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You’ve Matched with someone on Hinge—congrats! What do you say that’ll grab their attention and guarantee a response? Below, we’ve compiled a list of the most effective Hinge openers out there. These conversation starters, ice breakers, and pick-up lines will help get the ball rolling and lead you closer to that date. So, keep reading to find your best Hinge opener.
Things You Should Know
- Scroll through your Match’s profile before sending your message to find similar interests you can comment on and ask them about.
- Give them a sincere compliment about their personality or appearance to let them know you’re interested in them.
- Start up a fun game or friendly debate to get your Match excited to talk to you.
- Inquire about their day-to-day life to learn more about them and their routine.
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Start the conversation with a playful debate. The debate doesn’t have to be mind-blowing. Simply think of two things you can compare, and then ask what they think. You’ll both have opinions, and that’s a great way to get the ball rolling. Plus, this opener gives you a chance to show off your sense of humor. [1] X Research source
- “Pick one: treehouse or houseboat?”
- “Worst thing: being hot or being cold?”
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Ask them about something that everybody loves: food! See where they side on an unpopular food opinion or ask about their favorite foods—the possibilities are endless. Simply think about what foods you enjoy and go from there. This is a fun way to start up a conversation and show off a bit of your personality. Here are some examples:
- “I must know, pancakes or waffles?”
- “What’s your favorite pizza topping?”
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Ask them a creative hypothetical question. We all daydream every once in a while, so why not ask them about their wildest dreams? Think of a fun or even flirty question to ask that’ll set you apart from other Matches. Try asking:
- “If you were pasta, what type of pasta would you be?”
- “If you were stranded on an island, what’s the first thing you’d do?”
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Ask about their worst dating app experience. This opening line is smart and funny. Plus, it’ll give you a leg up on your next line—you now know what to avoid! You can even share some of your own bad dating app experiences, giving you both something to vent and bond over.
- For added fun, consider flipping the script and asking them, "What's the worst pick-up line you've ever used?" [2] X Research source
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Play a game of What Would You Do to start a conversation. The possibilities are truly endless with this game! Simply think of a wild scenario to ask them and see where the conversation goes. You’ll get to know more about them and give your opinion too. Here are some more examples:
- “What would you do if I asked for your number right now?”
- “What would you do if you spotted a zebra in the middle of the street?”
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Play a game of Would You Rather. This game can be funny, flirty, or sexy, and all you have to do is ask a simple question! Think of two alternative choices and ask your Match what they’d rather do. Give one of these questions a try to break the ice:
- “Would you rather be a taco or a hamburger?”
- “Would you rather hold hands forever or never be able to hug again?”
- “Would you rather kiss a coworker or a friend?”
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Ask about their sense of humor. This question is super sweet and can give you an idea about what they find funny. Maybe they laughed at a movie or a joke their friend made. Either way, use their response to ask more questions to keep the conversation going.
- “What’s the best joke you’ve ever heard?”
- “What movie wins the superlative for Most Funny?”
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Start with a question about their wild side. Everyone has a bit of an adventurous spirit, even if that means eating a whole pint of ice cream. Try asking them this question to catch a glimpse into their life. For instance:
- “If you could do one thing with no negative repercussions, what would you do?”
- “What’s the craziest thing you did as a kid?”
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Talk to them about their furry friends. If they feature their pet(s) on their profile, chances are they mean the world to them. Let them know you’re an animal person, too. This is sure to spark a conversation about common interests and lifestyles. [3] X Research source
- “No joke. Our dogs could be cousins.”
- “I love your cat! What’s their name?”
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Brag about your talents while commenting on their profile. Show off your skills and be a little flirty all at the same time. Find something in your Match’s profile you can comment on, like a picture or a prompt. [4] X Research source Then, relate your own talents to it. For instance:
- If they’ve posted a picture of themselves baking, you could ask, “Those cupcakes look delicious, but can you crack eggs with one hand?”
- If they say they like running, you might comment, “A 10-minute mile is impressive, but it doesn’t beat my 8 minutes 😉”
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Respond to their Hinge prompts . They most likely have at least 3 Hinge prompts and answers on their profile, so why not engage with them? Ask them a question based on one of their answers to break the ice and let them know you’re paying attention. [5] X Research source
- Let’s say they answered, “My most irrational fear,” with, “Banana peels.” You could respond with, “I have to know more about this fear of banana peels.”
- Or if they answered, “A shower thought I recently had,” with, “Why can’t sharks swim backwards?” You could ask them, “So, did you ever learn why sharks can’t swim backward?”
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Ask about their career or job. Break the ice by asking about what they do for a living, especially if they’ve noted it on their profile. This is an excellent way to learn more about them and get a conversation started. You could also ask:
- “Super jealous of your job. I wanted to be a marine biologist as a kid. Is it as fun as it looks?”
- “Okay, so you work at Dairy Queen. What do I need to do to get an unlimited supply of ice cream?”
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Compliment one of their profile pictures or responses. Sometimes the best way to flirt is to be genuinely honest. Did one of their pictures knock your socks off, or did their personality shine through their prompts? Don’t be afraid to tell them! [6] X Research source
- “I was cracking up reading your profile—you’re hilarious!”
- “You seem like a really great friend. That group picture is adorable.”
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Talk to them about a specific picture from their profile. The best way to tell a Match you’re interested? Commenting on their profile! [7] X Research source Try asking them about where a picture was taken or saying how amazing they look. You might say something like:
- “When did you visit the Grand Canyon? I went there last year and was blown away.”
- “Low-key jealous that you’ve been to Disney World. You look adorable in Minnie Ears btw 😉”
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Ask them about one of their hobbies. Does their profile feature pictures of them doing something they love? Ask them about it! This is a great way to start a conversation and lets them know you’ve looked at all the areas of their profile.
