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Bottle up romance, passion, or self-love with simple ingredients and easy rituals
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Need a little more love in your life? Maybe you want to strengthen your bond with your SO, fire up a new flame, win back an ex, or even learn to cherish yourself. Whatever your goals are, we've got something that'll work like a charm—a love charm, actually. Here, we'll present the mystical "love jar spell," a powerful form of magick that's designed to attract any kind of love. While love spells aren't guaranteed to work and aren't backed by science, many casters report that they've noticed success with their practices. With that in mind, we're serving up four potent love jar spells so you can choose one that makes your heart sing.
Things You Should Know
- Use a classic honey jar spell to make your romantic interest sweet for you.
- Try a sugar jar spell to welcome in warmth, pleasure, and excitement.
- Create a personalized love jar spell to customize your love charm.
- Whip up a self-love jar spell to treat yourself like the treasure you are.
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Write the name of your love interest 3 times on a piece of paper. Create a sacred space dedicated to romance—for instance, you might wish to go to your altar and set out a picture of your special someone. Take out a pen and paper, then write the name of the person who you'd like a deeper connection with. Record it 3 times. [1] X Research source
- Think of a fond memory of this individual as you write their name.
- Concentrate on how wonderful it would feel like to be with this person.
- Try out cursive lettering to give the name a romantic touch.
- In matters of the heart, the number "3" symbolizes positivity and growth.
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Jot down your intention on the same page. Take a moment to meditate on what you wish to accomplish: do you want fiery passion, a committed partnership, or marriage? Once your heart is set on your desire, write your wish underneath the lovely set of names that represent your sweetheart. [2] X Research sourceAdvertisement
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Fold the paper 3 times so it can fit in a jar of honey. Take out a jar of honey—it can be any type that inspires you, from a spicy jalapeno blend to a sweet orange blossom variety . Fold your romantic note in thirds so it's small enough to submerge in the honey. [3] X Research source
- When you fold your note 3 times, you amplify the power of the number "3" to draw in luck and abundance. [4] X Research source
- By the way, there's no rule that you have to use honey. Choose any liquid sweetener of your choice. For example, agave nectar represents passion and transformation, while maple syrup symbolizes balance and longevity. [5] X Research source
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Brew some tea and add a spoonful of honey to it. If you're extra fancy, you might want to use a ceremonial teapot for your ritual, like a red cast iron tea kettle. Choose a tea blend that strikes you as auspicious and magical, like vanilla rose tea or a blend dedicated to Aphrodite. Sweeten it with a mouth-watering dollop of honey. [6] X Research source
- Sweeten your tea to taste to represent what you want out of your love life.
- Alternatively, use an amount of honey symbolizes how much help you think you need from the Universe. You might want to add just a teaspoon for a little support, a heaping tablespoon for lots of divine assistance, or even a slathered honey dipper for a big miracle.
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Sip your tea and repeat an affirmation for love. Take some deep breaths to ground and center yourself. Wait till your tea's at just the right heat level, then take your first sip. When you're done, say an affirmation to call in romance. Smile as you enjoy your tea to raise your vibrations and attract love. [7] X Research source
- If you want a crush to notice you, you might say, "Anyone I want desires me."
- If you want the person you're dating to chase you, you may announce, "My paramour always pursues me." [8] X Research source
- If you want a special someone to become your spouse, you might declare, "I will have marital bliss with my beloved."
- You can recite your affirmations as many times as you like—you can even repeat it with each sip of tea.
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Slip your folded up piece of paper into the honey jar. Once you've finished your tea and affirmations, it's time for the final touches of this glorious spell. Pick up your folded up note and submerge it deep into the honey. If you'd like to follow the traditional ritual of a honey jar spell, lick the honey off your fingers for good luck. [9] X Research source
- To supercharge your love spell, say, "Just like this honey, you'll be sweet for me," while you think of the special person you have your eye on.
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Close up your jar of honey and bury it. Screw on the honey jar's lid. If you want to give the magick a boost and achieve a beautiful aesthetic, seal it with melted wax from a pink candle . Brand it with your favorite seal stamp —perhaps one with a heart design. If you have a garden, bury your honey in the earth so Mother Nature can receive your spell and your dearest wish. [10] X Research source
- Since you cast a love spell, a ceremonial burial allows the earth to charge it with grounding energy that will strengthen your connection. [11] X Research source
- It's ideal to bury an enchanted honey jar underneath flowers (especially roses) so they can bless your love spell.
