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You don't need to be a born extrovert to have a personality that shines with enthusiasm. Developing a cute and bubbly personality can be achieved through a series of small changes in outlook and lifestyle. The best part about maintaining a demeanor bubbling with warmth is that it's all about taking care of yourself.
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Keep a positive worldview. Being bubbly means developing a positive outlook to find the best in other people while lifting their spirits with your attitude.
- Rephrase negative thoughts as positive ones. For example, instead of thinking "I'm so worried about finishing this essay," think "I'm so excited to write a great essay."
- Find the positive things in life. For example, instead of feeling gloomy about a rainy day, situations, appreciate the soothing sound of the rain instead.
- Congratulate yourself on your accomplishments and strengths. Be kind to yourself, develop a sense of pride, and don't compare yourself to others.
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Know how to alleviate stress. No one wants to act bubbly and outgoing when they're stressed out. If you're ever feeling nervous or anxious, take a minute to focus on your surroundings, take a series of deep breaths, give yourself some positive affirmations, and go back into the social situation when you feel ready. [1] X Research source
- Other ways to alleviate stress include meditating and grounding .
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Stay energetic! A healthy get-up-and-go attitude is a must if you want to have the energy to be bubbly and talkative.
- Exercise 20 minutes or more a day. Try activities that keep your energy up without taxing your heart such as yoga, pilates, and light jogging.
- Get at least seven hours of sleep, preferably eight to nine if you can. Make a routine out of your bedtime so getting adequate sleep becomes a habit.
- Eat a balanced diet high in protein, energy-supporting minerals such as manganese, and omega-3 fatty acids. Add some almonds, salmon, beans, and spinach to your diet. [2] X Research source
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Wear cute clothing. Everyone has their own idea of what cute means to them, so do your best to wear outfits that make you feel attractive and confident. You don't need to spend hours in front of a mirror every day, just take the time to choose clothes that brighten your mood.
- For example, wear a t-shirt from a band you enjoy even if most people won't recognize the band.
- Wear quirky accessories that you love regardless of whether they're in style or not.
- Try going to thrift stores to find unique clothing that makes you stand out without breaking the bank.
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Pay attention to hygiene. Even the most sparkling personalities can't go very far without good hygiene. Keep your breath fresh, your body odor under control, and shower regularly so your appearance makes people want to stay.
- Don't try to mask bad body odor with perfume. It won't eliminate the odor but cover it up instead. Keep a clean body first, then add perfume later, if desired.
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Use open body language. Don't cross your arms and legs if you can help it. Look people directly in the eye, smile to show people you're happy to see them, lean into conversations with your body, and don't be afraid to show an appropriate level of affection with people you know well, such as a friendly hug. [3] X Expert Source Eddy Baller
Dating Coach Expert Interview. 7 February 2020.- Crossing your arms and slouching will make you loose closed-up and unapproachable, which is the exact opposite of cute and bubbly.
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Learn to fake confidence. Use assertive, 'I' statements to talk about your feelings and avoid speaking negatively about others. Don't spread gossip either, as this is often indicative of self-esteem issues and tends to isolate others.
- Don't put others down to make yourself feel good. In fact, you can still be confident while complimenting others.
- If you have trouble feeling good about yourself, look at yourself in the mirror each day, and give yourself one small compliment. It can be simple, like your eye color.
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Laugh with ease. Everyone can be self-conscious about their own laugh, but being bubbly means owning that laugh so you can show people you're easy-going. You should only try to crack positive jokes that don't come at other people's expense. Laugh genuinely at other people's jokes, even if they aren't the funniest thing you've ever heard.
- Find the humor in daily life so that you can keep yourself and your friend's spirits lively. Try sharing funny videos or memes every day on social media.
- You don't need to be a comedian in order to have a good sense of humor. If you can't think of a joke, laugh at someone else's joke or find existing humor in your surroundings, like a goofy dog.
- Don't force a laugh. Learn to make your laughs sincere even if you're finding the humor in someone's joke that isn't the best punchline of all time. [4] X Research source
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Be helpful. Finding ways to help people is one of the easiest ways to form friendships. Little things, from helping people carry heavy objects, to larger gestures, such as asking someone what's wrong when they're upset, can be the basis for lasting friendships.
- Remember to be respectful too. If someone declines your self, don't force it, especially if it is something they can clearly manage on their own.
