How to Know if You're Pansexual

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A pansexual person is attracted to people of all genders, including nonbinary people, cisgender people, and trans people. Maybe you're trying to figure out if you're pansexual, bisexual, or another sexuality . This wikiHow can assist you in determining whether you are pansexual for whatever reason.

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Understanding Pansexuality

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  1. Bisexual people can be attracted to people of at least two, not all, genders. Pansexual people can be attracted to any gender, or all genders.
    • Bisexual : Bisexuality is a term used to describe people who are attracted to more than one gender, or two genders, usually men and women. Because bisexual people may not be attracted to certain genders, the terms differ. Bisexuality does not always imply attraction to men and women, but it can. Nonbinary and other gender non-conforming people have always been and continue to be included in bisexuality. [1]
    • Bisexuals are attracted to two or more genders.
    • Pansexual: Pansexuality is a term used to describe people who are attracted to people of all genders, including nonbinary and genderqueer identities. [2]
    • Pansexuals are attracted to all genders, and people who fall anywhere within the continuums of gender identities and sexual orientations.
    • Omnisexual: The terms pansexual and omnisexual are frequently used interchangeably. There are differences between the two, despite their close resemblance. Those who identify as pansexual are attracted to people regardless of their gender, whereas omnisexuals are aware of potential partners' gender and possibly have a preference while still being omnisexual. [3]
    • Panromantic: Individuals who are romantically, but not necessarily sexually, attracted to others regardless of their gender identity or biological sex. [4]
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Signs of Being Pansexual

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  1.  You may be pansexual if you are attracted to people of all genders, or if you can develop an attraction to people without knowing their pronouns or gender identity. [5]
    • That includes attraction to someone who identifies as cisgender, transgender, bigender, nonbinary, or any other gender.
  2.  If you know you are queer but certain terms don't feel like they define your sexuality, this is another sign you may be pansexual. Bisexuality, in reality, is defined as attraction to two or more genders, and as a result, it can include attraction to just as diverse a group of people as pansexuality. [6]
    • It's possible that the term "bisexual" simply does not resonate with you. That might indicate that you're actually pansexual.
  3.  What matters most in the end is that you are at ease identifying as pansexual. It may take some time or trial and error to determine whether or not this label fits you well, and this is perfectly fine. [7]
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Knowing if You're Pansexual

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  1. It's natural to try to avoid or compensate for your sexual desires; it's also natural to be scared and overwhelmed! You must be vulnerable and honest with yourself in order to move forward. You can work toward self-acceptance once you stop suppressing your sexual preferences and acknowledge that they exist.

    Did You Know? Some pansexual folks have a stronger attraction to one gender more than another, but they remain pansexual. For example, someone might be interested in men, women, and nonbinary people but prefer women to men and nonbinary individuals.

  2. Pansexual people don't all have a specific gender or look. There aren’t hair, makeup, clothing, or style prerequisites for being pansexual — or for any other sexual or romantic orientation. [8]
  3. Asking yourself questions about what you think about yourself or your experiences might help you in identifying yourself and who you are.
    • Does your ideal partner have a gender preference?
    • Could you see yourself dating anyone, regardless of gender, sexual orientation, or sex?
    • Would you date someone who is the same gender as you, the opposite gender (if you identify with a binary gender), or a nonbinary gender?
    • Would you be interested in dating someone with a different sexual orientation than you?
  4. Being attracted to people of all genders, not only men, women, or nonbinary people, is the most telling sign that you are pansexual. It doesn't mean you're attracted to everyone, but it does mean you're capable of finding sexually appealing people of any gender. [9]
    • Another sign is that you feel as if you 'love who you love' regardless of someone's gender or identity.
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Accepting Yourself

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  1. It's crucial to love and accept yourself. Acceptance and understanding of one's sexuality rarely happen overnight. You'll realize that your sexual orientation does not define you as a person as you become more comfortable with it. Attempt to live an unapologetically honest life, free of guilt and shame. [10]
    • Practice positive self-talk. Replace negative phrases with positive mantras that you've created yourself. Take a deep breath, smile, and tell yourself that you are "valuable, loved, and entitled to live an authentic life that makes you happy!" whenever you catch yourself saying "I am not worthy" or "I don't deserve happiness."
  2. While accepting and discovering your sexual orientation is a very personal journey, you must understand that it will have an impact on your relationships with others. Coming out to your friends, family, and coworkers can be quite stressful. [11]
    • It is not necessary to tell everyone you know or meet that you are pansexual. When you're feeling confident and comfortable, bring up the subject with those you trust first. Be ready for negative feedback and appreciate positive feedback.
    • Though difficult, consider waiting to come out to your family if it could compromise your safety or you won't be supported.
    • Remember—you are not obligated to come out to anyone! Your identity and preferences are valid no matter who knows about them.
  3. Isolation is the worst kind of pain there is. It is critical to have a dependable friend or a receptive support group along your path to self-acceptance. When the journey becomes difficult, these people will offer you advice and comfort.
    • Supporters include certain family members , siblings, friends, or students, etc. It could be someone older or younger than you; as long as they show positivity and support, they can be supporters.
  4. Talking to someone you trust and who knows about your sexuality may relieve stress and clear your mind. [12]
    • If you don't have anyone to talk to, you can journal or write in a diary. This is a good way to release your emotions and stress without revealing your feelings to anyone.
  5. Your sexuality is simply a small part of who you are, and your life does not have to revolve totally around it. As you travel through life, live your life. Perhaps you prefer painting or writing; whatever it is that you enjoy, do it!
  6. Accepting and processing your sexual identity is a long and difficult process. It takes a lot of mental and emotional energy to deal with social stigma. Meeting with a trained therapist—one who has expertise in treating LGBTQ people—can assist you in navigating this process. A therapist can assist you in accepting your sexual orientation, as well as coming out to your family and peers. [13]
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    Is it possible for me to be pansexual or panromantic (or pancurious) if I can see myself dating anyone regardless of gender, sex, or sexuality but have only had crushes on boys?
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    It's likely that you are pancurious. Pancurious is a state of doubt that occurs when a person is unsure whether they are pansexual/panromantic and is testing the waters/exploring their sexuality.
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    What is the difference between being omnisexual and pansexual?
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    Omnisexual means being attracted to all genders with a preference. Pansexual means being attracted to all genders without a preference. Pansexuality is described as being "gender-blind" while being omnisexual is noticing a possible partner's gender, but not caring about it.
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    My best friend is pansexual, how can I support her?
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    It's great that you want to support your pansexual friend! There are a few ways to do this: don't judge her preferences, encourage and stick up for her when she faces homophobia or discrimination, don't tell anyone else she's pansexual (unless she asks you to), listen to her, and educate yourself about the LGBTQ community.
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      3. ↑ https://www.webmd.com/sex/what-is-panromantic
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