- Keep your honey jar underground and in a spot where it won't be dug up—it should stay there for good. The intent of this love spell is to preserve your relationship. [12] X Research source
- If you aren't able to bury your honey jar, put it somewhere sacred, like a keepsake box that's hidden from view.
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Fill 2 bowls with white sugar. Take out any two bowls that inspire you—they can be cereal bowls that make you think of sharing breakfast with your partner or really posh decorative bowls. Fill each of them half-way with white sugar, which represents pleasure and excitement. [13] X Research source
- Plus, you'll be dyeing the sugar, so the white base of table sugar makes the food coloring a lot easier to see.
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Add 1 drop of pink food coloring to 1 bowl and stir. Take out your favorite pink food coloring —you might prefer an organic brand, for instance—and squeeze out 1 drop into 1 bowl of white sugar. Use a spoon to stir the dye and the sugar together until you've made a blend that's fully pink, which symbolizes love and romance. [14] X Research source
- If your bottle of food coloring isn't easy to squeeze, use an eye dropper to pull out the dye and add 1 drop to the sugar.
- If you want an even more vibrant shade of pink, add more drops of food coloring.
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Add 1 drop of orange food coloring to the other bowl and mix. Pull out your preferred orange food coloring and add 1 drop to the other bowl of white sugar. Use a spoon to mix the dye and sugar together until you've made a blend that's completely orange, which stands for warmth and support. [15] X Research source
- If you want a more eye-catching orange, put in more drops of food coloring.
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Use a mortar and pestle to crush dried roses and lavender. If you'd like to get super ceremonial, take out a mortar and pestle—you can even use a decorative set that's just for your love spells. Add in 1 scoop of dried rose petals and 1 scoop of dried lavender , then crush the beautiful ingredients into a fine mixture. [16] X Research source
- If you want to speed up your love spell because easy hacks are the way to your heart, buy a pre-ground blend of dried rose petals and lavender.
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Fill an empty jar with layers of all 3 vibrant mixtures. Take out an empty jar of your choice—it could be a washed out salsa, jam, honey, or potion jar. Fill your jar with a bottom layer of pink sugar, a middle layer of orange sugar, and a top layer of crushed rose petals and lavender. [17] X Research source
- Leave a little room at the top so you can add a special touch and close the jar.
- Use equal amounts of each of the 3 mixes, or follow your intuition and see where it leads you: for instance, it might just feel right to pour in a little more pink sugar because you crave some extra romance.
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Sprinkle a dash of cinnamon on top. You're practically done, but it's always nice to go the extra mile—add a pinch of ground cinnamon. Shake it into the jar or use your fingers to make your spellwork a little more personal. Cinnamon's great for love charms because it promotes a fiery and spicy attraction. [18] X Research source
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Close up your jar and seal it with pink wax. Put a lid on your jar and screw it on. If you want it to look especially lovely, decorate it with pink wax. To do so, place a pink votive candle on top of it and light it. When it burns out, it'll adorn the top of your jar with a pretty crown of wax. If you'd like, brand it with a seal stamp . Proudly display your sugar spell jar on your altar or tuck it away for safekeeping. [19] X Research source
- A votive candle takes about 15 hours to burn out, so make sure to keep it away from pets, kids, and anything flammable.
- If you want to represent all the colors of your spellwork, place an orange votive candle on top of the jar after the pink candle has burned out. Then, once the orange votive candle burns out, put a lavender votive candle on top of it, light it, and wait another 15 hours.
- The final color, lavender, represents devotion and serenity in love connections.
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Take out an empty jar of your choice. Since this is a personalized jar spell, it all boils down to your preference. Maybe you have a very caliente dynamic with your FWB, so a salsa jar just works. Then again, maybe you want to invite in some domestic bliss, so a used up jar of homemade strawberry jam feels like a safe bet. The world is your oyster, precious spellcaster. [20] X Research source
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Drizzle in your own special blend of herbs. Take a gander at your spice rack and see what whets your appetite—maybe you have your eye on some sage ( for healing ), rosemary ( for faithfulness ), and thyme ( for perseverance ). Or, if you're running a mini apothecary, pull from your own witchy collection. As you fill your jar, make sure to leave room for some fun extras! At least 2–3 inches (5.1–7.6 cm) should do the trick. [21] X Research source
- Here's an example of an enchanting homemade blend: nettle leaf ( for protection ), olive leaves ( for peace ), and star anise ( for a psychic love connection ).
