Q&A for How to Stop Speaking So Loudly

Yes. Your parents' speaking voices can definitely influence how your own speaking voice develops, so if your dad is loud, that could easily explain why your voice might be louder too.

Dont yell and speak gently. Have a conversation. Extend it. Joke around. Show you are interesting.

Don't repeat anything and speak in a gentle manner, and not too loudly, and don't interrupt.

If more than one person has told you this, it's probably true. Practice your speaking voice when you're alone. Speak quietly and softly. Although it may seem too quiet to you, it is probably a normal volume for most people.

It depends on your surroundings. If you're in a library, be very quiet. If you're in class, it depends on the volume allowed. If you're in recess, you can be loud, but don't scream.

Do your parents or anyone else in your family speak loudly? Maybe that is why you do too.

Pay attention to how you laugh and try to be less obnoxious, try to relax your lungs and throat.

There isn't an app for that as of now, but you could try suggesting that the person you're calling turn down the volume of their phone before beginning your conversation.

Write her a letter or tell her your thoughts in person. Try to make her understand that you don't hate her, but just trying to fix some problems that are bothering you.

Try writing him a letter. This will enable you to better articulate your thoughts.

It depends on the situation. Speaking loudly is not incorrect, unjust, dishonest or immoral. At most, it is undesirable.

It's hard to change habits developed since childhood. Some self-therapy approaches can be: 1) Open your mouth more and exaggerate your speech movements slightly, which will force you to slow your mouth and lip muscle movement. 2) Record yourself speaking with others so that you can compare the difference in your speech and theirs. 3) Commit to change. Observe your speech during the day, say, every hour, to self-assess. For professional help, see an ENT (ear, nose, throat specialist), as you may have a physical reason you are speaking loudly and fast.

No, you shouldn't. That would be rude.

Read part two of this article to learn how to speak pleasantly. In private, try reading from a book into a recording device. Review the recording to find enunciation issues and variances in volume. Even if you never listen to the recordings, this practice may help improve your elocution. You can also buy an inexpensive decibel meter. Try it on a friend who you know speaks at an acceptable volume, then use it while practicing. Perhaps you have unconscious shifts in volume or tend to slide upward over time. If so, observation bias may prevent you from measuring those changes, but watching the meter could help you train yourself to maintain a more consistent volume.

To some extent, this is no big deal, it's just one of those things that makes you you. But if you find yourself doing this in places where it's not appropriate, really try to work on noticing your volume and moderating it as quickly as possible. Ask your friends and family members to help by pointing it out to you if you don't notice (promise them you won't take offense).

Follow the steps in the article, especially Method 3 to determine the source. Consider visiting an audiologist to have your hearing tested.

Go with the "flow." Practice speaking more quietly to everyone/situation. If your job requires others to hear you, don't worry, they will. As long as you are not whispering or mumbling, it will be up to them to catch what you are saying.

Practice talking at a lower volume to train your voice. This may take a little bit of time, and it may help you to practice speaking a little higher than a whisper. Try doing a few breathing exercises at slow rates too.

Being too loud when speaking gives people the sense that you are trying to control the conversation, and that you want to be heard more than you want to hear them. This is not to say that this is actually what is happening, it is about the perception of others around you. To counteract this impression, just lower your volume when speaking, and be sure to make it clear that you're listening to what the other person is saying.

There's really no perfect solution, but you need to have self control. If you don't want to be loud, play a game with yourself and try to act like you're a calm, confident woman/man. If you are calm on the inside, you will be calm on the outside.