Q&A for How to Say No Politely To a Man Who Asks You Out

You should tell him you're not comfortable with being asked out by someone who already has a girlfriend. You should also consider whether you'd really want to be with someone like this. It's very disrespectful to ask out other people while in a relationship with someone, and if he did it to someone else, he could do it to you. If he doesn't want to be with his girlfriend anymore, he should break up with her before he starts pursuing other people.

Just be polite and decline his offer. Tell him you're flattered, but you're in a relationship. Most guys will be understanding of this. If he continues to push the issue, tell HIS boss or someone in the human resources department that you're being harassed.

Be honest with him. Let him know that you like him but you aren't allowed to date. Ask him if he'd like to be your friend for now.

Just ask him. If the boy likes you then he should understand your need for privacy and why you didn't say no before.

Be honest with him! Tell him you're not totally sure about your feelings, but that you'd like to get to know him better. Ask if you guys can hang out and see how it goes, or just take things slow. If he really likes you, he'll probably be cool about it. If you don't want to do this, just tell him that for now, you'd like to remain friends only.

Some boys are really sensitive to being rejected (as are some girls). Time is going to be the only thing to fix this. You didn't say anything wrong, and if you try to rephrase what you said, he's likely to get the wrong idea and think you like him after all. It's best to just give him some time and space. He'll get over it.

Tell him you are not interested and would prefer if he stopped talking to you. It is very weird that he talked about your breasts and then apologized and then professed his love for you. It sounds like he expected professing his love would resolve that issue. It didn't.

Kindly let him know you changed your mind. Consent is only valid until it is revoked, and it can be revoked at any time. Life is too short to go to movies with people you don't want to go with. You can even be even more gentle and come up with an excuse. "Oh hey, bad news, I said OK earlier, but I just realized I can't make it after all. So sorry. But thanks for asking me."

Tell him, "I think you are really nice, but I'm not really interested in a relationship right now. Sorry." If you'd like to be friends, tell him that too.

Politely tell them you're not interested. If the person is being aggressive and harassing you, call the police. File a report and fill out a restraining order if necessary. If it's someone you work with, contact someone in the Human Resources department.

You can simply say, "For me, the feeling is not there." It shields whatever real reason you may have to say no, and it's not a lie.

No, at least, not if you don't want it to mean that. So far, all there is is that you've met, talked, shared a few stories, spent some time together, and have danced together. That's good. If you like him, keep spending time with him, getting to know him and give him the opportunity to get to know you. If you want to call it dating, it can only be that if he calls it that as well. Casually say, "OK, it's a date" and see how he responds. But from the way this sounds, you're doing great!

What will it take for you to know whether you like him? We all make decisions the very first second we meet someone, but that's just a first impression. Just because you agreed to go out doesn't mean you are now obligated to love him. Think of it as just a date; spend some time together, let him get to know you. Instead of dreaming about you from afar, he wants to know the actual you, see if he could love you. Finally, though it's sad, if you don't like him, you'll have to hurt him, and it's best to do so as soon as possible before his hopes go up too high. If he's nice, I'm sure he'll find a nice girl.

Try to make it the softest no you can think of. "Hey, I sense you like me, but I don't feel that way about you, but it's OK, we're the best of friends and I am flattered that you ask me to a dance." Alternatively, if he sends you hints and you send nothing back, he should pick up on the fact that it's a no, without any explicit confirmation, so expect him to stop his advances after a certain time. If he doesn't, hope is hard to let go of, so be kind when you let him down. Point out your friendship and how you appreciate it.

Be kind, it it happens. Let him know exactly how you feel; you're friends, after all. But it is tricky. He's kind of lost track of things. When we like people, we try to figure out if they like us back by dropping hints. If we register no reaction, we should conclude they don't like us back and come to our senses and stop sending hints, much less confess any love. But no reaction is often taken for "there might still be hope". Love clouds our judgment, and hope does die last. So even if he failed to accurately keep track of your feelings, you're still good friends, so consider it a little lapse and let him down easy.

There's no harm in going on one date with him. It took some courage to ask you, and if you're not totally disgusted by the sight of him, who knows, it could grow. But if you want to feel wild attraction from the first glance, then this boy is not for you.

Be honest and upfront. Unfortunately for him, you are going to have to friend-zone him do to your sexuality and make it clear that you aren't attracted to him in that way. Be honest, but also just give him the option to stay friends if you are still comfortable with that.

There is nothing you need to do; you didn't do anything wrong. Feelings can't be forced, and it's high time he learned that. Even if you did initially have some romantic interest and felt nothing more than friendship once you got to know him, that's not your fault. Sure, he had hopes, but you can't go and spend your life with him if you don't want to just because he had hope. He has no right to scold you. Tell him gently that he should learn there will be a lot more rejection before he finds love, and that you hope he can come to his senses soon and you can be friends.

Say no. Stop being kind. He is unacceptable. If a hundred men like you but you like only three back, and the other 97 all keep pushing you, you'd be spending hours each day explaining why you don't want to go on a date. This is exhausting, time-consuming, and most of all: extremely unpleasant. Nobody likes to be rejected, but to reject someone is no fun either. And he is forcing you to reject him over and over again, he's forcing extremely unpleasant feelings onto you, and that is unacceptable, especially among friends. He must stop, as this is borderline harassment.

If you say 'yes', then that means 'yes'. If you say 'no', then that means 'no'. And if you say nothing, then also means 'no'. So if you don't encourage his subtle moves, he should figure out you're not interested. But you can do more. If he lightly touches your arm, you can firmly take his hand and remove it. All in good fun, with a playful smile, why not. But that sends a clear message. You can also just talk; you're friends, after all: "Hey, I know what you mean, but I'm not ready for that."