Q&A for How to Admit to a Foot Fetish

If it's the case of a partner not being able to satisfy your foot fetish, try looking for unconventional ways to get your needs met. Some people get that through coaching or engaging with a professional dog, while other people can feel fulfilled by getting a foot massage or by reading dirty stories.

Definitely—it's actually pretty common for partners to not have completely matched interests. In the case of a foot fetish, start the conversation by saying "This is why I like this. These are the fantasies that I have and these are the things I actually want to do." Then, the partner who isn't a fan of the fetish can cherry-pick from a menu of activities what they're comfortable with.

I would try it out with socks first and then work up to telling her that you like barefoot better. Let her get comfortable first.

You don't need to share this info with your parents, or anyone else for that matter. If you feel like you want to talk about it with anyone, sitting down for a one on one conversation may be best.

Don't tell your relatives that you are sexually stimulated by their feet. You will get a negative reply, it doesn't matter how you say it. Keep your foot fetish between yourself and your sexual partners (who should not be related to you).

You can share it with your sexual partners and nicely ask if they are willing to try the things you enjoy. Start small.

It's kinda the same thing, it's more of someone's preference. Just like how different people have preferences for small feet, fat feet, etc., some people have a thing for socks.

Just say no. There is no point in being vague about it. You set your boundaries and that is that. If your friend respects that, then great. If not, be really firm and ask your friend to keep the fetish to people who share it, and you simply do not.

You can tell her if you stay with her to the legal driving age. Until then, presume that it's not appropriate to share such information and may even be overwhelming for her.

Wait until you are both in a romantic mood, then be honest with her about your attraction to her feet.

If you find yourself being attracted to a woman's feet more than other parts of her body, or experiencing sexual fantasies that feature a woman's feet, then you probably have a foot fetish.

It's possible. If she is a good friend, she will accept it even if she doesn't quite understand it.

There's really no reason for anyone but your girlfriend/future spouse to know you have a foot fetish. Some things are better left private.

You could tell her to ask her boyfriend why he wants pictures of her feet. If it bothers her, she needs to confront him directly about it.

Learn to accept it and explore that part of you with someone that is willing to do it with you. Many others share the same fetish as you.

You should return them to him/her and apologize. Don’t do it again because it’s not right to steal anything from anyone.

Unfortunately, fetishes tend to be involuntary, much like sexual orientation, and thus cannot be controlled. What you can do, however, is try your best to avoid your fetish and keep it to yourself.

All you have to do is tell her what you want to do and ask for permission to do it.

That's up to you. If you feel comfortable letting her do that, then go ahead and say yes. If you don't, it's perfectly okay to tell her that.

It doesn't really matter whether you are gay or not. As long as you find a partner who you like and with whom you feel comfortable sharing your fetish, everything should be okay. Just be wary of their reaction to you telling them and respect their boundaries, as they should respect yours (whatever they may be).

Yes, otherwise you will be left unsatisfied and irritated. Talk to your partner and say this with confidence, "I like feet. It's something I need to get off. If you really like me you'll let us enjoy it together." If your partner still is not willing, it might be healthier for the relationship to move on.

It may seem hard, but just be honest!

There are some things you can keep to yourself. Not everyone needs to know everything about you.

Usually, someone who has a fetish cannot orgasm without the fetish. So if your boyfriend needs to see or touch your feet to orgasm, that's a pretty good indication.

Let him give you a foot massage before sex; this is a great way to spice up your sex life as well.

Do you like it because it tickles? Yes, that's normal and acceptable. Do you like it because your dog is showing you affection in a way that is normal for him? Yes, it's normal and acceptable. Do you like it because it turns you on? Whoa! Slow down. It is okay to like the sensation, but it is not okay if you are turned on by your dog. It is called bestiality, and it is both immoral and illegal. Your dog does not feel that way about you and cannot consent. In such a case, seek professional help.

A website that allows you to list information on sexual preferences is your easiest solution. This way, you can find someone who is already okay with it or maybe even attract someone who likes it. Otherwise, you have to build a relationship and ask someone, one-by-one. The latter can lead to more depth, but is very time-consuming.

Only a friend with whom you share sexual activity needs to know. First, try to get comfortable with the fact that you are not a weirdo. If you're okay with something, most people - especially those who care about you - are going to be okay with it. Second, it will lead to questions, so really think out your answers in preparation - know yourself. Then, there's nothing you can do but try. It may prep her to say "I want to talk to you about something that I've been afraid to tell you," so she knows to control her reactions. Then, go slow, revealing what you want her to know. It's a risk but, if you trust each other, it is a risk worth taking. She's going to have to know you sometime.

That is a common thing in all relationships, especially where sex is involved. All that is required is that you revisit the topic. An explanation isn't necessary, but helpful. You can say something like "You know my foot fetish? Remember when you offered to rub your arch on me? I was taken aback. I actually would like you to do that." Even if it has been spoken of before, you can always bring it up like it is brand new.

Yes. In a foot fetish, a person may like any aspect of the foot or the entire foot. With a toe fetish, they like the toes. They may have more than one fetish, including a toe and a foot fetish. Beyond that, no difference. It does not say anything different about a person beyond "this is what is liked."