What are the characteristics of an ideal man for marriage?

My biggest rule of thumb is, don’t date based on potential . In other words, what you see right now in your partner is who they are. Often, there is a fantasy that the things we don’t like with our partner will disappear once we get married. So the biggest question I’d ask is: would I be happy marrying them as they are today? Do I get my needs met: emotionally, physically, spiritually, and more? There are many struggles and obstacles in life. Can I imagine going through hard times with this person and coming out the other end?

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Husband material is not definitive, meaning it's not the same for everybody. What are your non-negotiables as a single woman? What do you need in order for a relationship to be healthy and fulfilling? I advise you to come up with a list of six non-negotiables: traits that a potential partner must have in order for him to be husband material to you. That list might include things like "hardworking," "affectionate," "spiritual or religious," or "family-oriented." You have to come up with a list that aligns with what your values are and what your goals are and what you foresee as a healthy, happy relationship.

It's hard to say who's the more suitable match without more information, but ask yourself: which man respects you, treats you as an equal, prioritizes you, and shares your values and life goals? Does he listen to you and express interest in getting to know you? Does he have a sense of humor? Moreover, does he treat your sons well (especially if they're still children)? These are some of the most important and ideal traits to look for in a man you want to marry.