Q&A for How to Become a Wiccan

Although some people might tell you so, the (vast) majority of pagans believe that you don't have to be a descendant of Wiccan or a witch in order to be one. Wicca is spiritual path and you decide what you believe in. Witchcraft is - as the name says - craft. Some people practise witchcraft and practise makes perfect, as they say. In order to be Wiccan, you don't have to practise witchcraft. They are two separate things. There's a popular phrase in the Wiccan communities: 'Not all Wiccans are witches, and not all witches are Wiccans'.

No spell will make you become a witch, but following this process and being initiated into a coven will achieve your goal.

Start off by learning each corner of Wicca. Learn what Wicca is, when the holidays are, what they mean, etc. Then you can begin to learn about magic -- how it works and how to use it.

Yes. Practice with as many people as you want. Four or more is called a coven.

No, you don't have to join a coven. It's completely up to you. If you want to work alone, that's fine. I would suggest, however, to get out there and connect with the Pagan community at large. It is nice to have physical interactions with others of like mind and you never know, you could learn from them. (Just remember to be cautious of your surroundings and any information you give to others, as there is still a lot of prejudice.)

A book of shadows is personal. Most people tend to have a mix of personal experiences and knowledge of Wicca itself. Consider getting a binder, not a book, because then you can reorganise it at any point and add pages in wherever you think you've missed something. For the actual content, it's completely up to you, but most books have the full Wiccan Rede, information on the deities, things like the Decent of The Goddess and the Invocation of the Horned God, etc., as well as things like the Thirteen Principles of Wiccan Belief. You can also include drawing down the moon, things like colour correspondents, the sabbats, the esbats, and anything else you feel belongs in there.

Any way you want to. There are many ways to celebrate the sabbats, some as simple as planting a flower, or as complicated as a public ritual. Start by doing some research on the sabbats. In our tradition, getting in touch and communing with nature are the goals (to sync your life with the cycles of the seasons). Your celebration could be as simple as meditating in a quiet spot in the backyard.

You could, as long as your parents aren't able to get to it on your phone somehow. I am a closeted witch for the same reason, and I have a book of shadows written in a simple notebook. If possible, you can write a book of shadows in a notebook too and have it hidden away (like under your mattress or something). If you don't want to do that though, then your phone will work fine.

Yes you can! Most of Wicca is symbolic, so any type of alter will do. For the most part, an alter just helps you concentrate on your praying/spells.

Some people are chosen by deities, but this is uncommon. What I did was find a goddess (in my case Brighid) who I felt connected to and I admired. When I first prayed to her, my dog started sleeping at the doorway. Surprisingly, Brighid governs over doorways. Find gods/goddesses that you connect to and admire, and pray, send offerings, make room in your altar. Also, take notice of dreams and small events that deities might be sending your way. Not everything is a sign, but some things are.

Wiccans aren't automatically non-believers in Jesus, though our saint is Aradia. You have some choices here. Cover up the tattoo, or be a Wiccan that believes in Christ's existence and appreciates his teachings.

Yep! I changed from Catholicism and I am now a devoted Wiccan. I serve Aphrodite and Brighid. It takes a lot of courage, but it can be done!

The best way to find out about gods/goddesses and deities is by reading about different backgrounds and even divine historical figures. If something divine catches your eye, look into it and research it. Books are amazing, and Google can be your new best friend!

Spend one month studying, connecting with and being around each element. The one you feel the strongest connection to is your element.

You can study, pray and write in your Book of Shadows.

There is no age limit on religion, but witchcraft should start whenever a person is comfortable and capable of understanding the nature of a belief system.

Perhaps you need to believe in a deity to be a specific type of Wiccan, but to be an Eclectic Wiccan, you don't need a Deity. Choose to be an Eclectic Wiccan or just a Pagan if you don't want a deity.

A wand can be anything- a chopstick, a spoon, anything that you channel your energy through.

Wicca is a religion focusing on the Horned God and Goddess, but witchcraft is a practice that isn't defined by religion.

Nothing is absolutely essential for your altar (including the altar) but there are a tool to help put you in the proper state of mind. The most typical items are salt, water, God/Goddess candles, spirit or fire candle, chalice, incense burner.

All Witches have equal potential, it's just that they have different ways of expressing it, or they have trouble tapping into it. You could still be called the strongest Witch if you express and tap into it the best, but don't take it too literally. Watch out for spirits like that, learn how to do a Cleansing Purification Ritual or Spell, and if the spirits stay, then they're probably good or neutral.

Wiccans aren't allowed to curse people. The threefold law states that what you do unto a person repents unto you three times as much. Otherwise, that's it.

Free-witchcraft-spells.com, books, Wicca.org, Wicca.com, yourself, a high priestess or teacher, etc. Search the library and the web!

You can, but make sure that your partner is fully aware and accepting of your Wiccan beliefs. Otherwise they might cause problems in your marriage over time.

The spirit is probably lying -- there's no such thing as a "strongest Witch." But you could be called the strongest Witch for being the best at tapping into, and expressing, your power. However, all are of equal potential, so don't let this get to your head. Do a Purification Ritual, and see if the spirits keep coming -- that proves that they're good.

There are dozens of different Wiccan traditions out there. In your case though, as you want to (or do) blend different rituals, beliefs etc. to your spiritual path, you are eclectic pagan. Do an online search for 'eclectic witchcraft', 'eclectic paganism' and similar and you'll learn more.

If you choose a deity, it will be because you like it. If you like it, you have a calling for it, which means it chose you. So it's a little bit of both!

Yes. Sexuality is fluid in Wicca, as is gender identity.

Abilities are never given automatically in Wicca. Sure, you can ask for it; doing so increases the chances. But just having respect, belief, and concentration can give you the abilities --- you don't always have to ask.

You could look at spellsofmagick and dragonfeather on YouTube. Both are good.