- “You like to bake? Me too! I must know the flavor of that cake.”
- “You’re a Red Socks fan? What a shame. I’m always going to root for the Yankees.”
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Ask them about where they live. You can learn a lot about a person from where they live or grew up. This friendly question is personal yet not too personal, opening the door to all types of conversations about their lives.
- “I’m from California too! Where did you grow up?”
- “I’ve always wanted to go to New York. Tell me, is the pizza as good as they say?”
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Ask about their favorite artist or band. Do they share lyrics from their favorite song in their profile? Use this little tidbit to your advantage by asking them questions about that artist. This is a fun and friendly way to learn about their music tastes. You could ask:
- “When did you become a Harry Styles fan?”
- “What’s the first Taylor Swift song you fell in love with?”
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See if you have the same music taste. This question may seem simple, but it can tell you a lot about them. Who knows? You may just like the same artist or genre and find someone new to share playlists with.
- “What’s a genre you love that might surprise me?”
- “Who’s the most underrated artist of all time?”
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Ask about their phone screen to get a peek into their life. Believe it or not, you can learn a lot about a person from their phone background. Is it a picture of their dog, themselves, or a sunset? This is a fun way to break the ice, and you can even share yours too. Here are some other ideas you can try:
- “What was the last thing you Googled?”
- “What app do you spend most of your time on?”
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Geek out about your favorite fandoms together. If their profile features pictures or quotes from a fandom you’re also a part of, use that to your advantage! You already have one thing in common, so why not start the conversation with that and go from there. For example:
- “Let me guess, you’re a Hufflepuff.”
- “So, who would you side with on the Sokovia Accords? I’m Team Cap 100%.”
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Have fun with a simple Kiss, Marry, or Kill game. Scroll through their profile one more time to see if they have a favorite celebrity or are a part of a fandom. Then, tailor your opening line to be unique to them. [8] X Research source There’s no better way to talk about a common interest! For instance:
- If they like Star Wars, “Kiss, marry, or kill: Luke Skywalker, Boba Fett, or Chewbacca.”
- If they’re into country music, “Kiss, marry, or kill: Tim McGraw, Luke Bryan, or Blake Shelton.”
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Send a flirty message to capture their attention. A simple or cheesy pick-up line can work wonders, especially if you feel extra flirty yourself. Consider trying one of these one-liners to get the conversation started:
- “Did you just come out of the oven? Because you’re hot 😍”
- “I guess today’s my lucky day because I’ve matched with you.”
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Try a simple greeting if you’re drawing a blank. Your opening line doesn’t have to be something outrageously funny or creative. Even the simplest “hello” can spark a conversation. [9] X Research source
- “Hi! How’s the weekend treating you?”
- “Hey! I’m so glad we matched. How’s your week been?”
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QuestionWhat are some tips on using pick-up lines or introductory scripts when meeting somebody for the first time?Michelle Jacoby is a Matchmaker, Dating Coach, and the Founder and CEO of DC Matchmaking, a privately owned, boutique matchmaking company based in Washington, DC, Maryland, and Virginia. She is also the Co-Founder of The Matchmakers Alliance, an international industry organization for matchmakers. With over 12 years of experience, Michelle specializes in one-on-one matchmaking and group coaching to help singles find healthy, lasting relationships. She has been featured in several media publications such as The Washington Post, Self, and NPR. Michelle holds a BA in Psychology from George Washington University. She is also a Certified Matchmaker from The Matchmakers Institute as well as a Certified Body Language Expert from The Body Language Institute.I'm not a big fan of the pickup line. Sometimes they can be cute, but I really prefer an authentic hello to a prefab pickup line. I think being friendly is all it takes. I don't think you have to be super smooth or rehearsed all the time.Thanks! We're glad this was helpful.
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QuestionWhen speaking to someone through text, how can you read somebody in a way that makes the conversation easier since sometimes it's hard to understand emotions through text?Michelle Jacoby is a Matchmaker, Dating Coach, and the Founder and CEO of DC Matchmaking, a privately owned, boutique matchmaking company based in Washington, DC, Maryland, and Virginia. She is also the Co-Founder of The Matchmakers Alliance, an international industry organization for matchmakers. With over 12 years of experience, Michelle specializes in one-on-one matchmaking and group coaching to help singles find healthy, lasting relationships. She has been featured in several media publications such as The Washington Post, Self, and NPR. Michelle holds a BA in Psychology from George Washington University. She is also a Certified Matchmaker from The Matchmakers Institute as well as a Certified Body Language Expert from The Body Language Institute.Yes, text messaging doesn't really have any tone, so it's very easy to take things the wrong way. I think first of all, you need to learn how to write with tone. This includes using words like awesome and sprinkling in exclamation points and smiley faces now and then. I also think it's important to give people the benefit of the doubt and understand that you can take things the wrong way. As a rule of thumb, whether it's in person or online, I think positive comments are really important, as well as enthusiasm and warmth.Thanks! We're glad this was helpful.
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About This Article
This article was co-authored by Michelle Jacoby
and by wikiHow staff writer, Aly Rusciano
. Michelle Jacoby is a Matchmaker, Dating Coach, and the Founder and CEO of DC Matchmaking, a privately owned, boutique matchmaking company based in Washington, DC, Maryland, and Virginia. She is also the Co-Founder of The Matchmakers Alliance, an international industry organization for matchmakers. With over 12 years of experience, Michelle specializes in one-on-one matchmaking and group coaching to help singles find healthy, lasting relationships. She has been featured in several media publications such as The Washington Post, Self, and NPR. Michelle holds a BA in Psychology from George Washington University. She is also a Certified Matchmaker from The Matchmakers Institute as well as a Certified Body Language Expert from The Body Language Institute. This article has been viewed 200,813 times.
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