How to Text a Girl (Middle School)

Co-authored by Asa Don Brown, PhD, DNCCM, FAAETS

Last Updated: January 4, 2024 References

Aye, this will help you text that girls you like or even your girlfriend in middle school because the boys aren't the best texters. We'll continue!

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If she responds, keep talking.
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Research source} She will jump to conclusions that she is annoying you and that you hate her, and that you don't like her right away. Some will anyway. Not all, so don't assume so.

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Take a minute or two then respond
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Research source} It makes girls feel like you actually care about what they are saying and have similar feelings.
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Try not to respond with just one word answers like "cool", "haha", or "lol"; it just shows that you don't care what they have just said, even if you really do. ^{[3]
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Research source} Try responding with a question about what she just said to keep the conversation going.
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If it gets to the point where you are just saying "soooooo" then it might be better to ask a simple question like "how was your day?" or ask how her practice was. It shows you care and it keeps the conversation going, and shows her that you want to continue talking.
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She will love to hear it and will probably have something to tell you in return.
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You don't have to act all cool all the time. But don't be so random that you freak her out.
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Even if she starts it, try to get around it. It may sounds clichéd, but gossip is kind of messed up. You don't want to risk saying something that insults her or one of her friends.
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Research source} Talk about your siblings or family. Talk about things you like or dislike, etc.
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Or "I'll brb I have to....." Never leave her hanging. ^{[5]
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If she doesn't respond, just wait. She's probably busy with something.

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How do you resist the urge to text a person you like?

Asa Don Brown, PhD, DNCCM, FAAETS
Clinical Psychologist
Dr. Asa Don Brown is a Clinical Psychologist with over 25 years of experience. He specializes in working with families, children, and couples, treating a variety of psychological disorders, trauma, and abuse. Dr. Brown has specialized in negotiation and profiling. He is also a prolific author having published three books and numerous articles in magazines, journals, and popular publications. Dr. Brown earned a BS in Theology and Religion with a minor in Marketing and an MS in Counseling with a specialization in Marriage and Family from The University of Great Falls. Furthermore, he received a PhD in Psychology with a specialization in Clinical Psychology from Capella University. He is also a candidate for a Masters of Liberal Arts through Harvard University. Dr. Brown is a Fellow of the American Academy of Experts in Traumatic Stress and a Diplomate for the National Center for Crisis Management and continues to serve a number of psychological and scientific boards.

Asa Don Brown, PhD, DNCCM, FAAETS

Clinical Psychologist

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Do not give in to your urges or impulses. Consider the “why” behind the need, the desire, the craving, or the urge to text. Why now? Why are you feeling an urge or an impulse to text? One of the best ways to fight such an urge is to find something else to focus on. Do not combat this impulse or craving. Reengage in finding something else to occupy your mind, thoughts, and perceptions.

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Use her name but not in every text.

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Don't over text her if she doesn't respond don't text her back that day wait for her to or try again in a couple days, she could very easily get annoyed with you.

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