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Add drops of your favorite essential oils. Sweeten the deal even more and level up your love charm with some choice essential oils. For example, because the number "2" represents a partnership, add 1 drop of peppermint oil ( for a serene romance ) and 1 drop of frankincense oil ( for passion ). Then, enjoy the scent of love a-brewin'. [22] X Research source
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Drop in small crystals that inspire you. For some lovely embellishments that will give your spell jar a little sparkle, choose some mini crystals. If you'd like you and your SO to be a take-charge power couple, for example, add a small jade stone and a tiny pyrite : both call in wealth and prosperity. All in all, crystals are a pretty and practical element of any kind of magick. [23] X Research source
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Toss in a few tiny flowers that symbolize love. Harvest them from your garden or pick up the dry variety from an online or brick-and-mortar store. To add color and whimsy, you might throw in a tiny daisy ( for new beginnings ) and a cute little forget-me-not ( for true love ). Regardless of which petaled beauties you decide on, you'll definitely freshen up the look of your spell jar. [24] X Research source
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Say an affirmation to draw in the connection you desire. Now that you've doctored up your custom spell jar just the way you like it, speak your truth! Utter an affirmation that perfectly captures what you want to manifest . For instance, declare, "I am destined for an amazing love affair." You'll infuse your spell jar with your powerful command. [25] X Research source
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Cork the jar and seal it with a unique mixture of wax. Who says you have to use the trademark pink candle for your love spell jar? For a finishing touch with a ton of character, take out a wax furnace . Add in whichever wax beads suit your fancy, heat them up, then scoop them out with a wax seal spoon. Drizzle the hot wax over your corked jar and stamp it with your favorite seal . [26] X Research source
- For example, if you'd like a romance that's sultry and intense, you might mix crimson, copper, and gold wax beads to create a wax that's the shade of fire.
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Write a self-love affirmation on a piece of paper. Before you start, you might want to indulge in your fave self-care ritual to raise your vibes. For example, treat yourself to a spa day; then, cook up some hot chocolate right before you sit down to meditate on self-love. Think about what pep talk you want to give yourself, then jot it down. [27] X Research source
- You might proudly declare something like, "I am my own best friend."
- Alternatively, use a quote, bit of wisdom, or even a line of poetry. For example, maybe you adore an inspiring snippet like this: "I am loving myself out of the dark—Rupi Kaur."
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Roll up the paper and put it in an empty jar. After you roll up your sweet note to yourself, you might wish to tie a precious little red ribbon around its middle—that way, it'll look like a miniature scroll. When you're done, pop it into any empty jar you like. [28] X Research source
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Toss in 1-2 cinnamon sticks. Not only do cinnamon sticks smell great, but they'll look charming next to your rolled-up self-love note. Most importantly, cinnamon sticks symbolize love, luck, and protection, so they're a wonderful way to honor yourself and look out for number one. [29] X Research source
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Drop in a tiny rose quartz or clear quartz. To give your spell jar some razzle-dazzle, choose one of these go-to crystals for attracting self-love. Rose quartz balances your emotional health, releases energy blocks, and dissipates self-limiting beliefs. Clear quartz , on the other hand, amplifies any intention (like "I cherish myself") and promotes inner peace so you'll embrace yourself. [30] X Research source
- Feel like you'd benefit from both of those crystals? No worries—you can totally put each of them in your self-love spell jar.
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Drizzle in crushed rose petals and lavender. This sacred blend of dried ingredients is a must-have for any love spell jar: rose petals represent passion so you'll be thrilled to be yourself, while lavender symbolizes devotion so you'll commit to taking care of yourself. When you fill your spell jar with this fragrant mix, go as high as you'd like. [31] X Research source
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Add 8 drops of lemon juice. Not only is lemon juice super easy to pick up at the grocery store, but it's potent, too. Lemon juice keeps negativity at bay and helps remove energy blocks, so it'll boost your confidence and vitality. As the number "8" represents positivity and longevity, add 8 drops to your self-love spell jar. With this finishing touch, you'll express your commitment to following your bliss. [32] X Research source
- Pour your lemon juice into a glass and use an eyedropper to draw it up and add 8 drops to your spell jar.
- If you prefer, squeeze the juice of 1 whole lemon to tap into all the power of this tart and magical fruit.
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Close up your jar and seal it with pink wax. Screw the lid onto your jar, then set a small pink votive candle onto it. Light it and wait 15 hours for it to burn out—take care to keep it out of reach of pets, kids, and anything flammable. When the top of your spell jar is covered with warm melted wax, brand it with your favorite seal . [33] X Research source
- Show off your self-love spell jar in a spot where you can always see it and reflect on all you offer the world. How about a vanity? Wink.
- All jokes aside, remember—never be ashamed to positively adore yourself!
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