How to Respond when a Girl Says She Is Busy: 11 Ways to Reply

Co-authored by John Keegan and Hunter Rising

Last Updated: April 19, 2023

You’ve worked up the courage to ask your crush to hang out, but she said she’s busy—how should you respond? Is she actually busy, or is she just not interested in hanging out? Don’t worry—if you play things right, you can figure out how she actually feels and maybe even make plans to hang out another time. Keep reading for tips and example texts so you know how to reply when she says she's not available.

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Brush it off casually.

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Make the rejection seem like it isn’t a big deal to sound less disappointed. If she sees that you’re not upset when she says she’s busy, you’ll come across as easy-going . Let her know that you can always reschedule even if you don’t have a specific time in mind. That way, it’ll sound like you’re still down to get together later on.
- “Oh that’s okay, we’ll find another time.”
- “No worries, maybe we can go later.”
- “You know, I actually had something come up too so it’s okay.”

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Wish her a good day.

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Showing you’re supportive lets her know how kind and caring you are. Even if you can’t get together or go on a date, she’ll appreciate that you’re still kind and considerate to her . Give her a few words of encouragement if she needs to get something done or tell her to have a good time if she has other plans.
- “Aw bummer! Well, I hope you still have an amazing day!”
- “Oh well, we’ll figure it out sometime. Have a great time!”
- “Hope you have fun today!”

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Mention when you’re free.

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Your crush can choose a time that works best for her. If she seems into you and is genuinely busy, she’ll still want to get together at another time. List a few times when you’re available in the next few weeks so she can work it into her schedule. She might even offer times when she’s free so you can plan a date that works well for both of you.
- “That’s okay, maybe we can figure something out this weekend?”
- “If you have any free time later tonight, give me a call!”
- “I can do it next Friday, so just let me know if that works better.”

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Ask her what she’s up to.

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She’ll see that you’re still into her if you’re curious about her life. Don’t interrogate your crush about why she can’t go on a date with you. Just keep the questions light and fun so they sound like you’re genuinely wondering more about who she is as a person. That way, you can keep the conversation going and learn more about her.
- “It’s alright. Are you up to anything fun?”
- “Oh dang! What happened, did work call you in?”
- “Big plans for the evening then?”

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