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What should I do when they partner up?

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You can do whatever you want. For example, you can send them on a date or have them sleep in one bed. When is their relationship really good, they can even have a marriage.

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How do I make a romantic interest in the Sims a boyfriend?

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Make your Sim "propose going steady," and they will be boyfriend and girlfriend.

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What does it mean if there isn't a romantic option?

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If your Sim is a teen talking to a young adult, or vice versa, there won't be a romantic option. This is also the case if the two Sims are related.

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If my Sim is already in a relationship, is there any way to get him out of it?

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Click on the on your Sim's partner that he wants to break up with. Click on the "mean" category, and there should be an option to break up.

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How can I make Sims have sex?

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You can click on a double bed and click "woohoo with..." or you can click on the romantic category of a Sim and click "woohoo with..." and then they can have sex.

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What if they are married?

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If a Sim is already married, they will reject romantic interactions from other Sims besides their spouse.

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How can I get two Sims married in The Sims 4?

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First they need to be boyfriend and girlfriend, as described in this article, then you'll need to get him to propose (under the "Romance" section). After that, go into one of their phones, click "Social event" and then click "Wedding."

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Are same-sex relationships possible in the Sims 4?

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Yes, you just can't try for a baby with them. (There are cheats and mods that allow two Sims of the same sex to be able to have kids though.)

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After you are boyfriend and girlfriend, how do you become engaged?

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When you have high enough romance and friendly levels, there will be an option to propose under romance. Make sure both sims have high relationship levels with each other, or else one might reject the others proposal. Also, sims with a noncommittal trait are more likely to reject proposals.

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Is there any way for children to fall in love, or just adults?

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Only adults can fall in love in the Sims 4 unless you download the child romance mod.

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Why is it so hard to get a boyfriend on the Sims 4?

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It could be because the male Sim has the "unflirty" or "noncommital" trait.

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How can I get my Sims fiance to break the engagement with me?

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Be a total jerk to your undesired fiance. Soon there should be an option to kick him out of your household.

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Can a brother and sister have a love relationship?

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No. They won't be able to.

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What if they get bugged out and they are best friends but have no romance option?

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Try resetting the game. If that doesn't help, go into origin if you're on PC and click the gear icon and repair the game. Doing this won't erase any saves.

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What do I do if I have the highest possible friendship level, but can't see the option for dating/asking to be boyfriend or girlfriend?

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You also have to get their romantic bar up about halfway before you can ask them to move in or date.

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What do I do if there's no option to be boyfriend or girlfriend in the Sims 4?

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The romance bar has to be filled halfway, otherwise it won't work. If the bar is at least half full and you don't have the option, try resetting the game.

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What do you do when they reject your offer to move in with you?

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If the other Sim rejects the offer, they will respond angrily. However, a menu will still pop up, allowing you to merge the households.

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Is The Sims good to play?

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It can be fun for those who are fans of simulator games, as there are a lot of different opportunities to explore and interact with other Sims within the game, it accommodates many play styles, and there are a multitude of different goals. Fans of RPGs will likely enjoy the character development and advancement. However, it may not be ideal for those accustomed to action/FPS games.

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How do I get 2 Sims engaged?

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When you have high enough romance and friendly levels, there will be an option to propose under romance. Make sure both sims have high relationship levels with each other, or else one might reject the others proposal. Also, sims with a noncommittal trait are more likely to reject proposals.

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If they are at 100% romantic and 100% friendships then how to get them engaged?

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Have one Sim choose "Propose" under the romantic category of the other.

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When you create the characters and you make them husband and wife, how would you engage with them?

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You need to have them divorce (mean section), then you can start their relationship over.

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Can you flirt with people older than you, or do they have to be the same age in order to be your boyfriend or girlfriend?

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Teenagers can only do romantic interactions with teenagers. Young adults or older can do romantic interactions with young adults or older. It is possible to have a teenager be in a romantic relationship with a young adult or older, but they can't interact romantically. This happens when two teenagers are in a romantic relationship and one ages up before their partner.

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How do you get to the MC command center?

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Use Ctrl+Shift+C.

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I keep trying to make my Sims go on dates, but after a few seconds, the date just ends saying "unsuccessful". How do I fix that?

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Complete the date goals. They are probably in the top left corner of the screen.

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Can my Sim only date NPC Sims, or can they date other Sims that I made?

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Your Sim can date both. Actually, it is a bit easier to have two Sims that you made date because you can make them both flirt with each other.

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Is there a way to increase the possibility that they will say yes to a date?

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Dates are usually accepted if you have some romance. If you keep being denied, try to build up the pink bar more. However, dates are not strictly necessary for a romantic relationship or even asking them to be your boyfriend or girlfriend.

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Does this work with two teens?

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Yes! However, they will not be able to get married or pregnant without mods.

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What do I do if the Sim is not romantically interested in my Sim?

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In that case, you can't date that Sim without cheats. To make them interested, activate cheats and type in cas.fulleditmode. Then enter CAS for that Sim, where you can change their romantic interests.

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What if your sims have full romance and full friendship, and ask to be girlfriend/boyfriend is popping up?

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This will make your Sims boyfriends/girlfriends. You do not have to do this if you do not want to.

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