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Is there any truth to right person, wrong time?

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WikiNarwhalBearer592

01/19/25 8:10pm

Okay I was with this guy for about 6 months and I really think we could have been great together, but things just kept getting in the way of our relationship. He had just gotten out of a serious relationship and I think he needed more time to process things and move on. And I am finally hitting my stride with my career and have been devoting a ton of time to work, which made him feel like I wasn't making our relationship a priority. Last week we finally decided to call it quits and while it was the right thing to do, I'm still so frustrated because I feel like it was a case of "right person, wrong time." Does anyone else believe this? Do you think it's true that a "right person, wrong time" relationship can work eventually? Should I give up? I feel like he could have been my soul mate if Life with a capital L just hadn't kept getting in the way.

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WikiMongooseDriver598

01/20/25 10:30am

In my experience, "right person, wrong time" can be true, but it's not ALWAYS true. In my case, when I first started dating the guy who is now my husband, he was still going through his divorce, and it was just...not the time for us to be together. Too much stress and mess. If we had kept dating then, we almost certainly would have broken up eventually.

So we parted ways, did our thing, dated other people, he took care of his business, and eventually...he reached out, I was single, and we started up again. We've been together now 8 years. Bottom line: give it up to the universe, prioritize honesty, and be true to yourselves, and it may work out eventually. Even if you don't get together with this guy again, you'll find someone else--maybe someone better.

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WikiKoalaChaser891

01/20/25 3:49pm

I think "right person, wrong time" can definitely happen! This was the case for me and my now wife. We were separated for 6 years before we ended up together again. We broke up the first time because I was going through some mental health issues that were taking a toll on our relationship. I worked on myself for a few years and then reached out to her when I was in a much better place. She was still single and happy to try things out again, and it was amazing how far we'd come!

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WikiCheetahTamer414

01/21/25 8:08pm

Yeah, sometimes it works that way sometimes it doesn't. To differentiate between "wrong person wrong time" and "right person wrong time" you have to really look at what it was that was making your relationship difficult. If it's a life cirumstance that's likely to be temporary—like moving away, grieving the loss of a loved one, having trouble making time for a relationship because of school/work—then it's more likely that "rigth person wrong time" could be the case. But if someone is abusive or selfish or has some other negative quality that's just part of who they are, it's unlikely that they will be able to change enough in the future to make your relationship work.

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WikiMistWalker669

01/22/25 7:00pm

Don't cling too much to the idea of "right person wrong time"! It can happen, but it might take years and years and you don't want to spend all that time clinging on to hope for something that might not even happen. If your relationship is meant to be, then that person will come back to you, but don't get hung up on it. If you fixate on the possibility of you getting back together then it might keep you from getting into new, better relationships and life opportunities because you're living in the past.

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