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Tips for sending the first message on OkCupid
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Using OkCupid is a simple and fun way to meet new people, but sending that first message to someone can be nerve-wracking. To help ease your worries, this article lists a bunch of helpful strategies that can improve your odds of OkCupid success. So read on before tapping out your next first message!
This article is based on an interview with our professional dating coach and licensed social worker, Julianne Cantarella. Check out the full interview here.
Things You Should Know
- To get a conversation started on OkCupid, ask the other person things that require a longer response or refer to something in their profile.
- You can also point out similarities if you have any!
- Remember to keep it simple.
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- Not sure how to send that first message? Here’s how you do it:
- “Like” them by dragging their photo to the right or clicking the heart icon in “Discover,” or by visiting their profile in “Questions” and tapping the “Like” button.
- Once you’ve “Liked” the person, click the “Message” button that appears on their profile. Type and send your message—but remember that you only get one shot!
- Wait for them to (hopefully) “Like” you back and respond, at which point you can continue the conversation. Otherwise, try again with another potential match.
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References
- ↑ Julianne Cantarella. Dating & Relationship Coach. Expert Interview. 6 August 2021.
- ↑ Julianne Cantarella. Dating & Relationship Coach. Expert Interview. 6 August 2021.
- ↑ https://theblog.okcupid.com/exactly-what-to-say-in-a-first-message-2bf680806c72
- ↑ Julianne Cantarella. Dating & Relationship Coach. Expert Interview. 6 August 2021.
- ↑ https://theblog.okcupid.com/exactly-what-to-say-in-a-first-message-2bf680806c72
- ↑ Julianne Cantarella. Dating & Relationship Coach. Expert Interview. 6 August 2021.
- ↑ Julianne Cantarella. Dating & Relationship Coach. Expert Interview. 6 August 2021.
- ↑ https://theblog.okcupid.com/exactly-what-to-say-in-a-first-message-2bf680806c72
- ↑ Julianne Cantarella. Dating & Relationship Coach. Expert Interview. 6 August 2021.
- ↑ https://theblog.okcupid.com/exactly-what-to-say-in-a-first-message-2bf680806c72
- ↑ Julianne Cantarella. Dating & Relationship Coach. Expert Interview. 6 August 2021.
- ↑ https://theblog.okcupid.com/exactly-what-to-say-in-a-first-message-2bf680806c72
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