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It feels amazing to get sexual attention from your boyfriend, no matter how long you’ve been dating. You might be at a point in your relationship where you’re looking for new and exciting ways to make him focus on you and reignite that spark when you’re in the mood. There are a ton of fresh and easy ways to pique his interest (and other things) from subtle scents and sexy looks to naughty whispers and dirty dancing . Read on for 13 everyday moves you can make to grab your boyfriend’s attention, turn him on , and feel sexy and empowered while you do it.

1

Make seductive eye contact with him.

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  1. Lock eyes and hold his gaze for a few seconds. Your eyes are your strongest seductive tool, and you can use them in private or when you’re both out in public to send the signal. The more intentional you are, the bigger emotional (and physical) reaction you’ll get from him.
    • Throw in a wink, a raised eyebrow, or a pouty lip to make it extra clear what’s on your mind.
    • If you have a signature dirty look he recognizes, go for it! He’ll love picking up on your horny bat signal. [1]
    • Don’t lock eyes for longer than about 10 seconds. After that point, it can start to seem a little creepy or jokey.
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Make him feel hot with gentle touching.

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  1. Your touches don’t have to be sexual to make him feel desired and start thinking sexy thoughts. In fact, a lot of men like being touched in romantic or platonic ways as much as they do in erotic ways. [3] Try some more playful, unexpected touches like:
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Wear a seductive or nostalgic perfume.

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  1. Spray a scent that reminds him of you. This can be something you wear now or a scent you wore when you first started dating. A familiar smell can stimulate a lot of different sensory reactions in him, including arousal. When he gets a whiff of your perfume, he’ll start thinking about you and all the fun you’ve had together (including in the bedroom!).
    • If you’re feeling extra sneaky, spray a tiny amount of perfume on his pillow. He’ll start thinking about you before you’re even in the bedroom.
    • Scents that remind him of sex, nature, or even food can help grab his attention and put sex on his mind. Try perfumes with hints of sandalwood, bergamot, rose, lavender, vanilla, cinnamon, or citrus scents.
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Flaunt the physical features he loves about you.

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Use flirty body language to show him you’re in the mood.

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  1. [7] An extra powerful move is the “coy smile.” Tilt your head to the side while you’re standing right in front of him with open posture and flash him a small, seductive smile. This tiny move has big rewards! Other “let’s get it on” moves are:
    • Sitting or standing with your feet pointing right at him.
    • Mirroring his movements (for example, if he leans in to tell you something, lean in even closer to him).
    • Making eye contact and then looking away to suggest you’re ready to go somewhere else with him.
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8

Show him a new dance move.

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  1. Pull out a new twirl or a hip shake next time you’re dancing with him. You don’t have to be a great dancer or learn a whole choreographed routine. One new, sensual move he’s never seen you do before is enough to grab his attention and reignite that spark he feels for you whether you’re at the club, a party, a wedding, or just dancing at home. [8]
    • If you want to be more direct, try doing a slow, erotic dance just for him when you’re alone together. Again, you don’t have to be a great dancer. Just move in a sensual way that feels good with some music on to get his focus on you.
9

Reminisce about when you first started dating.

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Tell him about how hot he was when you first met.

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  1. Paint him a picture with lots of details, like where you were or what he wore. Talk about how irresistible he looked when you first laid eyes on him, or how badly you wanted to pounce on him when you were still just in your flirting phase. You can even recount the first time you hooked up or had sex (definitely don’t leave out any details here!). [10]
    • Give him a teasing touch or reenact the way you first walked over to talk to him to really take him back to the earliest, most sentimental moments in your relationship. Adding some physicality will let him know what you want to do when you’re done telling your story.
11

Make him (a little bit) jealous.

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12

Get flirty and start teasing him.

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  1. Teasing and flirting make your boyfriend feel hot and desired, so tell him things like what you want to do to him later (or what you want him to do to you). [12] Teasing works best when there’s some tension involved, so rev him up at a moment where he can’t immediately whisk you away to the bedroom. Try something like:
    • "I’ll have a surprise waiting for you when you’re back from work."
    • "I bet I can help you unwind better than a Manhattan can."
    • "If you behave at dinner tonight, I’ll give you some extra dessert when we get home."
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Initiate sexy time on your terms.

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      • Only do things you’re comfortable with to grab his attention. If you’re hesitant about the more upfront or sexual options and the subtle cues aren’t working, start a conversation with him about your wants and needs when it comes to sexual attention.
      • If you and your boyfriend have not had sex yet, check in with him and yourself to make sure you’re both ready to make that jump. You’ll have more fun trying to get his attention when you know you’ll both enjoy the outcome.
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