Q&A for How to Approach a Girl if You're Shy and Don't Know What to Say

Humor is a great way to strike up a conversation. If you're a guy and you see a girl you want to talk to, for instance, you might say, "Oh thank goodness I didn't wear that same skirt today!" Another great way to start a conversation is with a compliment. Try to compliment the person on something more than just their looks—it's better to choose something like their personality or what they're wearing. For instance, you might say, "I can tell you're really fun to be around." If you're in a mall or a shop, you might say something like, "Excuse me, what's your favorite ice cream?" Then, pick the opposite of whatever they suggest. That will create tension, and you can use that to build a conversation.

There are many ways to strike up a conversation. For a direct approach, just walk up and introduce yourself by saying something like, "Hi, I'm Adam." It's simple and straight to the point, and you can just be yourself. You could also start a conversation with a question. Ask something like, "Hey, do you know if there's a Starbucks around here?" Then, you can build your conversation off of their answer.

Just be confident and humble. Sometimes waiting boosts your confidence, while some may find it demoralizing. Also, you don't have to ask her out outside of school, although if it is in school, make sure it's private. A tactic that is also helpful is practicing on a similarly aged female friend.

Because they are too shy to admit it. They are worried that you will make fun of them or that your relationship will become awkward.

Ask her questions about herself and grow the conversation from there.

Then you're just going to have to be brave. If you like this girl your heart is in the right direction and you know how this is going to end.

Then she is not a good person. Find someone who likes you for you, and don't waste your time on ignorant people.

Overcoming a social fear is one of many challenges, and from experience I can tell you that it will never get easier. Start with small talk like a simple "hello" every morning, then the next week start with, "How are you?" and so on. You first need to build a friendship before it can progress into anything more.

Just tell her the truth about what happened, she should understand. If she doesn't believe you, ask your friend to back you up.

Her age likely won't be too big a factor as long as you engage her in a thoughtful conversation. Don't worry about her age, instead focus on the things you have in common.

First of all, don't get frustrated if she's not into you. If a girl has made it clear she's not interested (and sorry this is harsh) you need to move on. Otherwise, eye contact, smiling, being polite, having a good sense of style, and being interested in what she says could cause her to become attracted to you.

She might have been uncomfortable with you flirting with her, so maybe you should apologize to her for being so forward and avoid doing it again in the future. She may just need some time to herself though before she's ready to be friends again.

Just relax and think positive. Just imagine that it's going so well that the girl will be thrilled just to talk to you.

You'll have to figure out when the time is right for yourself. Don't tell her until you're absolutely sure about your feelings, and choose a time when you're alone together and she's not distracted by anything else. If you're scared of her response, don't be. You only live once, you should go for it.

If she consistently gives answers like that and makes no effort to contribute to the conversation, she probably isn't interested in talking to you, and it would be best to leave her alone. If it was just the response to one question, you could try sharing your own perspective on the thing you asked her about, or following up with a related question.

If you're only interest in her is in dating her NOW, you might as well quit. But, you could continue to get to know her and develop a friendship. You never know what might happen later on.

Re-engaging a girl you are already friends with is not that different from approaching a girl you don't know: the important thing is gathering the courage you need to approach her and making polite, pleasant conversation. If she isn't interested in you though, you may need to move on.

Start playfully flirting and see if she responds to it positively. If she does, there's a good chance that she will accept your love. Girls like it better when you tell them face to face; bring her to a quiet place where you can have privacy. When you do tell her, explain the reasons.

If she doesn't want to talk to you, leave her alone. Maybe try again another time. If she still doesn't want to talk to you, just accept it. Not everyone is going to like you, and you can't force her.

You can always start with a question. It can get her thinking and she will likely ask one back. You will start a conversation and you feel feel more comfortable. If you are shy and you get nervous around her, it helps to practice. Try it with another friend. It might feel weird at first, but it will help.

Yes, if she's new then she probably doesn't have a lot of friends yet. Just walk up and start a conversation. Ask her how she likes the school so far. Don't mention you've been following her (also, stop doing this), as this could be construed as creepy and invasive.

Make the first move. Ask her if she wants to go to Starbucks or something.

If you already have an established relationship with the girl, the best route may be to be honest with her. She might not reciprocate your feelings, so consider whether or not it could be worth risking your friendship to let her know.

You "found yourself" kissing her best friend? You messed up pretty bad, and you better start admitting it was your fault. Tell your crush you're sorry, and ask if you can start over, but prepare for the worst. And if you don't want to get called a player, don't act like one!

Don't overthink it. Just walk up and say, "Hey, I don't know if you remember me, we used to be neighbors on Oak St.," or however you knew her. If you remember her, she most likely remembers you too.

You could just ask her if you can be her friend. Friendship can always turn into something more in the future.

If she's nearby while you are hanging out with a few friends, ask her to join your conversation. If you see her and you're by yourself, just say "hello" and ask her a few questions about herself. General questions work best, like "Are you from this area?" or "What kind of things do you like to do for fun?" If she likes you for who you are, then she will become friends with you and your relationship may get more serious later on. Be yourself, and show that you are genuinely interested in her.

You shouldn't have to do anything special. Just approach her and try to be her friend like you would with anyone else. It shouldn't matter to her that you're black, and if it does, you should find another crush!

Get to know her. Don't rush into a relationship. Looks are not everything. Make it your initial aim to befriend her by asking questions and finding common interests.

Try going up to her and don't confess just yet but say that you want to get to know her better and to spend time with her. Ask about interests and try finding out who she hangs out with. Be confident and don't ask others about her, find out about her by talking. One final thing, be yourself because trust me, hiding yourself is stressful and will affect you in most likely bad ways.