it openly. Answer any questions she has and encourage her to ask about anything she wants to know. [4]
    • Be sure to discuss safe sex measures, contraception, peer pressure, and health risks with your child as part of a complete talk about sex.
  2. Weight gain during or after puberty is common for girls as their metabolism changes. Assure your daughter that this possible weight gain is a normal part of her development and nothing to feel insecure about. Emphasize the importance of nutritious eating as well as exercise to stay healthy, regardless of what she weighs. [5]
    • Talk to your daughter about eating disorders to acknowledge that some weight control behaviours are dangerous and unhealthy.
    • Assert that sugary or processed junk foods are bad for her in large amounts because they lack nutrients that she needs to be healthy, as opposed to stressing their calorie content.
    • Stock your kitchen with healthy snacks for your daughter to enjoy.
    • Emphasise that it is okay to have treat foods in moderation, but they should not form the main part of her diet.
  3. Peer pressure can start early among preteens so it is best to prepare your daughter as early as possible. Talk to her openly and honestly about drugs and alcohol and answer any questions that she may have. Give her some practical examples of how to deal with pressure to try these substances, such as: [6]
    • Stating a specific reason for saying no, such as not wanting to smoke because you have asthma.
    • Speaking firmly and clearly to get the message across.
    • Removing herself from a situation if she feels pressured to do something she doesn't want to do.
    • Calling home to be picked up if the situation gets out of control.
    • Spending time with friends who choose not to use drugs and alcohol.
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      1. ↑ https://kidshealth.org/en/kids/puberty.html
      2. ↑ https://www.verywellfamily.com/girls-and-shaving-tips-for-tweens-and-parents-3288331
      3. ↑ https://www.chla.org/blog/rn-remedies/discussing-menstruation-your-daughter-whats-period
      4. ↑ https://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/tween-and-teen-health/basics/teen-health/hlv-20049436
      5. ↑ https://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/tween-and-teen-health/basics/tween-and-teen-health/hlv-20049436
      6. ↑ https://raisingchildren.net.au/articles/peer_pressure_teenagers.html

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