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Consider how your skills can benefit someone. If you're having difficult finding a reason to strike up a conversation, let your own talents do the talking for you. They will remember your kindness and appreciate your willingness to help.
- For example, if you're technologically-minded and someone is having trouble with their computer, offer to help troubleshoot the problem.
- For experienced musicians, give those who are just starting out some lessons or helpful pointers.
- Talented seamstresses can help if someone has an easy-to-fix hole in their clothing.
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Engage with the people you interact with. You can make your personality shine simply by listening to the people you talk to. [5] X Expert Source Eddy Baller
Dating Coach Expert Interview. 7 February 2020. Take a genuine interest in their life and ask thoughtful questions to let them know you really care. [6] X Trustworthy Source Harvard Business Review Online and print journal covering topics related to business management practices Go to source- Work is a major stress on people's lives. If they're clearly dealing with work anxiety, ask them about the problem and inquire into what their work is like.
- Many people often try to hold back strong negative emotions in order to socialize more easily. If someone is clearly holding back tears, allow them to vent to you and listen to their story.
- Ask about a hobby, organization, or club someone is involved with. A great way to get to know someone while showing off your bubbly personality is to engage with someone about their interests even if you're completely unfamiliar with what those interests are.
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Learn to be kind to everyone. Being bubbly means approaching everyone you meet with a kind attitude, even if they're standoffish or a Negative Nancy. While the golden rule may feel a bit like a cliché, it's a standard code of ethics because it's so effective.
- If someone is being nasty or insulting to you, the best defense is to simply say something like "Have a nice day," and then leave the conversation. That way you kept your bubbly, positive attitude without giving them the time to walk all over you.
- Being kind to strangers
is especially important. When meeting someone for the first time, introduce yourself to establish a connection and find something to complement them on such as their clothing. [7]
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Dating Coach Expert Interview. 7 February 2020. - Maintain your existing friendships. Keep track of your friend's birthdays and other special dates, as well as making sure you make time to check up on them and making sure everything is going well in their lives.
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Be respectful. Pay attention to the social norms of the people you're speaking with. Ask yourself questions such as:
- Do they stray away from curse words?
- What are some of their interests that you can relate to?
- Do they make crude and sarcastic jokes or prefer more cordial conversation?
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Create connections between friends. An easy way to turn a group of disconnected acquaintances into a tight-knot social circle is to introduce people you think would appreciate each other's company. A close group of friends also makes it easier to stay in touch with everyone's lives.
- Group together people with common interests. If you know two different people who love the same band or genre, try introducing them to each other in order to strengthen your social circle and expand friendships.
- Starting a club can be a great way to organize people you don't already know around a common interest.
- Study groups are another excellent way to create a group of friends while staying academically productive. [8] X Research source
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- Be genuine. Find a way to be yourself even if you're in new and uncomfortable situations.Thanks
- Be a social chameleon. Talking to people outside of your own social group can open your personality and allow you to be comfortable in a variety of situations.Thanks
- Follow someone you look up to. Think of people who have personalities you want to emulate and try to take cues from them.Thanks
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Warnings
- Don't force enthusiasm. It's easy to tell when someone is trying too hard so make positivity something that comes naturally from your personality.Thanks
- Make time for yourself. It's crucial to give yourself time to sit with your own thoughts so you're not cluttered with social activities.Thanks
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References
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/notes-self/201310/how-relax
- ↑ http://www.womansday.com/food-recipes/food-drinks/g2071/best-foods-for-energy/
- ↑ Eddy Baller. Dating Coach. Expert Interview. 7 February 2020.
- ↑ http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/01/18/tips-lighten-up-laugh-more_n_4619912.html
- ↑ Eddy Baller. Dating Coach. Expert Interview. 7 February 2020.
- ↑ https://hbr.org/1957/09/listening-to-people/ar/1
- ↑ Eddy Baller. Dating Coach. Expert Interview. 7 February 2020.
- ↑ http://blogs.scientificamerican.com/streams-of-consciousness/the-importance-of-being-social/
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To have a cute and bubbly personality, make direct eye contact and smile to show people you’re friendly and approachable. Additionally, to be bubbly, try your best to think about the positive side of things. For example, instead of thinking “I’m so worried about this essay” think “I’m so excited to write a great essay!” When you’re around other people, show your helpful side by asking someone what’s wrong if they look upset or offering to carry something heavy for someone. No matter who it is, try to show everyone you interact with genuine concern and kindness. To learn how to alleviate stress to be more positive, read on!
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